Ourageous Promises & Demands

[littlegirlslut]

Was this his first contact with you?!

Fourth. The first was a nice hello on the site. The second was an email. The third was a chat online. Then I got the email.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*sighs*

Y'all get such interesting ass-hats. No one bothers to throw themselves at me, demand my attention, offer to service me and my household, make outrageous promises, demand bizarre treatment...

I get the occassionaly "Nice tattoo" and one, count 'em, ONE! actual interested party. And that's between Collarme, Alt, MingledHearts, _and_ Lit...

I must be boring. Or to real to meet the fantasy fodder expectations of the wanking set. Or something...

One day though, I'm sure to get an ass-hat message!

 

[JMohegan]

Anyone else?

I have no experience with online Personals sites. However, I have received unsolicited offers in a physical setting, from women who are strangers or casual acquaintances.

The most outrageous contain a variant of the phrase, "I have no limits."

My response to this assertion varies, depending on whether I believe the statement is borne of genuine naivete or a disingenuous attempt to seduce.

 

[satindesire]

I have to say, this thread has had me tearing up from the first.

I've had my share. Especially on Alt. Jesus, you'd think those poor 'doms' out there had better heads on their shoulders.

I've had quite a few 'kneel bitch' messages. I usually quite politely send them a message saying that in no certain terms would any decent sub just bow to that kind of bullying, and not to contact me again.

There's been a few times I've had to block men just because they can't take 'NO' for an answer. The 'ass-hats' (God, that term just SLAYS me!!) slowed WAY down when I took my pictures off the profile. They see a pretty face and they just lose their cheese.

Evil Geoff, that's quite a tatoo. I'm one interested party...would you like your floor to be vaccumed, and a mercedes bought for you?!

 

[Hester]

this is why i don't do personals. i'd rather be alone.

 

[saw_man1]

I see I'm in good company.

Beyond the usual assortments of liars, 3 woman I've met stand out in my mind. The most bizarre of these was a woman I met through alt. We chatted for a few weeks and everything seemed fine. She would make the occasional off the wall comment but nothing that I couldn’t chalk up to her being over eager. I set up a lunch meeting at a great restaurant in Buckhead called The Fish House. To set the scene properly you should understand that this is a high end restaurant and one of the best in Atlanta. I pull up, hand the attendant my keys, and start walking to the door. I stopped dead in my tracks when I see her dressed completely in black leather including collar, kneeling by the front door. I was so dumbstruck that the only thing I could think of was to ask her what the hell she thought she was doing. She replied in a very matter of fact manner that she was waiting for me. I made her stand up and follow me around the corner. It was there that I proceeded to tell her all the reasons that her behavior was unacceptable in mixed company. She started crying and then the crying turned into what we in the south call the snubs. I was starving so I made her take the collar off and we proceeded inside. Unfortunately, the afternoon went downhill from there. She refused to order for herself. I couldn’t even get her to tell me what kind of food she liked. She wouldn’t take a drink or the first bite of food without asking permission. She asked permission to go to the bathroom and I was so aggravated I told her no. She wouldn’t even eat desert because she said she wasn’t worthy of it. After lunch I told her that I did not think we were a good fit and that I would not be in contact with her again. She looked at me and with no emotion said, Okay, I understand.

 

[Etoile]

this is why i don't do personals. i'd rather be alone.

Aw. It doesn't have to be either/or - that's one of the reasons social clubs exist, and speed dating, etc.

By the way folks, I've got the world's biggest dating asshat: When Tools Attack

 

[saw_man1]

Aw. By the way folks, I've got the world's biggest dating asshat: When Tools Attack

Darren should do the right thing and end his own miserable existence. That was bizarre and I'm sure a little scary for her.

What a pathetic loser.

 

[Etoile]

Darren should do the right thing and end his own miserable existence. That was bizarre and I'm sure a little scary for her.

What a pathetic loser.

I wouldn't advocate suicide, but perhaps castration would make life more comfortable for him, because he's not getting a date anytime in the next 100 years!

 

[shy slave]

I see I'm in good company.

Beyond the usual assortments of liars, 3 woman I've met stand out in my mind. The most bizarre of these was a woman I met through alt. We chatted for a few weeks and everything seemed fine. She would make the occasional off the wall comment but nothing that I couldn’t chalk up to her being over eager. I set up a lunch meeting at a great restaurant in Buckhead called The Fish House. To set the scene properly you should understand that this is a high end restaurant and one of the best in Atlanta. I pull up, hand the attendant my keys, and start walking to the door. I stopped dead in my tracks when I see her dressed completely in black leather including collar, kneeling by the front door. I was so dumbstruck that the only thing I could think of was to ask her what the hell she thought she was doing. She replied in a very matter of fact manner that she was waiting for me. I made her stand up and follow me around the corner. It was there that I proceeded to tell her all the reasons that her behavior was unacceptable in mixed company. She started crying and then the crying turned into what we in the south call the snubs. I was starving so I made her take the collar off and we proceeded inside. Unfortunately, the afternoon went downhill from there. She refused to order for herself. I couldn’t even get her to tell me what kind of food she liked. She wouldn’t take a drink or the first bite of food without asking permission. She asked permission to go to the bathroom and I was so aggravated I told her no. She wouldn’t even eat desert because she said she wasn’t worthy of it. After lunch I told her that I did not think we were a good fit and that I would not be in contact with her again. She looked at me and with no emotion said, Okay, I understand.

Truely bizarre!!

I would have walked away had she done that to me.

People are strange.

As for Darren OMG!

Where do you find this stuff Etoile?

I feel very lucky that the people I met when internet dating were either very normal or very dull.

 

[Etoile]

Truely bizarre!!

I would have walked away had she done that to me.

People are strange.

I would have too! Saw_man, did you get any indication what the restaurant staff thought of her? Even if she was kneeling outside the entrance, you mentioned valets, so presumably somebody saw her. My goodness, what on earth had this girl been taught? Could she have come up with this herself?

As for Darren OMG!

Where do you find this stuff Etoile?

LOL, I know! Thank goodness for the internet so we can all give this guy the ridicule he deserves. And he's a CEO and a former SEC official, too, so I bet he thinks a lot of himself...he needs to be taken down a peg anyway!

 

[shy slave]

LOL, I know! Thank goodness for the internet so we can all give this guy the ridicule he deserves. And he's a CEO and a former SEC official, too, so I bet he thinks a lot of himself...he needs to be taken down a peg anyway!

Oh that makes it even funnier.

Can you imagine if someone rang him and said 'One of your employees won't date me now I want them to pay half the dinner bill'

From an employment front he can't do a damn thing, from a psycho- front I dread to think what would happen to the employee.

But I hope she would sue his ass under employment regs from here to Christmas!!!!

 

[incubus'_sub]

You know, Saw Man, that what's really sad about the kneeling woman is that some idiot pretend Dom has probably told her that that's how a true sub behaves.

This is what I see as the main problem with online relationships. They bear no resemblance to real life in way, shape or form. Then, when people finally take the steps into real life they behave in bizarre, stupid & embarrassing ways.

A sub friend of mine used to message me using the YOU/you, ME/me crap & when I said to stop it, it's bloody annoying, she was quite offended. Apparently she'd be TRAINED that way. gggrrr !!!

 

[A Desert Rose]

You know, Saw Man, that what's really sad about the kneeling woman is that some idiot pretend Dom has probably told her that that's how a true sub behaves.

This is what I see as the main problem with online relationships. They bear no resemblance to real life in way, shape or form. Then, when people finally take the steps into real life they behave in bizarre, stupid & embarrassing ways.

A sub friend of mine used to message me using the YOU/you, ME/me crap & when I said to stop it, it's bloody annoying, she was quite offended. Apparently she'd be TRAINED that way. gggrrr !!!

I'd love to see you bloody annoyed. LOL

 

[AngelicAssassin]

This is what I see as the main problem with online relationships. They bear no resemblance to real life in way, shape or form.

Right ... that's why we've got a few recent r/l meet and greets progressing at stellar levels.

Each relationship, by whatever means they meet and build, can go extraordinarily well, or abysmally bad. It's up to the partners involved. Anyone's opinion on how the partners proceed, as long as those partners enjoy themselves, has no bearing, other than equating to anus/rectum territory: most have them, and some of them could use a serious bath.

 

[incubus'_sub]

LOL. I'll blame the couple of vodkas tonight for my lack of patience with idiocy.

One of the reasons I don't post very often any more is my lowering tolerance for silly behaviour & sillier people masquerading as B&D lifestylers.

Your recent experience, & the recent loss of a good friend have made us even more aware of how much time we waste in this life.

But hey (hijacking here), good news. My Master & I are getting married in 4 weeks. We've put it off a few times, but hell, now we're just going to do it.

 

[incubus'_sub]

AA, of course you are right. How people meet is of no importance IF & WHEN a great relationship ensues. Yes, it does happen that onliners sometimes meet & continue relationships in real life, but truly, it's not all that common, is it?

Given the huge number of online romances, the percentage of real life followups which are successful over time seems to be very small, but yes, they do exist.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Yes, it does happen that onliners sometimes meet & continue relationships in real life, but truly, it's not all that common, is it? Given the huge number of online romances, the percentage of real life followups which are successful over time seems to be very small, but yes, they do exist.

i'd imagine the hit percentage just as low. How many dates have you gone on only to find out, "Ewww!" or "Nice, but no spark" etc? Last i heard, the only high percentage thing was an arranged marriage.

BTW, congrats on the upcoming tying of the knot.

 

[O'Mac]

As someone mentioned before with the whole "cleaning" subs, I've had a similar experience. Basically one of my subs at the time was contacted via collarme by another who was completely obsessed with cleaning her apartment. When she told me I did have a bit of a chuckle and suggested that not only should he do hers, but to come over to my place and clean my flat too. In the end, I think we both scared him away.

 

[Etoile]

A sub friend of mine used to message me using the YOU/you, ME/me crap & when I said to stop it, it's bloody annoying, she was quite offended. Apparently she'd be TRAINED that way. gggrrr !!!

I've seen the same thing. I maintain the fem_submissives community on LiveJournal, and somebody posted with the Y/you stuff. I politely told her that was looked down on, and she was shocked. She said she had been trained that way and thought it was common...I told her as kindly as I could that she had been misinformed.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I see I'm in good company.

Beyond the usual assortments of liars, 3 woman I've met stand out in my mind. The most bizarre of these was a woman I met through alt. We chatted for a few weeks and everything seemed fine. She would make the occasional off the wall comment but nothing that I couldn’t chalk up to her being over eager. I set up a lunch meeting at a great restaurant in Buckhead called The Fish House. To set the scene properly you should understand that this is a high end restaurant and one of the best in Atlanta. I pull up, hand the attendant my keys, and start walking to the door. I stopped dead in my tracks when I see her dressed completely in black leather including collar, kneeling by the front door. I was so dumbstruck that the only thing I could think of was to ask her what the hell she thought she was doing. She replied in a very matter of fact manner that she was waiting for me. I made her stand up and follow me around the corner. It was there that I proceeded to tell her all the reasons that her behavior was unacceptable in mixed company. She started crying and then the crying turned into what we in the south call the snubs. I was starving so I made her take the collar off and we proceeded inside. Unfortunately, the afternoon went downhill from there. She refused to order for herself. I couldn’t even get her to tell me what kind of food she liked. She wouldn’t take a drink or the first bite of food without asking permission. She asked permission to go to the bathroom and I was so aggravated I told her no. She wouldn’t even eat desert because she said she wasn’t worthy of it. After lunch I told her that I did not think we were a good fit and that I would not be in contact with her again. She looked at me and with no emotion said, Okay, I understand.

For once I am speech (post) less. That has to be the most outrageous thing I have heard. Why do I think that she had the potential to be a stalker?

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

I've seen the same thing. I maintain the fem_submissives community on LiveJournal, and somebody posted with the Y/you stuff. I politely told her that was looked down on, and she was shocked. She said she had been trained that way and thought it was common...I told her as kindly as I could that she had been misinformed.

I kinda like it, in moderation.

LOL

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

i'd imagine the hit percentage just as low. How many dates have you gone on only to find out, "Ewww!" or "Nice, but no spark" etc? Last i heard, the only high percentage thing was an arranged marriage.

BTW, congrats on the upcoming tying of the knot.

I suppose it depends on what you are looking for. I have been dating and/or finding submissives online almost exclusively since 1999. It works for me. However, I find that I do not waste time talking to people I do not think are my cup of tea. And I insist on meeting the ones I do find interesting. sometimes they do not like me, sometimes I do not like them.

As for the spark? I have found that the subs I have met are more inclined to need the "spark" than I am. But I am not looking for a mate or a boyfriend. I look for a basis for friendship in kink (for lack of a better phrase). Then we take it from there.

One thing I do know from my own experiences, the longer the communications continue online, the more likely things will stay online. I go from online, to phone, to meet and greet as soon as feasible.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

This shrieks of 'psycho/kidnap/disappearing women/death' scenario to me

That is exactly what happened to those women found in 33-gal drums in that storage unit.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

AA, of course you are right. How people meet is of no importance IF & WHEN a great relationship ensues. Yes, it does happen that onliners sometimes meet & continue relationships in real life, but truly, it's not all that common, is it?

It is more common than you think.

Eb