Passion..........

[Touch1]

I was having a discussion the other day about passion. In a long term relationship, what happens? Does it mature into something else, change, go away or what? What do you think?

 

[Stout chap]

You can keep passion, but it is very difficult to do so. The old consummate love theory can be looked at: if both parties reciprocate commitment, intimacy and passion then it should run on for ever and ever. Doesn't always work out like that though. I've been with my girlfriend for years and years and we're still passionately in love, more so, I think, than at first.

 

[Guest]

Passion fruits are yummy.

I keep my passion internal.

 

[Tungwagger]

Passion occurs when the planets line up, and both have sufficient sleep, and a level of horniness.....

It also helps if the kids are off doing something, or a babysitter and a hotel room have been lined up....

Other than that I have a passion for golf.......

 

[Touch1]

You can keep passion, but it is very difficult to do so. The old consummate love theory can be looked at: if both parties reciprocate commitment, intimacy and passion then it should run on for ever and ever. Doesn't always work out like that though. I've been with my girlfriend for years and years and we're still passionately in love, more so, I think, than at first.

I agree, although my track record doesn't support it!.

 

[sufisaint]

passion should tuern to compassion which leads to a whole deeper level of emotions and growth...at least thats the way I wish it to be...

 

[juicylips]

Interesting question.

Lust is a cousin of passion. Lust grabs your attention. Passion keeps it there.

I feel lust often. Passion so very rarely.

Maybe it, too, evolves into another emotion as the relationship progresses.

 

[Touch1]

Interesting question.

Lust is a cousin of passion. Lust grabs your attention. Passion keeps it there.

I feel lust often. Passion so very rarely.

Maybe it, too, evolves into another emotion as the relationship progresses.

That's the way I feel. It does seem that when you're in a new relationship, you can't wait to be together, deep kisses, and strong desire to tear each others clothes off and kiss each other everywhere. But as time goes on and you get to know each other, the sense of urgency morphs into a knowing trust. Like now you know they are there and you don't have to hurry. And unless each person in the relationship works at keeping passion a focus of being together, it gets pushed to the back as all the other stresses of life crash in.
Is there any way to rebuild passion once it's changed?

 

[juicylips]

And unless each person in the relationship works at keeping passion a focus of being together, it gets pushed to the back as all the other stresses of life crash in.
Is there any way to rebuild passion once it's changed?

I think you just answered your own question. Usually when a relationship is new the stresses of life are minimized. Later they are front burner and passion takes a back seat. It takes work. Lots of it. Making time for one another and getting to the place where you are honestly interested in your partner again. You hang on every word and what he/she wants supercedes everything you desire.