Pet Peeves..we all have them so come share.

[satindesire]

I can go for it being a gift as long as both sides are a gift, not just submission.

That's exactly what I said, silly girl!

 

[graceanne]

That's exactly what I said, silly girl!

Oh.

Well, it doesn't count until I say it.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Thank you for answering me. I do get the Dom's that tell me I'm not a true submissive, which I never claimed to be lol.

Thanks to everyone else as well for your answers..as always I learned a few more things lol

Heh

That generally means that you don't fit their prescribed fantasy of a sub.

Toss em and move on.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Lizzie, FungiUg, and Graceanne hit on some of the main points.

I'll just add a general observation that quite a few people seem drawn to D/s as a form of escapism from the realities of their day to day existence. Doms and subs are imagined as fantasy versions of the partners they think they've always wanted, as well as the idealized personas that they themselves have always dreamed of becoming.

There's nothing inherently wrong with that, as long as all involved are on the same page with regard to the extent of the fantasy element. However, fans of escapist D/s somehow seem more prone than others to pontificate on the fabulousness of their lifestyle, the true identity of themselves and their partners, perfect trust, ultimate commitment, complete devotion, and the spectacular gift of their submission.

All of which seems not only cloying, but worthy of frequent eyeball rolling, to me. Not because I condemn the escapist version of D/s itself; I don't. It's just that addressing outsiders with these claims seems like an attempt to draw other people into an elaborate form of roleplay. Fine in a club established for that purpose, but irritating in a public venue such as this one.

All this is pretty much the reason I've yet to get my head wrapped around Gor either.

The fantasy. The production. The pageantry.

(Bearing in mind, that's just my opinion based on what little I've seen/read)

It's enough to make me shudder. I don't feel the need to dress it up and make it pretty to hide other issues, or to make it more acceptable to myself.

 

[DirtyPet]

Heh

That generally means that you don't fit their prescribed fantasy of a sub.

Toss em and move on.

I actually had a Dom tell me that it was ok if I wasnt a true sub..he would settle for kinky sex lol

 

[DirtyPet]

I got 3 PMs today..all from men who some how KNEW I was wet and masturbating..I get theses alot and they are becoming a pet peeve lol

 

[Honed_Hunger]

The big three that will make me load the fuck up and ride off into the sunset quicker than anything else are excessive negativity, emotional manipulation and making false accusations against me that are rooted in the lack of trust.

 

[FungiUg]

I got 3 PMs today..all from men who some how KNEW I was wet and masturbating..I get theses alot and they are becoming a pet peeve lol

Ahaha. See this thread: ASSHAT AWARDS: Best of the Worst PMs and Emails Received

I actually had a Dom tell me that it was ok if I wasnt a true sub..he would settle for kinky sex lol

This happens a lot. Both the men settling for kinky sex (girls do it too), and "oh, you're not a true sub". Generally it means that you're not compatible with the other person's idea of what a "true sub" should be (big, black, wet, and filled with Russian sailors for example). It's a compatibility thing... find someone with whom you are compatible, and oh my, suddenly you are a "true sub" or a "real Dom (tm)" in my case.

This sort of thing happens so frequently the joke has become "sumbissives" looking for their "twu dominate".

 

[ownedsubgal]

number one pet peeve: people for whom Dominance, submission and slavery are all nothing but roleplay/fun and games, AND who condemn (or worse yet, flat out disbelieve) anyone for whom this is an everyday way of being and living.

 

[graceanne]

number one pet peeve: people for whom Dominance, submission and slavery are all nothing but roleplay/fun and games, AND who condemn (or worse yet, flat out disbelieve) anyone for whom this is an everyday way of being and living.

I totally thought you'd be putting receiving oral sex on the list.

 

[VelvetSin]

Pet Peeve: People that don't take "nope, all is fine here!" for an answer. I caught an ugly cold last week and had to go to the doctor. He prescribed some vitamin shot to boost healing along, and when the nurse insisted the shot had to be in the butt cheek after a few "my arm will do nicely don't you think?" questions, I peeled down my waistband. She helped herself to a few more inches of skin and then saw a very minor (but nicely healing!) belt mark. Then I sat through ten minutes of questions about whether I needed relationship help and ten minutes of my assuring her that really, no, all is great. No problems. All is seriously just fine! When she insisted upon getting the doctor to talk with me again I finally had to admit the reason the mark was there. I've never blushed so hard in my life and I'm finding a different doctor. B laughed his ass off when I told him.

Pet Peeve: Add "that look" she gave me to my pet peeve list. It was the "oh, you're like THAT" look. All pursed lipped and creased eyebrows. I wanted to punch her.

 

[graceanne]

Pet Peeve: Add "that look" she gave me to my pet peeve list. It was the "oh, you're like THAT" look. All pursed lipped and creased eyebrows. I wanted to punch her.

See, I'd have TOTALLY TMI'd her after that. Just for the fun of it.

But I'm rotten that way.

 

[VelvetSin]

See, I'd have TOTALLY TMI'd her after that. Just for the fun of it.

But I'm rotten that way.

With how she was acting, I was concerned she'd call the cops or a priest for an exorcism. I had to get out of there and won't be going back! Not while she's still there, anyway.

 

[teknight]

Pet Peeve: People that don't take "nope, all is fine here!" for an answer. I caught an ugly cold last week and had to go to the doctor. He prescribed some vitamin shot to boost healing along, and when the nurse insisted the shot had to be in the butt cheek after a few "my arm will do nicely don't you think?" questions, I peeled down my waistband. She helped herself to a few more inches of skin and then saw a very minor (but nicely healing!) belt mark. Then I sat through ten minutes of questions about whether I needed relationship help and ten minutes of my assuring her that really, no, all is great. No problems. All is seriously just fine! When she insisted upon getting the doctor to talk with me again I finally had to admit the reason the mark was there. I've never blushed so hard in my life and I'm finding a different doctor. B laughed his ass off when I told him.

Pet Peeve: Add "that look" she gave me to my pet peeve list. It was the "oh, you're like THAT" look. All pursed lipped and creased eyebrows. I wanted to punch her.

Let me ask you this: what if somebody else had shown up with the same marks, but who is not into BDSM?
Granted, that doesn't warrant "the look", but leaving well enough alone might leave any number of people in abusive relationships.

 

[VelvetSin]

Let me ask you this: what if somebody else had shown up with the same marks, but who is not into BDSM?
Granted, that doesn't warrant "the look", but leaving well enough alone might leave any number of people in abusive relationships.

I didn't lie and say I fell down the stairs or excuse it at all. My initial answer was "it was a consensual sex thing" and tried to leave it at that. After that, I think my assurances that there were no issues should have been enough. I understand why she asked in the first place, but I'm certain I didn't give off any battered woman signals. I couldn't stop laughing at first. I don't think a battered woman would have to wait to answer because she was laughing hysterically. I could be wrong and I'm not trying to belittle any women (or men) that have been in that sort of relationship but I think ten minutes of firm answers that nothing was wrong should have been enough. She pushed until I did sorta TMI her (yanked jeans down the rest of the way to show the marks were just two criss-crosses in a perfect 'X' and said B was feeling artsy, and did she think I'd hold still for that if I didn't ask for it?), then snatched my paperwork she was holding hostage.

I get what you're going for, but there's a limit to the needed persistence if the answers are firm and don't change, don't you think?

 

[NomadLady]

Pet Peeve: People that don't take "nope, all is fine here!" for an answer. I caught an ugly cold last week and had to go to the doctor. He prescribed some vitamin shot to boost healing along, and when the nurse insisted the shot had to be in the butt cheek after a few "my arm will do nicely don't you think?" questions, I peeled down my waistband. She helped herself to a few more inches of skin and then saw a very minor (but nicely healing!) belt mark. Then I sat through ten minutes of questions about whether I needed relationship help and ten minutes of my assuring her that really, no, all is great. No problems. All is seriously just fine! When she insisted upon getting the doctor to talk with me again I finally had to admit the reason the mark was there. I've never blushed so hard in my life and I'm finding a different doctor. B laughed his ass off when I told him.

Pet Peeve: Add "that look" she gave me to my pet peeve list. It was the "oh, you're like THAT" look. All pursed lipped and creased eyebrows. I wanted to punch her.

That is why I do my B-12 shots at home.....

 

[thejabber27]

I have a weird pet peeve, mine is people that eat fast food. The sub places are fine what really ticks me off is the people that are eating Mcdonalds, Wendy's, Burger King, etc. I just can't stand them poisoning their body's like that.

 

[neci]

woops! wrong thread.

 

[FungiUg]

With how she was acting, I was concerned she'd call the cops or a priest for an exorcism.

You missed a perfectly good opportunity to practice your head rotation and lying on the ceiling!

 

[VelvetSin]

You missed a perfectly good opportunity to practice your head rotation and lying on the ceiling!

I hadn't eaten pea soup that day. Damn the missed opportunities! Maybe next time.

 

[Primalex]

All this is pretty much the reason I've yet to get my head wrapped around Gor either.

The fantasy. The production. The pageantry.

(Bearing in mind, that's just my opinion based on what little I've seen/read)

The good thing about kink is that you can pick the parts you like and leave out the rest.

I worship Gor just for the fact that they gave certain body positions labels. It's just so much more handy to say 'Nadu' then "Oh..no..not this way, spread the legs now..yes.....no, no flexed back, show me your tits more...". Okay, for most play scenes it's not that important, but BDSM photography is so much easier when the sub has some basic Gor training...

 

[Sweet_mikayla_grace]

Pet Peeves

men who shave but forget to clean the hair up off the counter and out of the sink.

 

[Warranted]

I have a weird pet peeve, mine is people that eat fast food. The sub places are fine what really ticks me off is the people that are eating Mcdonalds, Wendy's, Burger King, etc. I just can't stand them poisoning their body's like that.

I like eating at the "sub place" too. Especially if / when i find a nice one


Sorry, sorry! I had to!



On a serious note, though, folks who aren't clean. Nothing worse than bad taste / smell. YUK YUK. I've actually ended a relationship with a woman who wouldn't.... clean up her act.... despite repeated rather frank discussions. It's just a deal breaker.

 

[Sweet_mikayla_grace]

n a serious note, though, folks who aren't clean. Nothing worse than bad taste / smell. YUK YUK. I've actually ended a relationship with a woman who wouldn't.... clean up her act.... despite repeated rather frank discussions. It's just a deal breaker.

I have OCD so I can feel where you are coming from on the cleanliness, it would drive me crazy if someone wasn't clean weather it were their person or their surroundings.