Original Oral Question

[Blushing Bottom]

A Dominant recently asked me if I felt differently, psychologically, if he was sitting as opposed to standing during oral servitude...and what would be my preference if any.

I have attempted to answer the question 3 times now but none of my responses satisify him. I have said that a Dominant seated does not represent power to me and that my servitude is no more than that. When standing I feel his power over me. I feel protected, desired and to thank him I offer my mouth and throat knowing that not only will I serve him, he will use me if he so desires.

Any thoughts?

 

[pandoravampire]

The standing towering over me, making me feel lower, smaller, submissive. Is initially quite potent.
However, that space does not stay with me for as long as the blow job normally.
I have a Dominant that resembles a star fish when im sucking his cock. He'll even smoke during one. So rather than get strung up on how 'rude' this appears to my vanilla head, i just get stuck in for myself.
Very shortly into giving, i am overtaken from my submission for My need to suck cock. And i get into from a my need perspective. It is my sensations that are guiding me. This can happen for me, as when i am giving a blow job from My prespective, im seriously letting go with my sexuality, and a horny submissive is something that pleases my Sir considerably, so it works for us.
My 'technique' is far better, when i am given free reign to enjoy the blow job, than doing some kinda technique that im instructed to do, that feels sort of wooden, faked, and not real to me. Not that i would refuse, just that im better at it, when left to my own devices according to feedback.
little one

 

[catalina_francisco]

Standing or sitting doesn't make any difference to me as the power is not about the physical position he holds at any time, it is about the mental connection and his place in my life as a Dominant who actually is dominant as opposed to playing it out by clothing, gestures, cliche phrases etc...in fact, for many BJ's, he lays back and I am over him as that is how he prefers it. I think it is too easy to get hung up on this image of the all powerful Dominant, tall, strong, superhuman when dominance is not reflected in physicality as much as mentality, at least IMHO. Also it comes down to who is being pleased, and who is doing the pleasing...if a Dominant wanted to do it standing on his head, may be a bit strange, and there could be issues of balance, but hey, not my place to suggest he is not being dominant enough because his head is lower than mine. Leads also to the question of which body part people identify as dominant...if sitting is not dominant because they are not above the sub, isn't it only their feet, legs, and cock which are below the level of the mouth of the sub? Wouldn't the legs and feet at least be on a similar level if they were standing? So what makes it different if the head is a few inches higher than if they were sitting? Shoud the Dominant be forced to be less comfortable by standing to please the sub? Just a different way of thinking of it perhaps.

Catalina

 

[raven2]

A Dominant recently asked me if I felt differently, psychologically, if he was sitting as opposed to standing during oral servitude...and what would be my preference if any.

I have attempted to answer the question 3 times now but none of my responses satisify him. I have said that a Dominant seated does not represent power to me and that my servitude is no more than that. When standing I feel his power over me. I feel protected, desired and to thank him I offer my mouth and throat knowing that not only will I serve him, he will use me if he so desires.

Any thoughts?

Hi BB,

I guess the question that comes to my mind after reading this is in what way haven't your responses satisfied him? I think that what you have stated there is very straight forward and clear. Why does he feel that your responses are lacking?

 

[Kajira Callista]

Hi BB,

I guess the question that comes to my mind after reading this is in what way haven't your responses satisfied him? I think that what you have stated there is very straight forward and clear. Why does he feel that your responses are lacking?

Maybe he is trying to tell her that no matter where he is she should feel dominated by him?

 

[raven2]

Maybe he is trying to tell her that no matter where he is she should feel dominated by him?

I think-you might be right, KC. It may very well be that he is trying to condition her psycologically to accept that she is his sub. If that is the case, then perhaps he is looking for her to say she has no preference, because as his sub she should be glad and feel the same no matter what position they are in.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I think-you might be right, KC. It may very well be that he is trying to condition her physcollogically to accept that she is his sub. If that is the case, then perhaps he is looking for her to say she has no preference, because as his sub she should be glad and feel the same no matter what position they are in.

ayep

 

[catalina_francisco]

Maybe he is trying to tell her that no matter where he is she should feel dominated by him?

Yep, that was my point....think he is trying to provoke some thoughts happening.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

A Dominant recently asked me if I felt differently, psychologically, if he was sitting as opposed to standing during oral servitude...and what would be my preference if any.

I have attempted to answer the question 3 times now but none of my responses satisify him. I have said that a Dominant seated does not represent power to me and that my servitude is no more than that. When standing I feel his power over me. I feel protected, desired and to thank him I offer my mouth and throat knowing that not only will I serve him, he will use me if he so desires.

Any thoughts?

I don't care about position at all. If he is Dominant at the time, he is Dominant period for me. I prefer to be submissive regardless too. On his back, on his ass, on his strong legs, upside down, just let me suck that bastard all the way. Yeah! Sore throat at sunrise? Sucking in future.

Mmm!

Fury

 

[mrmadman]

My first thought is to be a bit troubled by the business of asking three times and not being satisfied with your answer. Seems a tad passive-aggressive, if I remember that term right... In plain English, he only really ASKED you the first time, and after that, he's trying to TELL you something, but without telling you. Or he wants to hear something but won't tell you what. Yuck.

I can think of a whole lot more fun games than "guess what I want to hear and tell me." Sounds like that classic bit:
"What's wrong honey?"
"Never mind!"
"Well, you seem unhappy; is there something I can do?"
"If you LOVED me, you'd KNOW!"

If I were in your shoes, or on your knees, as 'twere, I might tell him that I find it most pleasantly dominant when he tells me what he wants, vs. making me guess at it. (Also more conducive to healthy communication, but you might leave that out.)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sometimes it is a better way to get the message through and to stick...or to find out where the head is at. It is easy to tell someone what you want to hear and they adopt the attitude without really appreciating the need. Submission is about learning, people have different styles and just as many teachers will repeat a question to a student to force them to really think, so will many Dominants. I think passive agressive and many other such psychological terms are used too readily by the lay community (and some professionals) without understanding them well enough, or appreciating not everything has to be labelled negatively in mental health terminology. Is a bit like those who categorise everyone in terms of D/s...not everyone is into D/ and so is not a Dominant or submissive, just plain folk living their life their way.

Catalina

 

[shy slave]

I have never considered that the position he is in makes him more or less 'Domly.'
I never forget he owns me, oral increases that reminder; the position is secondary to that.

When giving him oral my three main interests are focused on:
The pleasure it gives him
How I can increase that pleasure
How deep can he get in my mouth/throat from the position he is in.

There is a psychological pay back for me in giving him oral, I guess some of that could stem from the position; but it also varies depending on what has preceded the oral or what I imagine may happen next.

I love some of the b/w photos of pyl's kneeling in front of a PYL that are in AA's thread.
That position is wonderful if he wants to slap me with his cock or give me a facial.
Its less effective if he wants to go deeper into my mouth, or if he wants oral for a long period of time, say 1-2 hours, as I cannot maintain that position that long.

Personally my fantasies are fed from thoughts of him sitting in a chair and my kneeling directly in front of him.
From this position I can lick and stroke his cock and balls, I can also be lower than his cock which engages the submissive part of my mind in a very powerful way.

Not all oral is intense, with a pre-ordained outcome. Sometimes it is about emotional exchange.

Laying in bed together in the morning, my face resting on his thigh or stomach, licking and stroking him is very emotional for me. It feels very safe and makes me feel cared for and loved. Something so very simple can move me to tears.
Yet if viewed dispassionately, a slave laying on her Dom when she is half asleep, lazily licking and stroking without her main intention being that of bringing him to orgasm; does not appear 'slave-like' or 'Domly.'
Yet it is. It feeds my psychological need and desire to be his slave and it starts the day in quiet stillness being reminded that he owns me.

He does not need to tower over me, grab my hair and pull me into his crotch to prove he owns me. He can tell me quietly and I will comply.

He towers over me, due to our height difference, every time I stand near him.
It does not make me feel dominated, it makes me feel very safe. As though his height alone can protect me from the worlds ills.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I have never considered that the position he is in makes him more or less 'Domly.'
I never forget he owns me, oral increases that reminder; the position is secondary to that.

When giving him oral my three main interests are focused on:
The pleasure it gives him
How I can increase that pleasure
How deep can he get in my mouth/throat from the position he is in.

There is a psychological pay back for me in giving him oral, I guess some of that could stem from the position; but it also varies depending on what has preceded the oral or what I imagine may happen next.

I love some of the b/w photos of pyl's kneeling in front of a PYL that are in AA's thread.
That position is wonderful if he wants to slap me with his cock or give me a facial.
Its less effective if he wants to go deeper into my mouth, or if he wants oral for a long period of time, say 1-2 hours, as I cannot maintain that position that long.

Personally my fantasies are fed from thoughts of him sitting in a chair and my kneeling directly in front of him.
From this position I can lick and stroke his cock and balls, I can also be lower than his cock which engages the submissive part of my mind in a very powerful way.

Not all oral is intense, with a pre-ordained outcome. Sometimes it is about emotional exchange.

Laying in bed together in the morning, my face resting on his thigh or stomach, licking and stroking him is very emotional for me. It feels very safe and makes me feel cared for and loved. Something so very simple can move me to tears.
Yet if viewed dispassionately, a slave laying on her Dom when she is half asleep, lazily licking and stroking without her main intention being that of bringing him to orgasm; does not appear 'slave-like' or 'Domly.'
Yet it is. It feeds my psychological need and desire to be his slave and it starts the day in quiet stillness being reminded that he owns me.

He does not need to tower over me, grab my hair and pull me into his crotch to prove he owns me. He can tell me quietly and I will comply.

He towers over me, due to our height difference, every time I stand near him.
It does not make me feel dominated, it makes me feel very safe. As though his height alone can protect me from the worlds ills.

smilesssssssssssssssssssssss thank you for sharing, thank you ,thank you ,thank you........

 

[cati]

A Dominant recently asked me if I felt differently, psychologically, if he was sitting as opposed to standing during oral servitude...and what would be my preference if any.

I have attempted to answer the question 3 times now but none of my responses satisify him. I have said that a Dominant seated does not represent power to me and that my servitude is no more than that. When standing I feel his power over me. I feel protected, desired and to thank him I offer my mouth and throat knowing that not only will I serve him, he will use me if he so desires.

I share the same feelings bb.
I think it's interesting that that Dom would ask that question. Shows that he has an interest in the psychology and mind set of a sub. I think that very cool...

After reading your posts I had to give this matter a little bit of thought.

I too get a different buzz when my man is standing in front of me. Unconsciously he seems to adapt a certain attitude...I'll call it his Dominance for the sake of this post. I feel that I'm at his mercy. His manner may seem a bit cool and aloof, he expects only one thing from me, my mouth, lips and tongue. At these moments I feel very "owned" and his...I am his possession..his cum slut, there only for his use. In essence I'm an object...a sex toy.

My action is purely directed at servicing him and usually nothing else. I can hold onto his hips, but don't have any real access to the rest of his more tender areas.
Somehow for me mentally he is in more of a "power position" The whole oral dynamic seems to change.

When he is kneeling in front of my face I have access to various other body parts and can touch him in ways that I cannot should he be lying on his back. I can take or leave this, it isn't very comfortable for either of us, pleasureable yes.

When he's lying on his back I can take my time and I enjoy him at my leisure and play with me at the same time... should I want to and if he lets me that is *s.
The problem with this is that I usually get so aroused in pleasuring him that I want to keep on and on... I wonder if I can say that I'm spacing...since my mind is pretty much gone. In this situation I may no longer feel like an "object" (in a good way of course) but his "sexual equal" but he is always my Dominant.

 

[graceanne]

He towers over me, due to our height difference, every time I stand near him.

Everyone towers over you. Even me. (I love that - I never get to tower over people.)

 

[shy slave]

Everyone towers over you. Even me. (I love that - I never get to tower over people.)

And you don't even want me to lick your strap-on LOL

 

[graceanne]

And you don't even want me to lick your strap-on LOL

Weeeeeeeeellllllllllll . .. no. But thank you for the though. *yick*

 

[stageleft]

interest

after reading this topic with interest i wish to add my input.
i once met a girl who adored oral submissiveness.it became common place for her to kneel in front of me with her hands bound behind her back.
she relished me grinding & rubbing my stiff cock all around her up-turned submissive face before holding her head & freely face fucking her.
in relation to the sitting position she was thrilled one evening when she was watching sport on the tv with me.my team triumphed & in elation i grabbed my sub by the hair & pulled her head down into my lap.
i pulled out my stiffening cock & stuffed it all into her mouth.as i watched my teams celebrations i pressed my hand firmly down on the top of her head & joined in with the on-screen celebrations.
in the euphoria i also grabbed hand-fulls of her hair & plunged my cock deeply in & out of her slurping mouth.
my trophy that followed was a very messy cum-facial...most memorable.

 

[cati]

Maybe he is trying to tell her that no matter where he is she should feel dominated by him?

Wow right on...
Interesting point kalista. I just this very moment went and discussed this with the big guy. I explained to him what I wrote in my post.

His question to me was..."you don't feel my Dominance while we're in the other oral positions?" I'm not sure how to explain to him what goes on in my head.

 

[chris9]

I enjoy him standing over me at first as it does make me feel submissive which isn't all that often in our relationship. But when he starts enjoying more it seems as if he's losing his balance. And that doesn't feel so very domly.
If he is lying on his back I tend to move into a 90 degree position to him, then he can play with my ass which he enjoys, and I do, too.

 

[ShyGuy68]

If he is lying on his back I tend to move into a 90 degree position to him, then he can play with my ass which he enjoys, and I do, too.

I would as well

 

[shy slave]

I enjoy him standing over me at first as it does make me feel submissive which isn't all that often in our relationship. But when he starts enjoying more it seems as if he's losing his balance. And that doesn't feel so very domly.

I know what you mean, it makes me smile to see him slightly wobble as part of the after effects.

I encourage him to sit down and try to make it sound as if I don't want him to fall...
But I really dont want him to fall on me!!
Nor do I want the task of trying to help him up should he over balance.

But of course I am just happy to let him think my main concern is about him hurting himself

 

[raven2]

I know what you mean, it makes me smile to see him slightly wobble as part of the after effects.

I encourage him to sit down and try to make it sound as if I don't want him to fall...
But I really dont want him to fall on me!!
Nor do I want the task of trying to help him up should he over balance.

But of course I am just happy to let him think my main concern is about him hurting himself

This is all rather stimulating. Falling on you would probably ruin the moment though.

 

[shy slave]

This is all rather stimulating. Falling on you would probably ruin the moment though.

He is a big man, it could ruin more than the moment!

It could ruin
my hair
my nails
my makeup

Geez what kind of slave would I be if THAT happened

ROFL

 

[raven2]

He is a big man, it could ruin more than the moment!

It could ruin
my hair
my nails
my makeup

Geez what kind of slave would I be if THAT happened

ROFL

OMG not the dreaded


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