Outcome of Assplay

[BreadMan]

This is breadmans wife. I just wanted everyone to know the outcome of our assplay. I was a little uncomfortable with it and to tell you the truth it really damn hurt. Hubby was into it alittle more that I was. Can anyone recommend a good strap on that is not a monster???

 

[MR.GGG]

HUH?

You're not clear. ""He was into it more than I was"" Which one of you ""really damn hurt" ? If it hurt him but he was "into it" then that's what he was looking for. If the thrusting gave you a big bruise on your pubic bone get a nice chunk of foam for next time. If he wants it to hurt and as long as it isn't you that it hurts - what the F. Do'im. Just think the more you screw him up the ass the less likely he'll die of protate cancer....pefforated bowel maybe but rub d'at prossie.

 

[ClubIrish]

Does it have to be a strap-on?

What about something else?

 

[Chicklet]

an ex of mine and i used a dildo...just an ordinary dildo...he liked it

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I think she's saying it hurt her... in her ass.. while he fucked her there and he enjoyed it.


Breadman's wife, try more lube... and preparing the asshole first (sounds bad I know).. use some fingers and whatnot, or even a tongue before you go straight for his dick. remember, that's a much smaller opening than your pussy.

 

[SexyChele]

I think Willing and Unsure has got what she is talking about. But, Breadman's wife, exacting "revenge" is not the route to go, believe me! (Though I would like to try that on a few men in my past!)

Just a few things to keep in mind should you want to try this again:

1. Relax! Difficult, I know, if your first experience was not good. But it can be accomplished. Use soft lights, maybe a glass of wine, massage, lots of touching, fondling, a few orgasms.

2. Let him orgasm early. If not, most men are too eager to cum to want to take this slow, and it needs to be done SLOWLY.

3. Lube. And lots of it. Lots and lots and lots and lots. Stay away from petroleum jelly. Try to get silicone based lube - it's thicker and lasts longer. Although if water based is all you can find, that is okay as well. Just be prepared to used a LOT of it!

4. First use fingers, vibes, dildos, whatever to get used to the feeling of something being "back there".

5. Get into a position where YOU have control. You should be the one determining how far, how fast, how deep things get. You can do this either on hands and knees "backing into" him, or with you on top. He should NOT move unless/until you tell him to.

6. As he enters you, push out as though having a bowel movement. This is the biggie most people miss, and makes for a most uncomfortable experience. By pushing out, you relax the muscles around the anus making entry easy. You will be surprised at how easily he may just pop inside. Rememeber - LUBE and LOTS of it!

7. Once the head of his penis is inside STOP! Get used to the feeling. Feeling stretched is common, and usually diminishes after a few moments. Feeling "full" is another common feeling. Doesn't hurt, just feels different. He should NOT move! (This is why this is easier if he has already had an orgasm)

8. You ease onto him. If it hurts or feeling uncomfortable, have him use more lube. Try moving back and forth gently to spread the lube around. After each progression of him entering you, stop and get used to the feeling.

9. To heighten the feeling, have him finger your clit or use a vibrator on it - this will detract from the feeling of being full and stretched.

10. When YOU feel comfortable, begin to move against him. He should stay still, and let you do all the move. He should NOT thrust! That can come later, if/when you both feel comfortable. But in the beginning, this should be your show, your movements, your comfort.

11. If anything hurts at anytime, stop and GENTLY pull away. Be certain you do not yank away, or that he does not pull out too quickly. That can be just as painful!

12. Anal sex is seldom accomplished the first time out. Some are really lucky with this and I envy them. It took several tries, even from the man who truly showed me how wonderful it could be!

13. If you decide to use a strap on with your husband anyway, follow the above steps as well. If not, you could really injure him, especially with a strap on - remember, they are a harder substance than the real thing, and just ramming it into him could cause serious injury!

I truly do wish you all the luck!

 

[Quimmy]

I did it for the first time 2 weeks ago with my girlfriend. I was shocked at how successful we were... I hear stories around here and it sounds like climbing Mount Everest. She said it hurt a bit at the start, but she really enjoys it after a few seconds. Here's what I did:

1. I started by eating her out and fingering her pussy a bit. Yum.

2. With other hand, I sucked on my own pinky then rubbed the anus a bit to wetten it, then slipped the pinky in. No problem.

3. When that is nice and loose (shouldn't take long), suck on your ring finger (the next thickest) and slowly put that in, instead of the pinky.

4. Of course, the middle finger is next and should go in deeply, as slow as possible. It took a while before I could insert 2 fingers, and I'm not even sure if it's worth the effort, since a penis is much more aerodynamic (analdynamic?) than 2 fingers...

5. I, being kinky , licked her asshole a lot too, and kinda "spit" inside it, trying to get some saliva inside it. Worked semi-well, I guess, but I think most of the spit just dripped down. Lube would be better, but in the heat of the moment, we had none.

6. I put my penis in slowly. It might've taken a minute or two, to work up to full insertion. I think the timing here is very important. I just rubbed the hole with my penis and gently pushed it in a centimeter at a time, pausing to ask her how she was doing. She was laying on her stomach on the bed, during this.

7. After that, we had sex for the better part of 30 minutes or so. I didn't cum, unfortunately. But I got so tired of fucking, I pulled out and fell asleep in her arms. Not the perfect ending, but sometimes, I just can't cum.

We'll definitely do it again sometime. It was a lot of fun. But I'd also say that it probably isn't for everyone (mostly referring to the woman involved). My girlfriend happens to be "into it" so that helps her enjoy the whole experience. We didn't use lube either... and I wasn't particularly gentle. And she loved it. (probably more than I did, although she'd be hurt to find that out ) It just goes to show that how different and wonderful all women are.

I haven't got her to do anything to my ass yet (I would love that though, mmm) but I think we'd follow a similar process.

 

[hotNnasty]

This is breadmans wife. I just wanted everyone to know the outcome of our assplay. I was a little uncomfortable with it and to tell you the truth it really damn hurt. Hubby was into it alittle more that I was. Can anyone recommend a good strap on that is not a monster???

Oh hell and I thought she meant he ass fucked her and it hurt her so she wants breadman to us a strapon (dildo would be better) in her that wasn't as large as he so she could get use to it.

LOL I'm so confused

 

[SexyChele]

Re: Re: Outcome of Assplay

Oh hell and I thought she meant he ass fucked her and it hurt her so she wants breadman to us a strapon (dildo would be better) in her that wasn't as large as he so she could get use to it.

LOL I'm so confused

Now, that you mention it, could be....

A strap on for men? Now, that would be something I've not seen yet....

 

[cliffchuff]

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[SexyChele]

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You need to get one with two straps under the groin as most have a single strap, One strap goes either side of his equipment and he can double-dip you

Now, I like the sound of that! Thanks, cliffchuff! Learn something new everyday - and this one I like!

 

[EnigmaMe]

I think she's saying it hurt her... in her ass.. while he fucked her there and he enjoyed it.

Then why does she need a strap on if her hubby has a dick?

 

[ClubIrish]

Then why does she need a strap on if her hubby has a dick?

Good question

I don't know???

 

[lovechild27]

Hey...if you keep trying and dont like it...its OK! Maybe anal isnt for you! And if your not mentally comfy with the idea, it will make being physically ok with it even harder.

 

[lovechild27]

Then why does she need a strap on if her hubby has a dick?

So she can use it on her hubby!

 

[BreadMan]

Then why does she need a strap on if her hubby has a dick?
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Good question

I]I want a strap on so I can give as well as recieve.[/I]

 

[Quimmy]

I want a strap on so I can give as well as recieve. [/B]

And the strap-on hurts you, while giving it to your hubby?

That doesn't sound right. Make sure it's secure and use some extra padding.

Maybe switch to a dildo after that, if it's still painful for you and he wants it. The sensation should be the same for him.

 

[bozinka]

FYI - I have had numerous ass experiences... not all good. I think it depends on YOUR mood too, a lot, and how prepared you are.

1. I prefer to be fingered first.
2. I prefer to start on top, so I can control the speed and depth. Once it's in, we can turn around or whatever - it may be akward for a moment or two, but it's worth it to not have the pain.
3. If it hurts.... STOP! Relax, kiss, touch, and decide if you want to try again, or move on to other things....


NOTE - NO MATTER WHAT - ASS PLAY SHOULD BE LAST.... YOU CAN CAUSE MANY PROBLEMS FOR THE WOMAN IF YOU SWITCH BACK AND FORTH FROM ASS TO VAGNIAL SEX.... Wash in between, or use a condom, or better yet - both.

 

[EnigmaMe]

Even if you use a condom during anal sex, you have to switch to a new condom or go without before switching to vaginal sex.

 

[bozinka]

Even if you use a condom during anal sex, you have to switch to a new condom or go without before switching to vaginal sex.

Oh yes, that's what I meant, but thanks for clarifying... guess I wasn't that clear.. LOL

 

[SlickTony]

I'm glad I wandered in here. I've read so much about butt sex that I'm curious to get into it more. However, I am plagued with butt problems, a result of carrying two big kids: prolapse, hemorrhoids, a rectocele. I'm not even sure it's safe for me. Does anyone else have this problem?

My husband and I have experimented with various kinds of dildo and probe. We once had a straight double dildo, but found that if the angle was right for one of us, it wasn't right for the other, and we eventually got rid of it. Also, he found it to be too large. We also have the kind of dildo that has a sort of harness around the hips and a long dick for whoever's catching and a short one for whoever's pitching (moi). However, he says that's also a bit big for him, and even though he gave every evidence of enjoying it, I also discovered a few blood spots on his jocks later on, which made me nervous. Currently we are using a slim probe advertised as a "starter," which works OK. Has anybody used those U-shaped double dildos?

I have noticed that ad for fisting lessons that appears on some of the Literotica screens, but there never seems to be a good time to go in there.

 

[bhambabygirl]

just our experience

He loves anal...so i give it to him whenever he wants it...here are some things i have learned.....

mood matters...
relax....
enjoy yourself...

he likes to make me cum vaginally first so that I am more relaxed for the anal...

lay on your back with your butt on a pillow or two at the edge of the bed...have him stand up by the bed...it does give him better leverage, but it also allows him to push without putting as much force behind it...

if you are on your hands and knees, try masturbating..it does help a lot....some of my best orgasms cum this way...

most of all, make sure you have open communication...even though we both enjoy it, some days I just cant do it, no matter how bad i want to...we will try, but it will hurt, and when i tell him to stop, he will, clean himself, then return to vaginal...

the only lube we use is my juices and his spit...but we didnt start that way...and as for the blood on his shorts...sometimes if my hon gets a little excited he can get a little rough, and i dont notice anything amiss until you notice blood...as long as it is minimal, and goes away in a day or so, and doesnt cause major discomfort, it really isnt something to worry about...sometimes the anal tissue will tear a little, but it heals quickly...the easy tear factor is what makes protection so important if your partner is not a longterm monogamous partner or if you are unsure about your partners STD status and history...

good luck in future play