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[Eilan]

Unless you want her to fake orgasm, fake loving your dick, fake wanting to lick and suck, fake wanting to fuck, fake everything each and every time. Cause porn is FAKE! Jemma is, ahem, an actress and she is not getting off on anything she does.

Aw, man. Yet another myth busted.

 

[CorsetLvr]

Unless you want her to fake orgasm

You mean women do that?

 

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[Eilan]

If this means I have an ego or am being selfish, so be it.

Okay. Fine. You have an ego and you're being selfish. Happy?

I can't speak for the other ladies who have posted, but that's not quite what I'm saying. I'm just overinterpreting the words of one man, not generalizing about all of them.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

Wow, us guys are getting beat on in this thread.

This is the way it goes for me:
I like to follow the ladies first approach. I love to give my wife as much pleasure as I possibly can. Why? It gives me pleasure to see the expression of pleasure on her face. If this means I have an ego or am being selfish, so be it.

Sometimes she wants as much as I can give, sometimes she doesn't. I think most of the time I can tell, but sometimes I miss the clues, so usually she'll tell me. But I have learned to stay within the boundaries of what is working for her at that particular moment. I think I'm pretty flexible. It helps when she tells me what's working and what's not, what's too sensitive at that time, what she would like me to do instead. But if she doesn't and I sense something is not working, I'll try something else.

It's important to note that pleasure doesn't always have to be about sex or orgasms. This past Sunday morning we spent about 45 minutes just kissing, caressing, and whispering before we got out of bed, and that I know was pleasureable for both of us.

Great minds think alike. My wide and I have always been very caring about each other's pleasure and we've always tried to communicate about our sex life, but it's only in the last couple years that she's really opened up and begun to initiate that dialogue. I found out that she thought telling me what to do would be demeaning or hurt my ego, and I think this may be prevelant amongst women out there. To all you girls out there, if you're with a young guy, yeah he may freak out, but that's his problem. Us sexually mature guys LOVE being told what you want, what to do, what makes you scream. I agree with Scallywag, I love give my wife as much pleasure as I can.

Sorry, it's my fault.

Man don't let her off that easy! How often to we get to Eilan shit where we're? For that matter, how often do we ever get to give a woman shit where we're right? That doesn't happen very often.

 

[Wankia]

Another reason for her not wanting you to masturbate her to orgasm is-sometimes as young girls were we told that is was not something "good girls" do. She could be embarrassed by it.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

Now, the part about giving women shit when we're right? I'm not so sure I'm prepared to walk down that path.

I'm risk taker. it's all about knowing when to shut up before you invoke their wrath.

Which I think it right about now.

Sorry Eilan, you know we come from love.

 

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[Eilan]

Sorry, it's my fault.

No apologies necessary.

Sorry Eilan, you know we come from love.

Do I know you? Oh, wait--it's the av!

 

[TBKahuna123]

Do I know you? Oh, wait--it's the av!

What can I say i t reminded me of my wife!

There, is this better?

 

[CorsetLvr]

Also, I took CorsetLvr's post that reads: "In this case I think Eilan is right. Its all about the guy." and interpreted that to mean guys in general, where I now believe she was refering specifically to the thread starter.

I try to limit myself to making less than 4 or 5 stereotype statements per day. Yes, I was referring to the original post.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

Another reason for her not wanting you to masturbate her to orgasm is-sometimes as young girls were we told that is was not something "good girls" do. She could be embarrassed by it.

OK , sorry for the blatant threadjack there.

This is a good point. There again, talking to her without being accusatory or pushy is the best approach here.