Our Wedding

[Guest]

ok.. here we go...
the ceremony as i remember it in bits and pieces:
starting with mat
beautiful woman.

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A Ceremony of Commitment
Between Lucky and Vella

Saturday June 4th, 2005.
Provincetown, Cape Cod, MA

In the presence of friends and loved ones

Introduction
When Lucky and Vella first asked me to preside over their commitment ceremony, I was overwhelmed – honoured – humbled – emotional - delighted.

As I thought about it, I realised what a responsibility this would be, to find the right words to imbue this moment in time with the aura of specialness that it deserves.

My hope is that today our love for them, both as individuals and as a couple, will enhance all the joy and contentment they take from this day, when, as friends:

~we will witness the vows of love that Lucky and Vella have written for each other;

~we will hear words of support and love from each other;

~we will witness as Lucky and Vella exchange rings.

And so, to begin………

“We are gathered here today……..”…. a cliché I know, but for the life of me, I can’t think of any words more appropriate to begin this occasion.

We are gathered here; to be willing, loving and honoured participants in a ceremony to celebrate and commemorate the love of Lucky and Vella - for each other.

To celebrate the love they have found together.

To celebrate a love that they have allowed us to share.



To celebrate their desire to be together in all the ways possible, for as long as their hearts and souls desire it.

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Lucky and Vella exchange vows

Lucky and Vella have written their own vows of commitment. I now call on them to declare their love, to and for each other before those of us gathered here.

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[cantdog]

Wow. Beautiful photo.

 

[matriarch]

Wow. Beautiful photo.

Cant, the whole thing was more beautiful than I can say. The images of that day will stay in my head and heart for a long time.

 

[Guest]

Lucky:

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Lucky:
All my life, I’ve been searching for someone. Not just anyone, but the person that could look into my eyes and see my soul. I’ve always held onto the hope that such a person existed, but my hope was on the verge of flickering out just before I met you…And there you were.

You of the infectious laughter, heart-stopping smile, and incredibly generous heart. You provided the safe-haven I so desperately needed to finally feel comfortable in my own skin. Your love allowed me the freedom to expose my every weakness, and though the mere thought of revealing myself so completely was terrifying, it turned out to be the most liberating experience of my life. Thanks to your love, I am stronger than I ever imagined I could be…And I know in my heart…You were meant for me.

You are my best friend, my lover, my partner in all future endeavours both great and small. I will trust and honour you above all others. I will share your laughter during good times and share your burden during trying times. I will be forever faithful to you. I will be honest in all things… And I will love you without reservation for the rest of my days.

(piccies with a gift from Lucifer...lovely scarves)

 

[Guest]

Vella:
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With you I have found ~ Hope in your voice ~ Faith in your gaze ~ Trust in your touch.

With you I am ~ More than I thought I could be ~ More that I thought I would be.

With you I will be ~ Stronger than I have been ~ Confident as I never believe possible.

As we begin our journey into the future, hand in hand,
I promise you:
To be there for you, a rock upon which you lean, to depend on your strength when I weaken…to be beside you through fortune and strife.
As we grow together, as we understand one another, share our laughter ~ our tears each and every day ~ My promise to you is to be unwavering in my faith in us.

You have brought a world of possibility to my each sunrise. Together, we shine.
I promise to love you…’oways’
(insert a liberal amount of happy tears and shaking voice)
(piccies of me and lucky in the sand)

 

[Guest]

beautiful mindy as called on by matski:
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Dedications
And now we come to the moment, where those who wish to, have the opportunity to make their own individual contribution.

I call on Mindy:
(this is from memory so I may have gotten it wrong?~ v~)

Min read a card sent to us by Lucifer. He wanted to be there and couldn’t so he sent us his thoughts and well wishes.
‘First off, congratulations on your big day. I am happy for you in a way that is impossible to transcribe on paper (well, until the day they invent emotion-sensitive paper). Of the set number of couples that have arisen on Lit, you were the only ones I knew would end up all right. You both have a love that is genuine and doesn’t need any aid from my backyard reserve of hope. You two are not only a great couple, but good friends to me and to each other. Everything will be wonderful and just in case you know I always have your back.
Sincerely, Lucifer_Carroll'

 

[Guest]

Sumptous Squaw, Cloudy:
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I call on Cloudy:
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Indian Wedding Blessing


Now you shall feel no pain
Naquu nihi asei asvnasdi nasgi ehisdv
for you shall be comfort for the other
nasginai nihi asei nutsosedvna nasginai soi


Now you shall feel no rain
Naquu nihi asei asvnasdi nasgi agasgv
for you shall be shelter for the other
nasginai nihi asei owenvsv nasginai soi


Now you will feel no cold
Naquu nihi asei asvnasdi nasgi uyvtlv
for you will be warmth to each other
nasginai nihi asei uganawa nasginai soi


Now you are two bodies
Naquu hihi tali diniyelv
but there is only one life before you
hianusdidana nasgi uwasv saquu vlenidohv udalulv nihi


May the Great Spirit walk with you,
Wakan tankan nici un
and your days be good & long upon the earth.
ale nihi hilvsgi iga osdv ale ganvhida nasgi elohi


(piccie of cloudy just after ceremony)

 

[Guest]

conclusion from our wonderful matski:
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Rings:
Some time ago, Lucky and Vella exchanged rings in a private ceremony, in a way that was special and meaningful to them.
No joining would be complete without the giving and exchanging of items that have special meaning, and so once again Lucky and Vella will give and receive rings as a physical and visible symbol to themselves and the world, of their love, their desire to be together, and an integral part of each other’s lives.

(Exchange rings)

Conclusion


This is the part where in the straight world; the priest would now pronounce you “wife and wife.”

But for me, those words don’t go anywhere near enough to express what you two have done.

Against society, against culture, against unreasoning prejudice, you have taken a step of determined courage and personal commitment.

You have declared publicly that your love for each other is strong enough and deep enough to withstand all the negatives thrown at you, and I for one, consider it an honour and a privilege to count you as dear friends, an honour and a privilege to be here today and to have been part of this ceremony.

All of us gathered here are overflowing with our love for you both, as are those that couldn’t be here, but send that love anyway. May our love blend with yours; to enhance it, strengthen it, enrich it, and always be there to support you whenever you need it.

Lucky and Vella………I now pronounce you …….wife and wife !!

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Now for goddess’s sake, kiss each other so I can find my tissues and have a good cry !!

 

[cantdog]

Thank you

 

[matriarch]

*gulp*......this time...I am crying.

Tears of joy, delight, love, admiration.

You two are very special people, a beacon, and you will have a place in my heart forever.

 

[carsonshepherd]

oh crap now i'm all misty-eyed too.

 

[TheEarl]

<tears>

The Earl

 

[matriarch]

<tears>

The Earl

You're forgiven for that.

 

[impressive]

*gulp*......this time...I am crying.

Ditto.

Absolutely gorgeous ... the words and the pictures.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I'll bet that feels good to say.

The Earl

You bet your ass it does.

~lucky

 

[Dar~]

You guys.

I so wanted to be there, but there was no way financially at this time. Maybe on the next trip. The ceremony sounds so beautiful. I am weepy. I hope you guys enjoy the same passion and love for each other as I do with my husband. Its a beautiful thing. Truly.

 

[TheEarl]

You're forgiven for that.

These two do it to me avery time. It's damaging my manly facade damn you!

The Earl

 

[minsue]

 

[Alex De Kok]

Beautiful. I think it's just my glasses misting up, but I could be wrong . . .

A safe and happy future to both of you.

Alex

 

[Guest]

<tears>

The Earl

Me, too.

Beautiful - every bit of it.

Congratulations.

 

[LadyJeanne]

What a glorious wedding! I get a huge smile on my face and that warm, fuzzy feeling inside looking at you two.

 

[cloudy]

I repeat.

YOU BITCHES!!!!!!!!!! You forgot to mention the explosion of laughter that followed my expletive.......that made me grin all the time was sitting outside waiting for you to come out and embarrass me publicly with what you had bought.

You are all so very very wicked.
And I love you to death.

everytime I hear "bzzzzz" now, in any context, I burst into crazy laughter.

 

[RebeccaLeah]

*happy sigh*


I already cried over Abs' present and Mat's program, now I just get to be overwhemlingly happy for you both.
es

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

That was absolutely beautiful. Thank you both so much for sharing such a special moment with the rest of us.

 

[Liar]

everytime I hear "bzzzzz" now, in any context, I burst into crazy laughter.

bzzzzz

Just testing.





Vella, thank you so much for posting that transcript. It's the closest thing that I could ever hope for as opposed to actually have been there, but it was enough to put a lump in my throat.

So I'll contribute with this post ceremonial dedication.


For Lovers With Lanterns In Hands

This is a state
truer than heartbeats.

This is what we turn
every stone for in frantic search
day after day. This is music
we only hear a second rate echo of
until we dare to play it.

This is what you did not find,
not stumble upon,
but carved into matter
by diamond pure wills alone
and lit like a beacon
with cinder spirits.

So take this, call it happiness,
a word too small to contain
the storms and mountains within,
and do the only right thing.

Flaunt it with no shame, no remorse,
right in the face of the grey and forgotten.
Wave it like a badge
against the cynical mob.
Shine, just shine your golden light
into the darkest corners of mankind's hearts
where the wolf hour rarely dies.

Then maybe someone, somewhere
will open their eyes, part the curtains
to a cryo stasis mind,
and breathe a real breath
for the very first time.

This is a weapon.
But have no fear.

You can
and you will
use it right.