perspective

[lala]

ok, everyone is different, and the only way we can have perspective about ourselves is to compare it to others, right?

help me out- and feel free to get off track- it may be just as useful

how often do you cry, or get get upset, angry, have disagreements, arguments, fights, etc. and what do you do about it when you do?

in short, what do you feel and how do you handle that?

thx for any and all input

 

[Gil]

I always feel so silly yelling at the mirror!

 

[Never]

how often do you cry, or get get upset, angry, have disagreements, arguments, fights, etc. and what do you do about it when you do?

in short, what do you feel and how do you handle that?

thx for any and all input

See, a nice new poster and everyone is ignoring her. You are all so MEAN. Tsk, tsk, ahh whatever. I'll answer your questions.

The last time I cried was.. um, 'bout two years ago. Last time I was upset hmmmm, well I was a bit perturbed at a costumer snapping at me today. Okay, next question, angry.. been awhile, can't remember when I was last angry but maybe a month or so, yes, a month or so sounds right.
Arguments and fights? Yes, I argued with the Man in July, late July I believe.. it's been years since I had a fight. Eighth, no seventh, no eight grade was the last fight I had, well 'sort of' fight I just slapped the girl. Disagreements I have all the time. I disagree with almost everything.

I think asking what I feel is somewhat strange, last time I checked all human beings felt the same way. As for handling 'it' I think I handle my feelings well.
Does that help?
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Fa? Where's Fa?

 

[lala]

well, Never, it doesn't make me feel normal, if that's what you mean by asking if you helped, i cried yesterday. as for helping me aside from that, i'd like to see how people are,

i am a very passionate person- i feel everything to the full extent, right then and there, and i wear my emotions on my sleeve- so in short, i'm very childish at times,....

it's nice to know that maybe i can grow up and won't always be so suceptible to my emotions- it gives me a goal,... yes you did help, you helped me think more about this,.. thank you!

 

[Mustang Sally]

Like you said lala, everyone is different. Are you hoping to figure out if you're normal? (What is normal, anyways?) If this is something that really concerns you, you should maybe consult some kind of expert. You can't possibly get a useful gauge in a forum like this.

I'm a very emotional person. Sometimes I embarrass myself by crying at the slightest provocation and the most inappropriate times. But not always. Sometimes I have a better grip on it than others. I cried myself to sleep the night before last for no good reason.

I don't often get truly angry. I avoid arguments and fights like the plague - I'll probably end up in tears, and I HATE that.

There are SO many different kinds of upset. I'd have to say I get upset fairly often, but I usually get over it quickly.

So now you have both ends of the spectrum: Never the Robot, and Emotional Me. (just kidding Never, btw)

 

[Never]

Well, maybe you're not normal.
Trying to be normal when you're not will result in failure both if you succeed or if you don't. Try not to be normal; you're obviously a natural at it.
Did something sad happen yesterday? Sad things hardly ever happen to me so I do not need to cry.
Now, you'll notice that it's people who do not wear their hearts on their sleeve that call such behavior 'childish'. These are the people who write books so they can clobber others over the head with them and therefore, they are not to be trusted.

Haven't you ever read the lesson of the Moth?

XXV

the lesson of the moth

i was talking to a moth
the other evening
he was trying to break into
an electric light bulb
and fry himself on the wires

why do you fellows
pull this stunt i asked him
because it is the conventional
thing for moths or why
if that had been an uncovered
candle instead of an electric
light bulb you would
now be a small unsightly cinder
have you no sense

plenty of it he answered
but at times we get tired
of using it
we get bored with the routine
and crave beauty
and excitement
fire is beautiful
and we know that if we get
too close it will kill us
but what does that matter
it is better to be happy
for a moment
and be burned up with the beauty
than to live a long time
and be bored all the while
so we wad all our life up
into one little roll
that is what life is for
it is better to be part of beauty
for one instant and then cease to
exist than exist forever
and never be a part of beauty
our attitude toward life
is come easy go easy
we are like human beings
used to be before they became
too civilized to enjoy themselves

and before i could argue him
out of his philosophy
he went and immolated himself
on a patent cigar lighter
i do not agree with him
myself i would rather have
half the happiness and twice
the longevity

but at the same time i wish
there was something i wanted
as badly as he wanted to fry himself

archy

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archy is a cockroach
lala a note to follow so


[Edited by Never on 09-27-2000 at 11:29 PM]

 

[lala]

i enjoy wisdom- thank you Never
sometimes so much passion is the best thing in the world, sometimes it is the worst, that is what it is to be passionate,...

"sometimes it feels like there is so much beauty in the world, i fell like i can't take it"

i think i've decided to like it,... for tonight

 

[Adoratrice]

ok, everyone is different, and the only way we can have perspective about ourselves is to compare it to others, right?

help me out- and feel free to get off track- it may be just as useful

how often do you cry, or get get upset, angry, have disagreements, arguments, fights, etc. and what do you do about it when you do?

in short, what do you feel and how do you handle that?

thx for any and all input

I usually let upsetting things that pertain to me build up and then lose it on something that is removed from myself, such as hearing a story on the news about a child being killed.

I mostly get upset about things in life...not just mine.. that I can't control...or that don't make sense...predjudice, hate crimes...child molestations

When it is something in my life that upsets me it is usually when I have been misunderstood, I can't stand for someone to take something I say the wrong way. Also when someone makes me feel stupid , I cry.

I used to get in fights in grade school....mostly protecting my little brothers. I very rarely get into arguments these days and when I do it is with my older sister who is hardheaded so it mostly consists of me trying to convince her that I am right.which I am.

I don't cry that often but when I do it seems to hit me in an instant and unexpectedly, like I said usually after other things have been building up. the worst is when I really don't want to cry so it just kind of swells in my throat as if I am choking.

You said it was okay to get off track...think I'll take you up on it...

Sometimes I feel as if I am percieved as "cold"...you have know me to understand this...a lot of history...
cliff notes: I grew up with a very abusive mother...left home at an early age, had children, felt that she had no place in my childrens lives, so I havn't seen or talked to her in 10 yrs..my little brother still talks to her & I know where she lives if I so desired to see her. Anywho...she is quiet ill now, in the hospital...for the most part I don't feel the need to see her....most people I know have a hard time grasping the fact that I don't even talk to her let alone the fact that I could let her die with this unresolved. I have lived for so long telling myself and everyone else that she didn't matter to me that I have started to believe it...but I know the truth & have not yet had the courage to speak it out loud... I fear facing her, I fear facing the raw emotions that will be in my face just being in the same room as her,I fear feeling pity for a weak, broken, ill old woman who when she was young & strong beat me so severly when I was 8 that she broke my collor bone and later 2 ribs.I fear hearing the words " I wish you were ever born" ringing in my ears, I fear remembering what it was like to cry myself to sleep wondering why she didn't love me & thinking that if I could be just a little better tomorrow then things would change,
I fear that she still has power over me...
...I fear forgiving her.

 

[lala]

adoratrice, i like you.

as for your mother, you know what to do, and everything happens in its time, as long as you don't fight the timing, it will be right. do what you have to do- i'm sure you always have. you are beyond her now,... someday you will need to feel the end to this, let's hope it's before you can't,...

*hugs*

 

[Always]

ok, everyone is different, and the only way we can have perspective about ourselves is to compare it to others, right?

help me out- and feel free to get off track- it may be just as useful

how often do you cry,

once a week

or get get upset,

every day

angry,

every day

have disagreements,

every day

arguments,

every day

fights,

twice a week

etc. and what do you do about it when you do?

whatever i feel like doing... mostly bitching about it to my cat. something i stand in fron of the mirror and contemplate just hoqw much i hate everything, but mostly i just get pissed.

in short, what do you feel and how do you handle that?

thx for any and all input

hey, no prob... i like questiosn like this. gets the ol' gray matter goin.

 

[Gingersnap]

YOU ARE NOT YOUR EMOTIONS FOLKS

They are fleeting and varying. A "normal" person will have a regular rocket ride through feelings in a given day. My particular way of dealing with them is sometimes funny sometimes weird. I get annoyed easily some days but when put into the context of my job it is normal. I work in a life death situation often. It is the nature of a critical care unit. Humor is essential to my mental well being as are tears. To argue with passion is routine and I never back down if I know in my heart and gut it is right. I learned a long time ago to listen to everyone they all have something to teach you. I also learned when all else fails to trust that there is a God. Believe me there are no atheists when death comes knocking. It is the nature of people to want to do the right thing. If I could not believe that I could not do my job. Hope that helps you a bit. Kinda rambled on a bit I know. I lived with people who lied most of my life. I tend to state everything plain out. If I wonder something I ask. If I am troubled by it I talk about it. Some people may call it confrontational I call it honest.

 

[lala]

gingersnap, i'm a little confused, your subject said you are not your emotions,but your post showed that indeed they are a very crucial part of our everyday lives,... which is it? yes we can make decisions against our emotions, but they are a part of us, as you said, a part that shouldn't be ignored,... which i agree with