Penetration Problems

[Maximumtest]

I am having problems penetrating my girlfriend, she says it's b/c i am too wide and her vagina is too tight. Even putting just the head in hurts her too much to carry on. Now i'm not the biggest guy in the world by a long stretch and i've also never had a sexual partner before her. She has had 2 previous to me and says they were smaller than me and she had no problems having penetrative sex. We have tried fingers to loosen her up and using lubrication. Nothing seems to work though and she gets very upset and blames herself thinking that she's not able to give me pleasure and/or satisfaction. When in fact she does both in other ways. Can anybody suggest how I can resolve this problem

Many many Thanks

 

[Maximumtest]

Bump.... I really really need help

 

[sheath]

Hey, there.

This might be generic advice, because I had this problem once, but it's been one hell of a long time. But anyway, here goes. I hope it helps.

It sounds like you are both doing things right...using fingers to stretch her, lube, etc. You might want to simply go back to the drawing board and treat her as if she were a virgin. Relax her, spend TONS of time on foreplay, maybe share a glass of wine or two.

If you haven't been together long and she isn't very comfortable with you, she could be tensing up. Is there something that bothers her about sex? How well do you know one another? No matter what you try, if she isn't comfortable with sex, it's going to be difficult.

If it continues to be this difficult, you might want to consider getting a doctor's opinion. There are conditions that can cause a woman to tense up so much that penetration is impossible. Exploring that possibility and ruling it out would be a good idea if things don't get better.

And by the way...I checked out your pic thread after I read this question, and the truth is, dude...you ain't small. So...GO SLOW. Use one hell of a lot of lube. And get her very, very hot before you try it. One or two orgasms with your fingers or mouth first would be a GRAND help.

She will get adjusted to you...with lots of patience.

Good luck!

S.

 

[Maximumtest]

Thxs

Thanks for all the incite. Part of the problem is that we only see one another for 4 or 5 days every 8 weeks right now. This is die to us living in different countries. I was thinking of getting her a toy so she could get used to penetration. She quite likes the idea.

 

[Rubber Biscuit]

Sheath's got the good pointers. Get her good and worked up, take your time, and don't make it a pressure situation. Keep it fun! It may help for her to get on top, then she can control the depth and pushing.