I just began having sex with my boyfriend. I have only done it maybe about, 5 - 7 times. I have never had an orgasm though. Everytime he eats me out I always have one and it feels great, but I never had one during sex. He said there are two types of Orgasms, clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Myself, if this is true, I have only had a clitoral orgasm. Please someone tell me whats going on ! I am so concerned because I want to have a fun time during sex!!
ORGASM HELP!!!!!
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well here's one suggestion---quite trying and just do it. I know that sounds weird, but you can't make yourself have fun, you just have to have fun all in itself. It takes a while to become comfortable around another person (especially when naked) so give it some time.
Your boyfriend is correct, there are two different types of orgasms. First off though---feel blessed that you have been able to experience a clitoral orgasm--may women do not. There are vaginal orgasms that are usually the result of stimulation to the g-spot (front wall and about 2 inches or so in).
So, keep experimenting. You might not ever have a vaginal orgasm from penile pentration. It may take the help of his fingers.
Just relax and the fun will happen.
Your boyfriend is correct, there are two different types of orgasms. First off though---feel blessed that you have been able to experience a clitoral orgasm--may women do not. There are vaginal orgasms that are usually the result of stimulation to the g-spot (front wall and about 2 inches or so in).
So, keep experimenting. You might not ever have a vaginal orgasm from penile pentration. It may take the help of his fingers.
Just relax and the fun will happen.
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It's a HUGE mistake to think that men and women come hard-wired to know how to bring each other off. What you should do it get to know your own bod and what feels really good and what brings an orgasm and then at least you'll know what to tell your bf. Guys, especially young guys only wanna get off - NOW! or sooner. You need more time so slow him down and experiment a lot. It's fun to learn together too but important that you know your "spots" more than he does. If I knew at your age what I know now I woiuld have had my pick of any chick in school or Univ. What usually happens - too soon we grow old. Too late schmart, ya?
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Try taking your time and experiment with your body. There are different types of orgasms. First try communicating with your partner so he knows what is making you feel good and what isn't doing anything for you. You are the only one who knows your body so be open with him and tell him what you want or need. And relax if you are just trying to have an orgasm you may be also stressing yourself out and can't relax. Relaxation is a key during this time it is suppossed to be intimate between the two of you. And don't rush enjoy one another and try new and different things. Sometimes that will help.
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Morgasms!!
The orgasm story is complex. We know there are two kinds at least. We call one the vulval orgasm, the one you have during clitoral stimulation. There is also one called the uterine orgasm, the one you might have during intercourse. The vulval (you call clitoral) is associated with contraction of the outer 1/3 of the vagina and this is the kind women may have multiples of. The other is characterized by breath holding and powerful expulsion at orgasm this orgasm seems to be a one (not multiple) orgasm type. I wont even get into G-spots, but they are more like the uterine orgasm. These two orgasms involve different nerves, the pudendal or the pelvic. To make it more complicated, there is a blended orgasm that is some of each.
Of course, you can have vulval orgasms during intercourse. Many women touch their own clitoris during intercourse and they love to have an orgasm with a penis inside of them, however what they have is not a uterine (vaginal) orgasm, it's vulval. If you touch yourself until you get close to orgasm and then finish during intercourse, you can enjoy having an orgasm during penetration. Forget what kind or if it's the right kind. Many many women do not have orgasms from intercourse alone, so don't put presure on yourself.
Experiment, play, practice and have fun. Touch your clit during intercourse of have your boyfriend. Orgasms may feel different depending on many factors--penis inside, you on your stomach, doggie style, oral sex, vibrators. And how you feel and how horny you are.
If you give yourself a little help with your hand and experience having an orgams during intercourse, it may make orgasm during intercourse more probable in the future.
Have fun!
Dr. Steve
The orgasm story is complex. We know there are two kinds at least. We call one the vulval orgasm, the one you have during clitoral stimulation. There is also one called the uterine orgasm, the one you might have during intercourse. The vulval (you call clitoral) is associated with contraction of the outer 1/3 of the vagina and this is the kind women may have multiples of. The other is characterized by breath holding and powerful expulsion at orgasm this orgasm seems to be a one (not multiple) orgasm type. I wont even get into G-spots, but they are more like the uterine orgasm. These two orgasms involve different nerves, the pudendal or the pelvic. To make it more complicated, there is a blended orgasm that is some of each.
Of course, you can have vulval orgasms during intercourse. Many women touch their own clitoris during intercourse and they love to have an orgasm with a penis inside of them, however what they have is not a uterine (vaginal) orgasm, it's vulval. If you touch yourself until you get close to orgasm and then finish during intercourse, you can enjoy having an orgasm during penetration. Forget what kind or if it's the right kind. Many many women do not have orgasms from intercourse alone, so don't put presure on yourself.
Experiment, play, practice and have fun. Touch your clit during intercourse of have your boyfriend. Orgasms may feel different depending on many factors--penis inside, you on your stomach, doggie style, oral sex, vibrators. And how you feel and how horny you are.
If you give yourself a little help with your hand and experience having an orgams during intercourse, it may make orgasm during intercourse more probable in the future.
Have fun!
Dr. Steve
