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After writing this response, and thinking about other recent threads on gender differences, I thought I'd start a new one. FYI, this quote came from Svenskaflicka's "Female Humour" thread. - Perdita
Women live more completely in and with their bodies. We have breasts that are ‘out there’ always; we feel them with the slightest movement, sexual arousal, or chill; we know they are the focus of any man’s gaze; and we know they can kill us. Monthly hormone activity, pregnancy and childbirth, and menopause make for being better in tune physiologically, and therefore psychologically or emotionally, with our bodies than men. Women learn to separate themselves too early and too easily, to divide themselves up into many parts so that there is no mirror, whether real or metaphorical or reflected in another person's face, clear enough for one of us to see ourselves as whole. How can our voice and speech not mirror that, even in humor?
Of course many times the words coming out of our mouths do not sound true to men as we are always on the alert at how scary or threatening they can be to them. On the other side of the mouth, if you will, men too often speak without a clue as to how a woman will receive their words. They might warn you not to ‘read’ more into what they say, but more often than not a man has no idea that what they are saying may be registering in a woman’s brain or heart, and not her cunt or arse.
If humor is an opposite of anything for a woman it shadows pain of loss and all the anxieties that layer over a lifetime like fossils in a mountain of granite. We’re like houses that men enter at our welcome, then walk around opening all the doors and windows, and turning on the lights as if they belonged their. Perhaps there is no trespass if the welcome is generous enough, but it is rare that a man understands the privilege he has been given, or the risk the house’s mistress has taken.
I speak now because the above quote served as a catalyst, but also because the best of authors here, even in writing erotica, can serve minimally to enlighten the communications between men and women. I would be interested in any other thoughts in any direction and by any gender or particular role-playing persuasion. To be clear, what I’ve said is culled from my experience of life, along with those of my closest friends, so I am not looking for arguments, just other or new ideas.
Note: No hair flicking, narrowing of eyes or particular vocal technique was used in writing this post.
Yes, we can ‘cut’ with looks, but to men and children also. What man needed more at certain times than the look his mother, sister, wife, slut, etc. gave him in order to ‘get’ the point? Generally ‘the look’ is more meaningful and substantive than a string of words—good heavens! a whole sentence—from a man. My sons' father was always befuddled at the authority of my voice, or a mere nod, with my boys; he couldn't get them to obey him for money. (Women also laugh, guide, love, console, nurture and give grace through looks.)gauchecritic said:
Women live more completely in and with their bodies. We have breasts that are ‘out there’ always; we feel them with the slightest movement, sexual arousal, or chill; we know they are the focus of any man’s gaze; and we know they can kill us. Monthly hormone activity, pregnancy and childbirth, and menopause make for being better in tune physiologically, and therefore psychologically or emotionally, with our bodies than men. Women learn to separate themselves too early and too easily, to divide themselves up into many parts so that there is no mirror, whether real or metaphorical or reflected in another person's face, clear enough for one of us to see ourselves as whole. How can our voice and speech not mirror that, even in humor?
Of course many times the words coming out of our mouths do not sound true to men as we are always on the alert at how scary or threatening they can be to them. On the other side of the mouth, if you will, men too often speak without a clue as to how a woman will receive their words. They might warn you not to ‘read’ more into what they say, but more often than not a man has no idea that what they are saying may be registering in a woman’s brain or heart, and not her cunt or arse.
If humor is an opposite of anything for a woman it shadows pain of loss and all the anxieties that layer over a lifetime like fossils in a mountain of granite. We’re like houses that men enter at our welcome, then walk around opening all the doors and windows, and turning on the lights as if they belonged their. Perhaps there is no trespass if the welcome is generous enough, but it is rare that a man understands the privilege he has been given, or the risk the house’s mistress has taken.
I speak now because the above quote served as a catalyst, but also because the best of authors here, even in writing erotica, can serve minimally to enlighten the communications between men and women. I would be interested in any other thoughts in any direction and by any gender or particular role-playing persuasion. To be clear, what I’ve said is culled from my experience of life, along with those of my closest friends, so I am not looking for arguments, just other or new ideas.
Note: No hair flicking, narrowing of eyes or particular vocal technique was used in writing this post.
