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[College_geek]

I think there needs to be a sex ed. class implemented in all schools nation wide that teaches girls and guys alike the whole pregnancy deal..Girls wear that big prego belly for a week than they have the child and have to see what it is like to be a mom and dad and get up for 3:00 feedings, maybe they should even have babysitting classes where they are required to babysit someones child once a month or more than that some children don't behave badly for babysitters till they are familiar with that person..I don't know what they need to do but something needs to be done with these kids that are so young and having babies. I could not even imagine what life would be like for me now if I would have had my kids when I was in HS..

I knew a girl in my dance class my junior year in high school who had to take care of one of those "Baby Think-it-over" dolls. She lived in the next town over, so her school did things a bit differently. It was annoying as all hell, but pretty realistic for a simulation, in my opinion. She had to bring it to dance and in the middle of class get up to stick a key in it's back for 20 minutes. Not that she seemed like the type of girl who was going to go get pregnant at a young age, but all of us in the class, including her, decided that we didn't want to get pregnant for a very long time.

 

[coppertop429]

Okay, since we're still on the topic of sex-ed...what was everyone here taught about abortions (if anything)? I won't give my specific stance on it (unless asked); I'm just curious how it's dealt with everywhere else. Frankly, I don't remember it being covered at all, or if it was, it was brushed over quickly.

 

[freddyandeddy]

Oh MAN! If I ever even UTTER the "A-word"...

Fired!

And I'm in a fairly liberal place (Los Angeles Unified Schools).

 

[College_geek]

Okay, since we're still on the topic of sex-ed...what was everyone here taught about abortions (if anything)? I won't give my specific stance on it (unless asked); I'm just curious how it's dealt with everywhere else. Frankly, I don't remember it being covered at all, or if it was, it was brushed over quickly.

I don't really remember covering abortions too much, since we all knew what they were already. We did talk about planned parenting clinics on the Cape and where they were, and we also talked about the morning after pill and how long after unprotected sex a woman could take it for it to work, etc.

 

[College_geek]

Oh MAN! If I ever even UTTER the "A-word"...

Fired!

And I'm in a fairly liberal place (Los Angeles Unified Schools).

The whole fact that everyone has to be extremely "sensitive" with these issues is pretty annoying, especially when it brings the health and/or safety of a student into risk.

Schools feel that they can't talk about stuff like that for fear of parents wrathes. My mom was a Junior Girl Scout leader once (that's ages 9, 10, and 11 for anyone who doesn't know), and she was going to do the "Becoming a Teen" badge with the girls. As an older girl scout and her daughter, I often helped with the troop and I helped her with this badge as well. Well, everything was fine and dandy until the parents of one of the 9 year olds flipped out at my mom and withdrew their daughter from the troop and girl scouts in general because we were going to talk about menstruation. That's just sad. What were they going to do, wait until she started and freaked out because there was blood coming from her vagina? The girl turned out alright, though, my sister sort of knows her now because they're in band together.

 

[Zergplex]

The whole fact that everyone has to be extremely "sensitive" with these issues is pretty annoying, especially when it brings the health and/or safety of a student into risk.

Schools feel that they can't talk about stuff like that for fear of parents wrathes. My mom was a Junior Girl Scout leader once (that's ages 9, 10, and 11 for anyone who doesn't know), and she was going to do the "Becoming a Teen" badge with the girls. As an older girl scout and her daughter, I often helped with the troop and I helped her with this badge as well. Well, everything was fine and dandy until the parents of one of the 9 year olds flipped out at my mom and withdrew their daughter from the troop and girl scouts in general because we were going to talk about menstruation. That's just sad. What were they going to do, wait until she started and freaked out because there was blood coming from her vagina? The girl turned out alright, though, my sister sort of knows her now because they're in band together.

That is just sad, I feel sorry for the girl. Some parents just can't seem to understand that times have changed since they were children, and if they teach their children as little as they were taught then the kids will find what they need elsewhere. Weither on the internet, in books, or most likely by experimenting in an unsafe way because they don't know what safe IS. God if my privates started bleeding I would freak out (and did when it happened to me once ^^() stupid infections).

-Zergplex

 

[freddyandeddy]

When it comes to anything to do with sexuality, whether it be mestruation, masturbation, or missionary, schools will run for the hills before inviting any controversy. A great example is that I may leave the teaching profession after this school year due to fears someone may find out about the website my wife and I run. We're not ashamed or anything, but we'd rather avoid putting the principal and school in the position of having to be on the 7pm news - "Porn Loving Teacher! You're child could be NEXT!!!" More coming up... on FOX!

 

[lovechild27]

This is the thing I dont get...

I can see if parents didnt want school to teach sex ed because they wanted to do it themselves. But from what I have experienced and heard from other people...their parents dont tell them anything. Its like they dont want their kids to ever know anything. Id love to know how many females couldnt find their clits until they were well into high school because no one ever really showed them and they didnt even know it was there. Its like they never give it a thought...they dont grasp that you make babies by having sex and unless you want to be a grandma or grandpa really fast...you need to talk to your kids....

 

[pplwatching]

When it comes to anything to do with sexuality, whether it be mestruation, masturbation, or missionary, schools will run for the hills before inviting any controversy.

That's pretty much the routine around these parts also. Some parents think that avoiding the issue means that a child will never have to deal with the issue. I think that some of the motivation is genuine concern for the kids. As adults we know how complex, confusing, and emotionaly painful sexual issues can be. It seems like kids have enough to sort out just growing up. Parents aren't prepared to have someone else talk about something that they would rather the kids not have to deal with. Others would just rather bury thier heads in the sand.

My daughter is almost 6 and we've had sex related discussions, but they're driven by what she's ready to ask. At this point she hasn't asked any hardball questions, but she knows the difference between boys and girls anatomy (she has a brother). She's putting pieces together and getting curious, so I imagine the time is coming soon. My brother's 13 year old is a world away with periods and boyfriends and 'why can't he come into my room with the door closed?' He has a great conversational style with her, and they talk about these things. I hope that I can manage the same with my daughter. It's probably a stretch to think that our kids will ever ask us the topic of this thread, but maybe our wives.

As far as a teacher discussing sexuality with my kids goes, I think that as long as the teacher sticks to the facts and doesn't embellish or offer advice then I'm for it. I can remember our plastics shop teacher answering a question about cum volume. He was factual, and engaging by starting out with "it's pretty amazing how much there is sometimes, isn't it?" He didn't say anything about masturbation, but he gave us the facts and moved on.

We didn't have 'formal' sex ed (but I seem to recall something about carrying eggs around campus). I'd prefer that teacher-directed sex ed be tought by a certified health professional. Maybe a nurse or something. Curious kids are going to ask their favorite teacher questions anyway. I'd insist that where matters of crisis management or personal choice are concerned, such as abortion, birth control, and losing virginity (and sex versus commitment , that a teacher would tell my kids something to the effect of encouraging them to discuss it with the 'rents because that's the appropriate thing to do. Knowing my daughter, she won't take that for an answer but with training and experience a teacher could point her in the right direction. I definately want to be the one to have those discussions with her.

I don't like the idea of teachers being forced to dodge the issue. It sends a message that adults aren't supposed to talk to kids about that sort of thing -- and kids may take that to mean the parents too.

A teacher running a porn site is something that never occured to me. I took a look at your site, and it looks like you make money from the site. Assuming there's no moonlighting conflicts in your contract, I don't have any reason to question your professional ethics. Even knowing your stance on "the other topic" I would rather have you giving my kids the facts instead of their friends giving them urban-legend (but I'd still want you to encourage them to talk to me).

 

[warrior queen]

This is the thing I dont get...

I can see if parents didnt want school to teach sex ed because they wanted to do it themselves. But from what I have experienced and heard from other people...their parents dont tell them anything. Its like they dont want their kids to ever know anything. Id love to know how many females couldnt find their clits until they were well into high school because no one ever really showed them and they didnt even know it was there. Its like they never give it a thought...they dont grasp that you make babies by having sex and unless you want to be a grandma or grandpa really fast...you need to talk to your kids....

this brings up something i read only this morning.....

here in australia, we have an office of film and literature classification that dictates what sorts of articles and pictures can be printed and distributed.
one of the issues in the article i read was that because all female genitals must be airbrushed to show only two 'plump lips and a clean slit' (their words), there has, in the last few years, been a huge increase in the numbers of teenage girls aged between 14 and 17 going to plastic surgeons for advice on reconstructing their vulva and labia to look more 'normal', because these airbrushed pics are all they see.
they don't know that everyone is completely different-looking, because they've never seen anything else, and because, unlike men, they don't get to 'check out other people' in the locker room or at the urinal.

parents who ignore the importance of teaching their children about sexuality and all the associated info, are being abusive, IMHO.
LACK of knowledge is just as detrimental as lack of care.

 

[freddyandeddy]

PPL,

If only they were all like you...

Unfortunately, the other 99 out of 100 parents would probably string me up and villify me on some tabloid talk show. Don't get me wrong, I'm not ashamed in the least about our site (thanks for taking a look and I try not to promote it in these boards) and yes, it does make money (amazingly), but I really love teaching and it's going to be a bummer to have to make a choice over the summer. We've been asked to raise our profile and appear on The View, among other media outlets (which we've resisted so far), as well as contribute under our real names to some pretty respectable print publications. Doing this means leaving the profession I love - pure and simple.

I'd be surprised if any girl in high school knows what her clit is all about, though maybe I'm just behind the times now that I'm turning 40.

 

[Nightbob]

would anyone like to share their fantasies with me to help me cum? Post them here or PM me.

 

[Nightbob]

There are so many factors that can affect your ability to have an orgasm. A very big factor can be things that have happened to you in the past while you were growing up, such as sexual abuse or harrassment. My wife had that problem. For many years she still enjoyed sex, but could not climax. She had suppressed those memories and didn't know why she was having problems. She has had many years of therapy and is still struggling. Living with thiis problem for so many years has had it's effect on me, too. I have now gotten to the point where I have a hard time reaching an orgasm. We are not as intimate as we used to be and she would like sex to be fast and short. I would prefer for it to last much longer. I would like 30 minutes or more of cuddling, necking, petting and other fore-play. Five minutes just doesn't get me in the mood. Actual intercourse can last for up to 30 minutes or more without me cumming. The harder I try, the less it works. I finally get to the point where I have to start becoming very graphic in my vocalization in telling her what I am doing to her and what I want to do in order to head into raw sex. It finally turns me on and I cum. Unfortunately, this turns her off.

I have found that my problem is in my head. I have to get past the idea that she is not really into what we are doing. The brain is our biggest sex organ, so that is the one that is most necessary to have stimulated. I even have to stimulate my brain through vocalization during masturbation. I have been fortunate to share messages with a woman on another BB and knowing that she is telling only me her most intimate thoughts and fantasies, turns me on enough that I can cum much easier. Sharing with her and a therapist have helped me a lot, but I am still working on it. A therapist might be able to help you even if there is nothing in you past. You are only 21 and you have too much living and loving to do to not be able to enjoy it completely. If you would like me to share more with you either on the board or PM, please don't hesitate to let me know. Sharing feeling and fantasies has given me a new lease on my sex life. Good luck

 

[angela146]

The primary (but not only) reason that I so jealously guard my anonymity is that my husband teaches at a religious high school. If his school administrators were to read “His Own Personal Cheerleader" and know that it was him, he would most likely be out of a job.

 

[pplwatching]

I really love teaching and it's going to be a bummer to have to make a choice over the summer. We've been asked to raise our profile and appear on The View, among other media outlets (which we've resisted so far), as well as contribute under our real names to some pretty respectable print publications. Doing this means leaving the profession I love - pure and simple.

This is (way) off topic, but this thread took a left turn a ways back.

I'm really having a hard time figuring you out. I can understand why you'd want to avoid the press, but you've given out both your site name and your school district. I'm no internet guru, but it seems to me that if you're doing business on that site then you're registered as a business and it's not going to be terribly tough for someone to figure out who you are.

Doesn't that bother you?

 

[freddyandeddy]

You are correct that it wouldn't be too difficult to discover our identities (although we're registered as a corporation). I keep a VERY low profile and it would be unlikely that any of the parents from our little school would be cruising these boards (though not out of the realm of possibility). I have not told a single soul, though an article I wrote under my real name appeared in major women's magazine, which raised some eyebrows a bit due to its subject matter (sexual healing).

At this point, I'm not too concerned as we've made the decision to go forward with our fledgling business, with me giving up teaching to focus more time and energy on growing it.

Back to the How To topic, nothing beats the Eroscillator 2 on the clitoris. One question I have is how to get this G-spot thing right! I followed a bunch of tips from threads here and have yet to get Eddy to spring a gusher. I've given her an hour long full body massage (we have a professional table, which I recommend to all of you), used lots of lube, tried my thumb and every other finger, been rough, been gentle, etc. Is it possible someone is incapable of experiencing this type of orgasm or does not have a G-spot?

 

[Zergplex]

You are correct that it wouldn't be too difficult to discover our identities (although we're registered as a corporation). I keep a VERY low profile and it would be unlikely that any of the parents from our little school would be cruising these boards (though not out of the realm of possibility). I have not told a single soul, though an article I wrote under my real name appeared in major women's magazine, which raised some eyebrows a bit due to its subject matter (sexual healing).

At this point, I'm not too concerned as we've made the decision to go forward with our fledgling business, with me giving up teaching to focus more time and energy on growing it.

Back to the How To topic, nothing beats the Eroscillator 2 on the clitoris. One question I have is how to get this G-spot thing right! I followed a bunch of tips from threads here and have yet to get Eddy to spring a gusher. I've given her an hour long full body massage (we have a professional table, which I recommend to all of you), used lots of lube, tried my thumb and every other finger, been rough, been gentle, etc. Is it possible someone is incapable of experiencing this type of orgasm or does not have a G-spot?

Well to answer your question, to the best of my knoweldge anyway. All females do have a G Spot, but not all G Spots have the same degree of sensativity (just as not all penis's or clitoris's are effected by the same stimuli). I have heard many situations where women have never experiance a G Spot orgasm but I attribute that more to mental blocks or problems with arousing it then anything else. Just my two cents on the issue.

-Zergplex

 

[Zergplex]

PPL,

If only they were all like you...

Unfortunately, the other 99 out of 100 parents would probably string me up and villify me on some tabloid talk show. Don't get me wrong, I'm not ashamed in the least about our site (thanks for taking a look and I try not to promote it in these boards) and yes, it does make money (amazingly), but I really love teaching and it's going to be a bummer to have to make a choice over the summer. We've been asked to raise our profile and appear on The View, among other media outlets (which we've resisted so far), as well as contribute under our real names to some pretty respectable print publications. Doing this means leaving the profession I love - pure and simple.

I'd be surprised if any girl in high school knows what her clit is all about, though maybe I'm just behind the times now that I'm turning 40.

To tell you the truth, I had a female friend of mine come to me to see if I could tell her about the Clitoris. The fact that she was 19 at the time and didn't even know where it was just bespeaks that we need a better sex education system and more parental interaction. I realize that school can't replace parents, but kids have to get this information SOMEWHERE and I would rather them get it from school rather then experimenting if the parents won't tell them.

-Zergplex

 

[freddyandeddy]

It's wierd; she'll get that urge to urinate that is always mentioned and says it feels good in spots, but nothing earth shattering like I've read about (and certainly no torrent of fluid). We're going to try an angled glass toy with lots of lube and see how that goes.

 

[College_geek]

It's wierd; she'll get that urge to urinate that is always mentioned and says it feels good in spots, but nothing earth shattering like I've read about (and certainly no torrent of fluid). We're going to try an angled glass toy with lots of lube and see how that goes.

The squirting thing doesn't work for all women. There have been a few threads on this subject. Some women do and some women don't. As long as everyone is aware that it can happen (so that no one freaks out if it does) and knows that it doesn't always happen (so that no one is disappointed if it doesn't), then everyone should be fine. Of course that's coming from me, the girl who'd like to squirt, but can't seem to. Oh well, I'm happy just having the g-spot orgasm in general.

 

[freddyandeddy]

Which is better - G-spot or clitoral orgasm?

 

[CelticFrog]

Freddy? How about when you want to ask a question you start your own thread?

 

[freddyandeddy]

Do you MIND? I'm trying to get to the "How-to" orgasm (we share a similar dilemma as the original poster with regards to G-spot) and this question is part of my strategy to get there! Seeing how far off-topic most of these threads go, perhaps monitoring them ALL would be a better use of your policing skills (military training notwithstanding). Heck, how about sending messages to half the thread starters who don't even keep to the "How to" format? Example: Introducing Ingvy, Why do people like anal sex, How much sex in a month, Fucking pop-ups, and so on. Your man, Ranger, seems to enjoy picking fights with everyone who even slightly disagrees with him and I've read him going into directions that have nothing to do with the topic.

I know I'm new here and you've been here awhile and have built up a great deal of experience, but get off my back and see that I am trying to contribute as much depth as I can! That, or give everyone else as much shit as you're giving me dammit!!!!

 

[CelticFrog]

Do you MIND? I'm trying to get to the "How-to" orgasm (we share a similar dilemma as the original poster with regards to G-spot) and this question is part of my strategy to get there! Seeing how far off-topic most of these threads go, perhaps monitoring them ALL would be a better use of your policing skills (military training notwithstanding). Heck, how about sending messages to half the thread starters who don't even keep to the "How to" format? Example: Introducing Ingvy, Why do people like anal sex, How much sex in a month, Fucking pop-ups, and so on. Your man, Ranger, seems to enjoy picking fights with everyone who even slightly disagrees with him and I've read him going into directions that have nothing to do with the topic.

I know I'm new here and you've been here awhile and have built up a great deal of experience, but get off my back and see that I am trying to contribute as much depth as I can! That, or give everyone else as much shit as you're giving me dammit!!!!

Well.
Since you're falling into the habit of pulling crap from other threads again, I will remind you that all I pointed out in THIS one was that it would probably be best if when you had a question you would be best served to post it in a new thread of your own.

Here, for your reference:

How about when you want to ask a question you start your own thread?

I didn't note your penchant for hijacking threads or even your inability to maintain one point of view in some of them.
I also haven't yet mentioned how little depth you actually contribute.

That, and I don't tend to give shit to people that I respect.
Ang

 

[lovechild27]

freddy...you will probably get many more responses by posting this question in a new thread...Im not telling you not to ask, but you may get more feedback if you just made your own thread.