Okay, so I recently became a professional phone sex operator, and I'd like some advice from you guys who've called phone sex lines before. I got no training for this job, and I get no feedback from my bosses -- just demands to have a longer call time. I figure that as long as I'm getting guys off, I can look at myself in the mirror the next morning. I hate that they've made this all about how to keep guys on the line longer! My question, though, is when you call a phone sex line, what do you expect to hear? What do you want to hear? What do you hate to hear? Any comments would be greatly appreciated. Thank you . . .
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firefighter02
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Dang..I uh..i mean..I ...so you actually can call someone up for that? And you have to pay them?
All joking aside..I haven't ever called one of those lines, mostly because I have this issue with spending "X" amount of money for some chick (or dude with a chick's voice) faking it for me.
But..... If I did...I would imagine that I would want you to be whatever I wanted you to be... If I was having my horny cheerleader fantasy I would want you to be that...if I was having my nieghbor lady I would want that too....If it was fantasy night about someone(s) from the Lit board...well can you play the part? And can you make me belive it?
As far as things not to say?? "Honey are you ready to cum? My break is in 5 minutes".
Good luck in your new carreer...you are a better man than I am gunga din.....
FF
Hey so...can uh...well uh..ya know..can we have your phone number?
All joking aside..I haven't ever called one of those lines, mostly because I have this issue with spending "X" amount of money for some chick (or dude with a chick's voice) faking it for me.
But..... If I did...I would imagine that I would want you to be whatever I wanted you to be... If I was having my horny cheerleader fantasy I would want you to be that...if I was having my nieghbor lady I would want that too....If it was fantasy night about someone(s) from the Lit board...well can you play the part? And can you make me belive it?
As far as things not to say?? "Honey are you ready to cum? My break is in 5 minutes".
Good luck in your new carreer...you are a better man than I am gunga din.....
FF
Hey so...can uh...well uh..ya know..can we have your phone number?
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Hi, Click on my link below to see what girls/guys like to talk about.
They each mostly work from home talking on the phone.
Hope this helps.
Scotty
They each mostly work from home talking on the phone.
Hope this helps.
Scotty
Those are some very valid points, SexyChele, so allow me to reply to them in order.
1. "phone sex companies are not in the business so that guys can get off"
The ad to which I responded described the job specifically as one which gets guys off. It did NOT say "Now hiring women to wring as much money out of men as they possibly can." If they didn't get guys off, phone sex companies would have no business.
2. "They are a business, and what do businesses do? They make money. Period."
They make money by providing a service. My original query was how I can provide a better service, thereby providing the company with repeat customers, and therefore, more money. Pleasing the customer is basic economics.
3. "This allows them to pay your salary"
I don't know what my company charges the customers, but assuming $1.99/minute (an excellent bargain in this industry!), they would pay my daily salary after 4 minutes of talk time for each hour I'm on the line. Yesterday during an 8 hour shift, I spoke for a total of 330 minutes. I'm not concerned about them making my salary.
4. "If you want to be a woman who simply gets guys off over the phone, then stop by any number of chat rooms and volunteer. I'll bet you'll have at good number of men a week willing to call to have you get them off for free."
Hmmm . . . I don't recall mentioning a desire to work for free . . .
5. "And the sex industry is not about sex - it's about money."
You're right -- it's not about sex. It's about men confessing to me that they're about to have their first three-way with their wife and another guy, and they're both turned on and scared shitless. It's about someone telling me he's ready to take a cock up his ass for the first time. It's about someone crying while he describes how this girl he's had a crush on for forever tricked him into catching her fucking another guy so that he could "see what a real cock is like." It's about 30-year-old virgins, and 50-year-old married men, and 20-year-old kids just back from Iraq. It's not about sex or money; it's about people and comfort.
6. "You have nothing to be ashamed of, so I don't understand the 'looking in the mirror' thing."
Phone sex does not shame me. Taking money for phone sex does not shame me. Taking money from a customer without knowing that I've provided him the best phone sex experience I possibly could does shame me. Which brings me back to my original question -- how can I provide a better phone sex experience? That, Sexychele, is a question to which I welcome any replies.
1. "phone sex companies are not in the business so that guys can get off"
The ad to which I responded described the job specifically as one which gets guys off. It did NOT say "Now hiring women to wring as much money out of men as they possibly can." If they didn't get guys off, phone sex companies would have no business.
2. "They are a business, and what do businesses do? They make money. Period."
They make money by providing a service. My original query was how I can provide a better service, thereby providing the company with repeat customers, and therefore, more money. Pleasing the customer is basic economics.
3. "This allows them to pay your salary"
I don't know what my company charges the customers, but assuming $1.99/minute (an excellent bargain in this industry!), they would pay my daily salary after 4 minutes of talk time for each hour I'm on the line. Yesterday during an 8 hour shift, I spoke for a total of 330 minutes. I'm not concerned about them making my salary.
4. "If you want to be a woman who simply gets guys off over the phone, then stop by any number of chat rooms and volunteer. I'll bet you'll have at good number of men a week willing to call to have you get them off for free."
Hmmm . . . I don't recall mentioning a desire to work for free . . .
5. "And the sex industry is not about sex - it's about money."
You're right -- it's not about sex. It's about men confessing to me that they're about to have their first three-way with their wife and another guy, and they're both turned on and scared shitless. It's about someone telling me he's ready to take a cock up his ass for the first time. It's about someone crying while he describes how this girl he's had a crush on for forever tricked him into catching her fucking another guy so that he could "see what a real cock is like." It's about 30-year-old virgins, and 50-year-old married men, and 20-year-old kids just back from Iraq. It's not about sex or money; it's about people and comfort.
6. "You have nothing to be ashamed of, so I don't understand the 'looking in the mirror' thing."
Phone sex does not shame me. Taking money for phone sex does not shame me. Taking money from a customer without knowing that I've provided him the best phone sex experience I possibly could does shame me. Which brings me back to my original question -- how can I provide a better phone sex experience? That, Sexychele, is a question to which I welcome any replies.
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Shoshana, I think that SexyChele actually did answer your question in part when she said:
"Get them right to the brink and then pull back. Do this enough times, and by the time they get off, they don't care what it cost them!"
The essence of your question is one people have asked for years about a number of different jobs. Where is the intersection between my pride and my employer's income.
You have also already answered your own question to some degree I think, by telling us how important you feel it is to make connections with the customers you speak with. I suggest you give that desire to make connections an honored place in your work ethic. You're probably right that sex may be the medium in which your customers called you, it's the connection you make with them that will keep them coming back.
Oh, and SC was quite right I think in pointing out that going slowly through the sexual build-up while making these connections you want to make will also give your customers a spectacular sexual experience as well.
Good luck.
"Get them right to the brink and then pull back. Do this enough times, and by the time they get off, they don't care what it cost them!"
The essence of your question is one people have asked for years about a number of different jobs. Where is the intersection between my pride and my employer's income.
You have also already answered your own question to some degree I think, by telling us how important you feel it is to make connections with the customers you speak with. I suggest you give that desire to make connections an honored place in your work ethic. You're probably right that sex may be the medium in which your customers called you, it's the connection you make with them that will keep them coming back.
Oh, and SC was quite right I think in pointing out that going slowly through the sexual build-up while making these connections you want to make will also give your customers a spectacular sexual experience as well.
Good luck.
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To expound a little on what you said and on some of the good answers you've already gotten -- do you think your job is to be efficient, then? To get them to come as quickly as possible? I don't think so, not from your posts.
So the answer then, is to go deeper. If you think of yourself as something of a therapist, and it looks like from your last post that you do, then don't you think that person would like to be encouraged to tell you More about whatever is bothering them? Therapists typically take an hour and charge about the same. With your there is even less embarrassment, as they can't see you. Help them do the digging they want to do.
Also, they will tell you if you are moving too slowly for them. More detail, more exploring, can be fun. Teasing, stretching out the sexual experience until it really explodes, is can be good for them sexually And for business.
So the answer then, is to go deeper. If you think of yourself as something of a therapist, and it looks like from your last post that you do, then don't you think that person would like to be encouraged to tell you More about whatever is bothering them? Therapists typically take an hour and charge about the same. With your there is even less embarrassment, as they can't see you. Help them do the digging they want to do.
Also, they will tell you if you are moving too slowly for them. More detail, more exploring, can be fun. Teasing, stretching out the sexual experience until it really explodes, is can be good for them sexually And for business.
This is what I was responding to:
"...just demands to have a longer call time. I figure that as long as I'm getting guys off, I can look at myself in the mirror the next morning. I hate that they've made this all about how to keep guys on the line longer!"
Obviously, you were only venting here. My apologies for screwing up the thread by stating my opinion. I will delete what I've posted.
"...just demands to have a longer call time. I figure that as long as I'm getting guys off, I can look at myself in the mirror the next morning. I hate that they've made this all about how to keep guys on the line longer!"
Obviously, you were only venting here. My apologies for screwing up the thread by stating my opinion. I will delete what I've posted.
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phone sex tips
i've never paid for phone sex, but have used it in a couple of relationships with great success and here's what i'd advise you to try to do.
1. don't SOUND like you're trying to keep the guy on the phone. work your own gimmick and make it a fruitful experience for the guy... he'll stick with you if he's feelin' good about it. if he thinks you're wasting his money he'll bail on you.
2. just because a guy gets off doesn't mean he has to get off (i mean hang up). find a way to keep him interested in talking to you... have him play with himself after cumming or have him play w/his cum or something like that.
3. i LOVE to hear a woman's wetness over the phone... if it's possible, let him hear how wet you are by putting the phone near your pussy when you play with it (or if you're not actually playing with yourself find a way to fake it). i like to hear vibe's going in and out of a pussy too... that sound of a vibe being loud and then muffled over and over again drives me wild.
good luck... and gimme a call if you'd like to give yourself a test run.
i've never paid for phone sex, but have used it in a couple of relationships with great success and here's what i'd advise you to try to do.
1. don't SOUND like you're trying to keep the guy on the phone. work your own gimmick and make it a fruitful experience for the guy... he'll stick with you if he's feelin' good about it. if he thinks you're wasting his money he'll bail on you.
2. just because a guy gets off doesn't mean he has to get off (i mean hang up). find a way to keep him interested in talking to you... have him play with himself after cumming or have him play w/his cum or something like that.
3. i LOVE to hear a woman's wetness over the phone... if it's possible, let him hear how wet you are by putting the phone near your pussy when you play with it (or if you're not actually playing with yourself find a way to fake it). i like to hear vibe's going in and out of a pussy too... that sound of a vibe being loud and then muffled over and over again drives me wild.
good luck... and gimme a call if you'd like to give yourself a test run.
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SexyChele said:
Well, i wish you hadn't deleted, anyway. If she wanted only to vent, maybe changing title to 'phone sex vent'? Otherwise, some of us are also interested in this topic and appreciated what you had to say, which sounds to have been misinterpreted. Oh well. I didn't see anything that called for what sounded to me like unwarranted testiness you got as a response -- but have been known to be testy and to misinterpret on occasion, too.
You certainly took it in better spirit than i would have
Unsure if I'm hijacking or not by saying all this... sigh. Hope everyone is unruffled? IT's an interesting topic. Maybe I'll bring up a previous thread on it later.
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Okay, my opinion and I am very into phone sex, usually, is that good phone sex last as long as it can.
Some of the best phone sex I have had has lasted hours, people who are only looking to get off quick might be better off masturbating by themselves.
once you have a guy on the phone and you listen to his story, you know something about him, what he wants, likes, why he is calling, if you can take that as far and as long as you can because that provides a better experience for the guy. Give him something that makes him smile for days afterwards.
practicing with someone outside of work wouldn't be a bad idea, sure it's for free but you have the advantage of learning without the pressure of being on the job.
I really like phone sex and I get off on it, be I am so person specific and can't get into it with just anyone, I don't know if I could do it as a job, besides $8/hr doesn't seem like much for the energy of dealing with new guys all day long.
okay that is my 2 cents worth.
oh I also think you might seriously look into becoming a therapist or socail worker of some sort, unless you are just looking at your clients in the above manner as a way to make them likable and human.
Noor
Some of the best phone sex I have had has lasted hours, people who are only looking to get off quick might be better off masturbating by themselves.
once you have a guy on the phone and you listen to his story, you know something about him, what he wants, likes, why he is calling, if you can take that as far and as long as you can because that provides a better experience for the guy. Give him something that makes him smile for days afterwards.
practicing with someone outside of work wouldn't be a bad idea, sure it's for free but you have the advantage of learning without the pressure of being on the job.
I really like phone sex and I get off on it, be I am so person specific and can't get into it with just anyone, I don't know if I could do it as a job, besides $8/hr doesn't seem like much for the energy of dealing with new guys all day long.
okay that is my 2 cents worth.
oh I also think you might seriously look into becoming a therapist or socail worker of some sort, unless you are just looking at your clients in the above manner as a way to make them likable and human.
Noor
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Let me just make sure I understand: you're all about performing a valuable public service, not just making MegaSex Industries Inc a load of money? Cuz I reckon MegaSex Industries Inc probably sees it differently.
Look, I got no problems with doing phone sex for a living. You're an adult, they're adults, no big deal. Just don't delude yourself, darling. The people you work for, they're business people, not social workers.
Look, I got no problems with doing phone sex for a living. You're an adult, they're adults, no big deal. Just don't delude yourself, darling. The people you work for, they're business people, not social workers.
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