Penis Size Dilema

[Svenskaflicka]

Stepping on toes

First of all... Thank you, Knightstalker, for standing up for me. That's very nice of you.

SlickTony... the girth was proportional, that is to say, it was a wee bit thicker than a pencil.

Now... Wickywoowoo... I gather that you're kind of bitter because women around you don't want to have sex with you because of your small penis, but I really think it's wrong of you to take that out on me.

First of all, you don't know me, you don't know the situation I was in (because I chose not to reveal that to the world), and you don't know what that guy said or did that made me want to hurt him BACK. Yet, you take it upon yourself to scold me like I was a naughty child. That is disrespectful to me as a grown-up individual. True, you have the right to say whatever you feel like, but in a case like this, when your opinion is not even asked for, why bother? Why not mind your own buisness?

Maybe your small penis is not the only reason why women stay away from you. That bitter attitude towards women combined with the attitude that you have the right to jump on people and scold them because you don't like their opinions, may be contributing factors to them not finding you attractive.

 

[pinklipstick]

I'm very confused as to why men would think women wouldn't be interested in them because of penis size. I can't remember the last time I whipped out a ruler and asked a man to drop his pants when he approached me for conversation. Nor have I ever responded to an invitation for dinner with "what's your cock dimension?" And quite honestly, by the time we're hitting the bed, I'm making love to the man, not just his weenie.

 

[clairepenn]

Let's see.

Wickywoowoo (gotta love that moniker) can't stand women and claims he's not into guys. So no matter how you slice it, he doesn't like sex.

Dude, if you hate sex this much, why the hell are you hanging out at a sex site????? Isn't that kind of masochistic? (Actually, I take that back...To say that is an insult to the BDSM'ers on the board.)

 

[clairepenn]

Re: Missed Opportunity

Why would you only want to EXCLUSIVELY use penetrative sex while lovemaking? What a waste of a glorious opportunnity! Surely it would be better to stimulate her whole body AND mind, that way you will get much greater satisfaction.

I don't get anything out of having intercourse. My "female parts" are all fucked up from endometriosis. If the guy is too big, he has to be careful not to penetrate me too deeply or it hurts. At best, I don't feel anything, though I do derive emotional pleasure from giving my lover pleasure.

All of my sexual pleasure comes from clit stimulation. To be quite frank, I'd rather have a 3-inch guy who really knows how to eat the box than some 10-inch oaf who just wants to look for the hole and stick it in.

I've read that only 8% to 10% of women can orgasm from intercourse alone, so these "problems" of mine might not be problems at all.

I write stories about guys with huge cocks because that's what my audience wants to read. I write a lot of gay stories, and gay guys want to read about big ones. A lot more so than str8 women do.

 

[Wickywoowoo]

Let's see.

Wickywoowoo (gotta love that moniker) can't stand women and claims he's not into guys. So no matter how you slice it, he doesn't like sex.

Dude, if you hate sex this much, why the hell are you hanging out at a sex site????? Isn't that kind of masochistic? (Actually, I take that back...To say that is an insult to the BDSM'ers on the board.)

1. I don't have females, I just the stuck up morons that insult guys for stupid reasons
2. I like guys, but only as friends, I have no interest in males in anything other than friends
3. Problem there, I don't hate sex, considering I have never had it, i can't hate it, and I can't have it, cause all the females like to insult me. If any of my friends had the internet, I could give you there email address, I am not an angry person unless my bi polar syndrome is kicking in that day, I just get very annoyed with stuck up women, like women do with guys who love big tits, it is just the same

 

[Svenskaflicka]

If a man prefers women with big breasts, that's his buisness. If he wants to lose out the opportunity of meeting nice women just because they have too small breasts, that's his problem.

And if I prefer to have sex only with well-equipped guys, that's up to me to decide. If someone argues that I risk missing out on nice guys that way, no, I don't - but I keep them as friends, not lovers.

 

[Guest]

do women tend to compliment guys on the size of their dicks no matter what size it is to make the guy feel better?

how long is long? how thick is thick? how small is small?

 

[LoneOne]

What is average?
OK, we have 3' and we have 9' that makes average = 6
Oh my god my penis is a little bit to small

This girl who tells everyone about your size Wickywoowoo, how old was she? Some people don´t think about what they do. Look, if nobody wants you, maybe they don´t deserve you.
You´re living in a small town, good, I´m living in a small town, too. Take the bus or your car and visit the next best city, not everyone on this planet has heard the story.

I don´t have this penis-size dilema, in fact I have other problems but out of an psychological point of view they are nearly the same.
As a child I was, let´s say I was fat. 80 lbs overweight, and comments by some people drive me crazy over time.
My self-estem and confidence went down the toilet.
And the comments brainwashed me, today I´m 6'4'' tall and only having ~35 lbs overweight, but damn every time I meet a nice girl I can´t flirt with her because of this little men sitting in my ear and whispering "You´re to fat, she will never love you, never, never, NEVER"

This is the real problem, I´m in need of a person who loves me like I am, but I can´t get behind this damn just-talking thing. (I´m a very good listener and so many girls/woman telling me their stories,problems etc. sometimes I´m like a hobby-psychiatrist for them I think)
When I get behind this just-talking thing (very rarely) they say that I´m friendly and nice but not physical attractive to them.
God, this is like a shot right through my sefl-estem

I hope you have a good friend or so, talk with him/her about your problems, a relative would be good. (Not in my case, they only make fun about my problems) This must be a person you trust, ask him/her if she will help you to break this curse.
As a person who suffers manic-depresiv attacks (this is Bi-polar syndrome, or?) you need some very good friends.

BTW. I´ve heard that when you are overweight (more then 20 lbs) and you lose this weight you can gain 1 inch in penissize.
Don´t know if this helps you...
(playing rugby/making sports, I think you are an sportsmen so this isn´t possible for you, or?)

 

[princessa]

oh my GOD!

(and don't you dare get on my cause you're an atheist or something... it's just a common expression)

how did this thread get so twisted?

i remember back in june when it was originally a "my idiot of a boyfriend want me to lie and say he's the biggest i've ever seen" to a "i'm tiny and no woman will look at me, please pity me"???

guys and egos... <sniff>

so, there are shallow women who only see something like size in having sex, but there are real women who see beyond things like mere appearances too... you might have had a bad experience, well, i'm sorry... but go out and find someone else... keep looking because not ALL women think one way (come on, ya think we're made with cookie cutters?)

now, everyone has their hangups... but real people know what they are and try to get over them...

and to certain people on this thread: stop sniping at each other... just put it down to fundamental thought differences between men and women... then LET IT GO!

 

[LoneOne]

Oh, damn I forgot the question...

Say him the truth and that size is insignificantly, it´s the person you love. If I had a girlfriend (good, I woulnd´t ask such a question)
but I think that would be a good answer, but never say something like my ex was better in bed. If he ask for that just show him how he could be better, there are many ways to get a men quiet.

However, I know my problems and I´m try to get over them at the moment

 

[Wickywoowoo]

thanks for your help, i know what most of you say is right, but when you have the problems I have, that don't really seem to help much, it's like having a big boulder stuck on your leg, you know you need to move it, but you can't

Knowing the solution & actually doing it are very different things, but thanks for helping

 

[skinnylust]

you girls that dont like small or average size cocks leave the guys that own them alone. unless you're out to fuck up their heads.

go out and find yourself a big one and stick w/him.

as you might be able to tell by my user name, I totally love super thin women, but, I would NEVER tell a woman she was fat.


how would you like if guy/guys said to you, "eeeeww your fat and nasty!! my ex was soo thin she looked like a model"

"you're not thin like you think you are" I think i'll knock you down a notch, and tell you the truth.


It would'nt be too pleasant would it?

 

[SlickTony]

It's amazing how men and women seem to go around lying to each other. Men probably really prefer women who are a nice armful, and women don't care that much about cock size, and if they were honest, would probably enjoy sucking a normal to small size one than one of the legendary horse cocks that seem to be all that gets written about in most of the stories.

 

[emark1]

posted the stats before, but for the record:

interesting stats

Some interesting things to ponder

most studies show the majority of erect penises to fall between 5 - 6 inches in length, and 4-5 inches in circumference.

According to a small survey published in Maxim 3/99:

average size of penis when:
- flacid: 3.5 L x 3.9 circumference
- erect: 5.1 L x 4.9 circumference

I thhink a more thourough study, and one that gives slightly different answer and a good idea of the populations distribution is brought to you courtesy of the Lifestyles Condom folks:

Length:

<5" 11%
5.1 - 5.9" 51%
6.0 - 6.3 15%
6.4 - 6.7 10%
6.8 - 7.1 8%
7.2"< 5%

Girth:
<4.4" 17%
4.5 - 4.9 34%
5.0 - 5.2 24%
5.3 - 5.5 17%
5.6 - 5.9 7%
5.9< <2%


So: what we really have here is the average weeny postings, not teeny weeny postings.

Great job fellas, and take heart, you are in the same boat with the majority of people around you. It is likely that guys with larger units are more likely to post to columns like this. Stop comparing yourself to porn stars.

Another interesting factoid. I think it was found in Masters & Jonsons' research, but it is a stretch to pull this from memory. It is well rumored that Black men have larger penises than white men. In a way this is true. If you compared the white vs. black bell curves you would find the edges on both ends of the bell curve to be larger for black men. That is to say there are more black men with abnormally large, and abnormally small penises, and thus a smaller % with average sized penises.

Good luck one and all, and ENJOY what you've got.

One other thought, an earlier post was correct in sighting that the majority of women's nerves are in the first 2" of the vagina was correct. Nevertheless, you will find women who prefer Girth to length, length to girth, those that like a cervical bump, those that wince and whine when you hit the cervix, etc etc. Some womenn like hairy guys, some women like Big dudes, etc. etc.....

So, even i you are successful stimulating a woman to "O" she may prefer something she had before whether it is technique or size related. Every body has preferences, opinions, whatever. Some women say an average Penis is best for all around enjoyment (oral, vaginal and anal) others would argue a different point. So what...

You will date many people over the course of your "career". Be cheerful and fun and spontaneous and happy and creative, listen and seek suggestions or input from a partner.

Don't be childish and think you can't have a meaningful relationship with someone if you are statistically small.

For every guy hung up on this there is a woman looking at her ass in last years jeans, or her chest, or her tummy in wondering why she isn't Britney or Cindy or Paulina or whatever....

One thing would seem certain, if you approach women and life with the attitude some angry people are exuding here, you won't ever succeed. People perceive that they need all sorts of things, Money, power, sweetness, spontanaiety, athleticism, outdoorsy types, studious types, Whatever. Acheive your dreams, use your strengths, let someone be turned on by YOU BEING THE BEST YOU YOU CAN BE.

Goodluck

 

[Quimmy]

Woohoo, actual data finally. Nice post too.

The problem with that data (the condom studies, etc...) is that under-sized guys don't jump at the chance to show off their stuff. (they usually set up testing tents outside bars and stuff, to attract groups which provide the most reliable data). That means that the numbers might be a little too high, maybe? Or else, they got clever, and corrected the numbers by 10% or something.

Oh, might as well ask, as I'm curious. How does one measure girth? Is that length across the top at the base? Or circumference? Radius? Any ideas?

 

[glock800]

Oh, might as well ask, as I'm curious. How does one measure girth? Is that length across the top at the base? Or circumference? Radius? Any ideas?

i could be wrong but i belive that its the circumference

 

[Quimmy]

Yeah, I kinda figure it's the circumference, since 4'4" across the top would be pretty big. And the top echelon, 5'9" would be like have a third leg in the middle.

So I guess one would have to have some measuring tape handy. Bah! Too much effort.