Performing Cunnilingus: Dominant or submissive

[midwestyankee]

oral ain't oral if there are no teeth involved.

What, you have something against folks who wear dentures and like to take them out for sex?

 

[Stella_Omega]

So much hate and poison in a single sentence.

You're reading things that don't exist into that sentence.

 

[Bandit58]

Yeah, I know what you mean... I've got other things that do that to me, though not quite to that extent.

Being on top being one of them. xD

I'm on top a lot. Mainly because of Sir's back pain but also because He likes to watch me play with my clit or nipples. I don't feel like I'm in a dominant role when I'm on top, rather it's because He likes me to (and I like it as well ).

When it comes to performing oral on me, He likes to 69 (me on top again) so it also includes g spot stimulation....I have drowned Him more than once Again it is visual stimulation for Him (and a bit of humiliation for me, knowing He can see absolutely EVERYTHING )

I'm not big on giving oral to women, but love sucking cock. My female partner prefers "hands on", she seems to only orgasm with a lot of pressure on her clit (she's almost crushed my hand on more than one occasion ). I do like it when she goes down on me, but orgasm more easily with her fingers (she made me squirt for the first time with her the last time we were together).

 

[where]

This could be a strategy.

tying her up? totally. it takes away the burden of having to be a screaming wanton at the touch of tongue when all you really want to do is focus on how those nerve endings are eventually going to spiral you into orgasm.

What, you have something against folks who wear dentures and like to take them out for sex?

damn right! keep 'em in and do that cute clattering thing with them on the cunt lips.

 

[NomadLady]

no way. if i didn't pipe up in these threads, it would be nothing but people going on and on about how much they freakin' love it. a different perspective needs to be heard/read.

A different perspective is one thing.....your irrational fears are a totally different subject. If you can't take what is dished out in a thread, you should move on.

 

[ownedsubgal]

A different perspective is one thing.....your irrational fears are a totally different subject. If you can't take what is dished out in a thread, you should move on.

irrational fear? since when does discomfort with and/or disgust with something equate to an irrational fear?

 

[NomadLady]

irrational fear? since when does discomfort with and/or disgust with something equate to an irrational fear?

I was speaking of your irrational fear of Stella....

 

[rekane]

btw...you could not make me do anything...not being my Owner, a regular user, or even in my general vicinity. if i were to be unfortunate to come across someone with your intentions, i would make every attempt to run away, or if that failed, simply cause myself severe physical injury, before anything you so graphically described could occur. but if it does anything for you, i'd much sooner eat barf than pussy. for me they would be basically one and the same, just with the barf you are mercifully skipping the human interaction part.

I think this counts as irrational fear. Threatening self-injury because of an imaginary scenario seems a bit drastic, no?

 

[ownedsubgal]

I was speaking of your irrational fear of Stella....

ah! LOL!! i have no fear of Stella, seeing as how we shall never meet and would never interact if by some weird chance we did. the scenario e described was quite disturbing and revolting to me (which clearly was the intent), and i responded to it honestly. imaginary or not, that is not something i can even joke about.

 

[NomadLady]

ah! LOL!! i have no fear of Stella, seeing as how we shall never meet and would never interact if by some weird chance we did. the scenario e described was quite disturbing and revolting to me (which clearly was the intent), and i responded to it honestly. imaginary or not, that is not something i can even joke about.

You still don't seem to get the point....you over-reacted to something that "in your own words" would never happen. Not to mention if you are a sub and have never gone down on another woman and you never want to then your opinion on whether cunnilingus is a dominant or submissive behavior is pretty much irrelevant....

 

[Stella_Omega]

No, I thought her original question was a good one. Of course, after it got answered, she restated it to make it clear she was talking about herself. Since she wanted personal, I gave her personal-- I tend towards service topping, after all.

It's a hot scenario, though. I don't think I could actually do anything genuinely non-consensual, but-- I'm going to write it into a story. And maybe play it out in a scene someday.

question for you, ownedsubgirl, could you be forced to come from your master's oral attentions?

 

[ownedsubgal]

You still don't seem to get the point....you over-reacted to something that "in your own words" would never happen. Not to mention if you are a sub and have never gone down on another woman and you never want to then your opinion on whether cunnilingus is a dominant or submissive behavior is pretty much irrelevant....

as someone who has received oral sex and is actually a submissive, my opinion is relevant. now whether or not it is interesting to you of course, is an entirely different story.

 

[ownedsubgal]

question for you, ownedsubgirl, could you be forced to come from your master's oral attentions?

no, that particular act places my body in its most unaroused state. very tense, very dry. but i have never been forced to orgasm at all, my body simply doesn't respond that easily and my mind lacks the desire for it all. therefore my last orgasm was many years ago...oh and it was from being fucked.

 

[Stella_Omega]

no, that particular act places my body in its most unaroused state. very tense, very dry. but i have never been forced to orgasm at all, my body simply doesn't respond that easily and my mind lacks the desire for it all. therefore my last orgasm was many years ago...oh and it was from being fucked.

Thanks for the answer.

Do you consider yourself a sexual (orgasms regardless) person?

 

[ownedsubgal]

Thanks for the answer.

Do you consider yourself a sexual (orgasms regardless) person?

yes, very. just not a horny person. do you consider yourself a sexual person?

 

[Stella_Omega]

yes, very. just not a horny person. do you consider yourself a sexual person?

Yes, and I consider my sexuality to be a fulcrum of my personality-- it's always in the forefront of my mind, always a motivating force. If I don't get my daily minimum requirement of vitamin O, I get crabby-- not to mention at risk for depression if it keeps up.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Yes, and I consider my sexuality to be a fulcrum of my personality-- it's always in the forefront of my mind, always a motivating force. If I don't get my daily minimum requirement of vitamin O, I get crabby-- not to mention at risk for depression if it keeps up.

that's how i get if i don't frequently have the opportunity to serve and be used sexually.

 

[Stella_Omega]

that's how i get if i don't frequently have the opportunity to serve and be used sexually.

Yep. Of course for me it isn't about me being of service.

I can take care of my own orgasms whenever necessary, which is a useful thing for my needs.

 

[KoPilot]

yes, very. just not a horny person. do you consider yourself a sexual person?

You know, you're the only other person I've "met" that is similar to me in that respect.

Having sex every day? Yeah, bring it on! Climaxing every day? Ehhhh. If I'm with him, and his goal is to get me to orgasm, then sure. Masturbating every day? No way~

Although, S has told me to do it more often, so now it's probably once a week instead of once a month. :3

 

[Stella_Omega]

You know, you're the only other person I've "met" that is similar to me in that respect.

Having sex every day? Yeah, bring it on! Climaxing every day? Ehhhh. If I'm with him, and his goal is to get me to orgasm, then sure. Masturbating every day? No way~

Although, S has told me to do it more often, so now it's probably once a week instead of once a month. :3

I'd say both of you are examples of one subset of the New Breed of Asexuals.

I am NOT.

 

[sb2009]

Is there a new breed of Asexuals? I wonder myself....it seems that through conversation, etc, I'm seeing a lot of people (women in this case, I personally haven't talked to a man who was like this) who are very much "meh" about sex and orgasm in general. First sexual experiences tend to be when in early 20's and really, say they just don't see the big deal.

At first, I just wondered if they didn't have the right partner or didn't know how to orgasm. But wow, I'm so fucking sexually obsessed, and have been since puberty, that I almost can not imagine not caring about sex.

I'm NOT saying it's a disorder, I'm just saying it's so far away from how I am, that it's like a foreign language.

 

[KoPilot]

Is there a new breed of Asexuals? I wonder myself....it seems that through conversation, etc, I'm seeing a lot of people (women in this case, I personally haven't talked to a man who was like this) who are very much "meh" about sex and orgasm in general. First sexual experiences tend to be when in early 20's and really, say they just don't see the big deal.

At first, I just wondered if they didn't have the right partner or didn't know how to orgasm. But wow, I'm so fucking sexually obsessed, and have been since puberty, that I almost can not imagine not caring about sex.

I'm NOT saying it's a disorder, I'm just saying it's so far away from how I am, that it's like a foreign language.

That's where it gets weird for me, is that I'm obsessed with sex too. I'm always look at or drawing things I find erotic, always window shopping on toy/fetish sites, sending S nekkie pix, etc. It's just that the big O isn't the main attraction, if that makes any sense? It's okay if it doesn't, it barely makes sense to me. xD

Bringing oral back into the equation... it feels super nice, and coming from it is pretty cool, but I don't ever find myself craving it. I like it because it puts me in small headspace; feeling subjugated or physically inferior needs to permeate every sexual interaction I have (even if it's all in my own head). Fortunately, cunnilingus makes me feel that way. :B

 

[ownedsubgal]

i'm definitely not "meh" about sex! i adore sex, crave sex, NEED sex. sex is very much a huge deal in my world. i just don't care about having an orgasm...in fact very strongly prefer not to, EVER. an orgasm does nothing to enhance the sexual experience for me. it's a very fleeting sensation of butterflies in the tummy (now that is "meh"), which brings with it embarrassment, mild guilt, and momentary distraction from serving and pleasing my partner...absolutely not worth it, absolutely not desirable.

there's nothing asexual about me, "new" or "old." something all asexuals have in common is a lack of interest in, or desire for sex. i would say that both my interest in sex and desire for sex is far greater than that of the average person. lack of interest in sexual arousal or orgasm does not equate to lack of desire for sex itself.

 

[Netzach]

For me:

Sex: (in the wide polymorphous sense of all things erotic) Y
Orgasms: Y
Other people: Meh -neutral - just who are we talking about? Mostly I don't want other people harshing my masturbatory happy place. The finer the person the more I'll perk up and pay attention.

Mainly, I love orgasms, and there's nothing I can stand less than an inept person trying to give me one. I'm remarkably impatient and undemocratic about my pussy.

The idea of my sexuality being a service to someone else at my own expense - well T can elicit that more than anyone else, but the force is not strong with this one when it comes to that. In fact it's a pretty fucking immense turn off. I tend to forget the other person is there when I'm having a good time altogether.

The idea of other people's sexuality being of service to me at their expense - more often than not this is more trouble than it's worth. M and T don't send me into a DIY tailspin at least, being adept.

Multiple person sex and orgasms are sort of separate issues for me.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

i'm definitely not "meh" about sex! i adore sex, crave sex, NEED sex. sex is very much a huge deal in my world. i just don't care about having an orgasm...in fact very strongly prefer not to, EVER. an orgasm does nothing to enhance the sexual experience for me. it's a very fleeting sensation of butterflies in the tummy (now that is "meh"), which brings with it embarrassment, mild guilt, and momentary distraction from serving and pleasing my partner...absolutely not worth it, absolutely not desirable.

there's nothing asexual about me, "new" or "old." something all asexuals have in common is a lack of interest in, or desire for sex. i would say that both my interest in sex and desire for sex is far greater than that of the average person. lack of interest in sexual arousal or orgasm does not equate to lack of desire for sex itself.

That's cool; you're entitled. That's your sexuality. Sometimes you get defensive about not liking orgasms, though, and you really don't need to be.