Performing Cunnilingus: Dominant or submissive

[ownedsubgal]

For me:

Sex: (in the wide polymorphous sense of all things erotic) Y
Orgasms: Y
Other people: neutral - just who are we talking about? Mostly I don't want other people harshing my masturbatory happy place.

heh. i had a college friend similar to this...and actually she would describe herself as asexual, since she had no sexual interest in men, no sexual interest in women, no interest in romantic bonding period, but boy howdy she sure loved to masturbate. would talk about it all the time, and was quite a lusty thing. the lust just never seemed to go beyond her own parts, lol. one thing i never asked her but always wondered...what the heck is she thinking about while masturbating?

 

[ownedsubgal]

That's cool; you're entitled. That's your sexuality. Sometimes you get defensive about not liking orgasms, though, and you really don't need to be.

that's true, and while i'm certainly not ashamed of or uncomfortable with that aspect of my sexuality, the defensiveness is kind of a frustrated emotional response to constantly being stamped with the freak of nature/sexually dysfunctional label when sharing it with others. as i get older i'm sure i'll eventually care less.

 

[Netzach]

heh. i had a college friend similar to this...and actually she would describe herself as asexual, since she had no sexual interest in men, no sexual interest in women, no interest in romantic bonding period, but boy howdy she sure loved to masturbate. would talk about it all the time, and was quite a lusty thing. the lust just never seemed to go beyond her own parts, lol. one thing i never asked her but always wondered...what the heck is she thinking about while masturbating?

I'm not that committed to my introversion, that's pretty cool though - God it sure would make things easier sometimes.

I generally don't. Think. It's a generally boring world of light sound smell and free association like "oh it's cold in here and there's dust on the ceiling" - I know that's a joke about bad sex, but for me it's where my brain is during great sex.

Fantasizing is usually when I'm actively not aroused and tends to be more of a planning what to do with T or M kind of thing. I am victim of those pesky romantic attachments at times. My sadism with H is not a "boy this makes me come" kind of thing at all, it's another drive.

 

[Netzach]

Now it sounds like I'm totally never a giver which isn't true. I'm a fantastic giver - I think I can relate to the frustration with being in a giving frame of mind and then someone coming along and pestering you about your own orgasms, it's like, fuck off!

With T, this is why rope is a good invention. Because I will eventually make him fuck off and let me do things to him, as he eventually makes me fuck off and does things to me.

 

[Daddysledgwalkr]

it's a very fleeting sensation of butterflies in the tummy

i've never experienced an orgasm that was a just fleeting sensation of butterflies or in my tummy.

my orgasms are very strong spasms that bring tremendous release and when my Daddy makes me cum again and again and again it sometimes makes me cry and laugh at the same time in a wonderfully good way from the release.

Your position is understandable ... i don't think i'd be real thrilled with them either if that was all i got out of it.