Orgasm denial

[tobyttt]

I'm ding to har of any ladies experienced in denying / spoiling theirpartners orgasms....

 

[bob69carter]

Being sub to a domme wife

I am sub to my domme wife. This is a purely sexual ro=le because in real life we are quite well balanced in terms of controlling behaviour. But in sex she is a wicked domme. She dresses in her leather gear and I am in a gstring. She teases me enormously as I pleasure her - she likes her toes sucked and enjoys being licked from head to toe and being eaten out. However, the whole time during our sex play my hands are tied behind my back so i cannot touch her (excpt with my tongue) and worse, i cannot touch myself. So I am usually unable to cum, unless the pure eroticism just spurts out of my cock.
She takes me to a B&D club and I am led around by a chain and collar, with only my gstring. She makes me pleasure her male and female friends at the club. I am like a dog, told to lick a pussy or a cock of her friends to show how much control she has of me. I like being humiliated in this way, but still my hands are tied. I scream out sometimes for someone to just wank me off roughly so i can spurt, but rarely does anyone take sympathy on me.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm ding to har of any ladies experienced in denying / spoiling theirpartners orgasms....

Please tell me English is not your first language.

Fury

 

[Yang4yin]

Please tell me English is not your first language.

Fury

I find it interesting that the "hard" words were spelled correctly. Maybe he was typing while holding back.

 

[wouldloveto]

Alas

I would love for this thread to be a real discussion of the topic...

It is a real interest/fantasy of mine...

 

[lindahotstuff]

Why would I wantt o deny my man his orgasm? It just seems cruel. Part of a woman's enjoyment (apart from our own climax) is to be able to help our men reach orgasm. That isn't meant to sound subservient at all, but it gives me a feeling of control that i can make him cum whenever and however I want : my hand, my mouth, my pussy or my arse.

 

[the captians wench]

I would love for this thread to be a real discussion of the topic...

It is a real interest/fantasy of mine...

Just a few threads I found on the topic.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=484605&highlight=orgasm+control
- coming on command

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=432193&highlight=orgasm+control - enforced chastity

 

[FurryFury]

I would love for this thread to be a real discussion of the topic...

It is a real interest/fantasy of mine...

Good. I hope it becomes a real discussion of the topic for you and anyone else interested in it.

Fury

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I have denied rose as a punishment before.

I favour controlling her orgasms and making her cum on command. It is actually quite fun after a scene to be just holding her and give the order and there she goes...

I like that our scenes provide enjoyment for the both of us, usually with her getting multiples... sometimes high numbers of multiples...

But as I said above, I have denied her as a form of punishment.

 

[myinnerslut]

i enjoy orgasm denial
i am only allowed seven a week, unless i have done something to deserve having A limit that number. in addition i have to beg for each orgasm i get if i am on the phone or in person. if i am not on the phone or in person, i need to e-mail A in detail about how i came. in this way he controls every orgasm i have, even when we ar LDR.

his "favorite" punishment is to deny me for days or even weeks at a time

 

[Literotti]

I am sub to my domme wife. This is a purely sexual ro=le because in real life we are quite well balanced in terms of controlling behaviour. But in sex she is a wicked domme. She dresses in her leather gear and I am in a gstring. She teases me enormously as I pleasure her - she likes her toes sucked and enjoys being licked from head to toe and being eaten out. However, the whole time during our sex play my hands are tied behind my back so i cannot touch her (excpt with my tongue) and worse, i cannot touch myself. So I am usually unable to cum, unless the pure eroticism just spurts out of my cock.
She takes me to a B&D club and I am led around by a chain and collar, with only my gstring. She makes me pleasure her male and female friends at the club. I am like a dog, told to lick a pussy or a cock of her friends to show how much control she has of me. I like being humiliated in this way, but still my hands are tied. I scream out sometimes for someone to just wank me off roughly so i can spurt, but rarely does anyone take sympathy on me.

And you are complaining about this??? Drop me dead center into that scenario, will 'ya!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

And you are complaining about this???

yea i'm confused as to whether the OP was asking a question, or just complaining about what his Domme does to humiliate him.....*shrugs* orgasm denial for me is used as punishment. i could not imagine NEVER being able to cum during a scene though, well not every scene. lucky for me Master makes sure that i cum, plenty of times during 'play' unless of course i'm being punished.

He does however use orgasm Control, and every orgasm i have i have to beg for. *shrugs* to each their own i guess?

 

[DivineThing]

And you are complaining about this??? Drop me dead center into that scenario, will 'ya!

I interpreted his post as more of a happy share than a complaint.

 

[Literotti]

yea i'm confused as to whether the OP was asking a question, or just complaining about what his Domme does to humiliate him.....*shrugs* orgasm denial for me is used as punishment. i could not imagine NEVER being able to cum during a scene though, well not every scene. lucky for me Master makes sure that i cum, plenty of times during 'play' unless of course i'm being punished.

He does however use orgasm Control, and every orgasm i have i have to beg for. *shrugs* to each their own i guess?

lil_slave_rose,

Orgasm control can be a very intense experience, especially for a male who's enthusiasm drops off suddenly after ejaculation. I, for one, like to keep the scene going for as long as possible, and often wonder what it would be like for orgasm control to last for days, or even weeks. And at the risk of sounding like I'm patronizing to the dominant women (and yes, I will grovel for approval), a male is very selfish if he cannot at least match his domme's longer curve of sexual stimulation.

-phil

 

[Literotti]

I interpreted his post as more of a happy share than a complaint.

DivineThing,

Yes, I sincerely hope that this gentleman views his glass as half-full instead of half-empty.

-phil

 

[Literotti]

I am sub to my domme wife. This is a purely sexual ro=le because in real life we are quite well balanced in terms of controlling behaviour. But in sex she is a wicked domme. She dresses in her leather gear and I am in a gstring. She teases me enormously as I pleasure her - she likes her toes sucked and enjoys being licked from head to toe and being eaten out. However, the whole time during our sex play my hands are tied behind my back so i cannot touch her (excpt with my tongue) and worse, i cannot touch myself. So I am usually unable to cum, unless the pure eroticism just spurts out of my cock.
She takes me to a B&D club and I am led around by a chain and collar, with only my gstring. She makes me pleasure her male and female friends at the club. I am like a dog, told to lick a pussy or a cock of her friends to show how much control she has of me. I like being humiliated in this way, but still my hands are tied. I scream out sometimes for someone to just wank me off roughly so i can spurt, but rarely does anyone take sympathy on me.

bob,

Well, if what you are saying is true, and not some dream-wish fulfillment fantasy, you are indeed a lucky guy -- but then I think you must already know that.

As a service oriented slave, I can really understand how chastity and orgasm denial would intensify and heighten the submissive experience. However, it can be both a blessing and a curse, as you seem to have indicated by your post.

Just imagine trying to perform daily household chores while in a heightened state of sexual arousal. During my first experience doing that, I found that my brain had scrambled itself like eggs...or that it just turned to mush. *lol* Add to that a couple of clover clamps and it's like being a caged dog in heat with nothing to hump.

Anyhow, please tell us more about your wonderful and exciting marriage.

-phil

 

[DivineThing]

DivineThing,

Yes, I sincerely hope that this gentleman views his glass as half-full instead of half-empty.

-phil

Indeed.

 

[mslv4Her]

..... but it gives me a feeling of control that i can make him cum whenever and however I want : my hand, my mouth, my pussy or my arse.

That's the part that's great about it....being controlled by to Domme to cum when She wants and only when She wants and as often as She wants.

Another part of this that hasn't been discussed is forced orgasm....making the sub cum over and over again. Anyone have some thoughts on that?

 

[myinnerslut]

Another part of this that hasn't been discussed is forced orgasm....making the sub cum over and over again. Anyone have some thoughts on that?

this remined me of an old post of mine...

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=18373647&postcount=67

 

[Netzach]

Well, one of my new games is that I'll disallow my husband until I see my lover again and get him off, then husband can jerk off or I'll fuck him if he's been especially good about it or I'm still in the mood.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Well, one of my new games is that I'll disallow my husband until I see my lover again and get him off, then husband can jerk off or I'll fuck him if he's been especially good about it or I'm still in the mood.

Oh forgive me Netzach if I say that's a masterpiece.

 

[chatbug]

Orgasn Denial / Forced Orgasms

Right now orgasm denial is a fantasy for me, but I hope someday to be living with a woman that enjoys tease and denial. For me, it's the excitement of not having sexual release while helping or assisting a woman to have as much sexual pleasure as she desires.

I would not enjoy being denied both sexual pleasure and sensual pleasure. In other words, I would want to be living with this woman, not seeing her occasionally or being some woman's boy toy.

Here are some of the ways I've heard of people engaging in orgasm denial. I'm writing them assuming the male is being denied orgasms, but both males and females could enjoy orgasm denial though these methods.

* He is released after a fixed number of days. I admit that this is my favorite method. I like the regularity and certainty of it.

* He is released after he assists the woman to a certain number of orgasms, say 30 - 50. Depending on the woman, this might be a time period of one to two months. A variation is that the number is a minimum, and she decides how far past the minimum he must go before release, depending on how she feels.

* He is released on a random basis. One woman had a bag of marbles. The bag starts with 60 blue marbles and one green marble. Every night, he draws a marble from the bag. If he draws a blue marble, it is put aside. No release.

If he draws a green marble, she gives him the key to his cock cage. She puts all of the drawn blue marbles back in the bag, and the drawings start again the next night.

* He is released when he finds the key. The woman hides the key somewhere in the house or in a particular room. When he finds the key, he can pleasure himself.

* I just recently heard this one. She freezes his key in a plastic bowl of water. When she takes the bowl out of the freezer, it takes a few hours to thaw.

She thinks of a word that he might say, but not such a common word that he'd be using it all day. If, during the course of his duties, he says the magic word, she goes to the freezer, takes out the bowl, and puts it on the counter. She does this discretely, so that he has no idea which spoken word caused her to put the bowl on the counter. He doesn't know until his duties bring him into the kitchen and he sees the bowl on the counter.

If he says the magic word again before the bowl thaws, she brings him into the kitchen and puts the bowl back in the freezer. The game is over for the day. If he doesn't say the magic word again, he gets to enjoy himself when he can take the key from the bowl.

* Finally, one more bowl release. The woman puts the key in the bottom of a plastic bowl with a cover, pees into the bowl, covers it and puts it in the freezer. Every day, if he's been good, she takes the bowl out of the freezer, puts it on the table in front of him, and lets him lick the bowl for three minutes. When he licks his way to the key, he can enjoy himself.

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As far as forced orgasm, I enjoy that idea as well. I remember reading a story once where women would seduce and kidnap men, who would find themselves chained to a bench with dozens of other men, and they were forced to constantly masturbate. I think the semen was used to make cosmetics.

Each section was managed by a woman, and she used all sorts of visual stimulation to encourage the men to produce more semen. The woman whose section produced the most semen each month won a weekend vacation or something equivalent.

I guess something more practical would be for the woman to lock me up in chains and leave me locked up until I produce a certain amount of semen for her.

 

[tobyttt]

wow!

Right now orgasm denial is a fantasy for me, but I hope someday to be living with a woman that enjoys tease and denial. For me, it's the excitement of not having sexual release while helping or assisting a woman to have as much sexual pleasure as she desires.

I would not enjoy being denied both sexual pleasure and sensual pleasure. In other words, I would want to be living with this woman, not seeing her occasionally or being some woman's boy toy.

Here are some of the ways I've heard of people engaging in orgasm denial. I'm writing them assuming the male is being denied orgasms, but both males and females could enjoy orgasm denial though these methods.

* He is released after a fixed number of days. I admit that this is my favorite method. I like the regularity and certainty of it.

* He is released after he assists the woman to a certain number of orgasms, say 30 - 50. Depending on the woman, this might be a time period of one to two months. A variation is that the number is a minimum, and she decides how far past the minimum he must go before release, depending on how she feels.

* He is released on a random basis. One woman had a bag of marbles. The bag starts with 60 blue marbles and one green marble. Every night, he draws a marble from the bag. If he draws a blue marble, it is put aside. No release.

If he draws a green marble, she gives him the key to his cock cage. She puts all of the drawn blue marbles back in the bag, and the drawings start again the next night.

* He is released when he finds the key. The woman hides the key somewhere in the house or in a particular room. When he finds the key, he can pleasure himself.

* I just recently heard this one. She freezes his key in a plastic bowl of water. When she takes the bowl out of the freezer, it takes a few hours to thaw.

She thinks of a word that he might say, but not such a common word that he'd be using it all day. If, during the course of his duties, he says the magic word, she goes to the freezer, takes out the bowl, and puts it on the counter. She does this discretely, so that he has no idea which spoken word caused her to put the bowl on the counter. He doesn't know until his duties bring him into the kitchen and he sees the bowl on the counter.

If he says the magic word again before the bowl thaws, she brings him into the kitchen and puts the bowl back in the freezer. The game is over for the day. If he doesn't say the magic word again, he gets to enjoy himself when he can take the key from the bowl.

* Finally, one more bowl release. The woman puts the key in the bottom of a plastic bowl with a cover, pees into the bowl, covers it and puts it in the freezer. Every day, if he's been good, she takes the bowl out of the freezer, puts it on the table in front of him, and lets him lick the bowl for three minutes. When he licks his way to the key, he can enjoy himself.

---

As far as forced orgasm, I enjoy that idea as well. I remember reading a story once where women would seduce and kidnap men, who would find themselves chained to a bench with dozens of other men, and they were forced to constantly masturbate. I think the semen was used to make cosmetics.

Each section was managed by a woman, and she used all sorts of visual stimulation to encourage the men to produce more semen. The woman whose section produced the most semen each month won a weekend vacation or something equivalent.

I guess something more practical would be for the woman to lock me up in chains and leave me locked up until I produce a certain amount of semen for her.

You have certainly posted some horny ideas here! The orgasm denial comes with a spoilt orgasm - the woman toys with her man very slowly, bringng him to the edge again and again. Eventually, she takes him just over, but lets go of him, so he pumps without fulfilment. All the while, his hands are tied out of the way. She does this several time, until she then put back into his chastity belt, frustrated. But then has to pleasure his lady... she does this over a period of weeks or months until she, or someone else, allows him satisfaction...

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

Orgasm denial is really a sub-category of the larger Orgasm Control category. The motivations and methods of denial are as varied as the people who engage in such activities. Denial can last as little as a few hours to months and can be enforced as a punishment or simply for the dominant's amusement. But it is the broader spectrum of orgasm control that I find most facsinating.

I can only speak from my background as a male sub to a female dominant and as an insanely sexual person. For me, and I think most men to some degree or another, a big part of our lives revolves around our penises and putting them to use, be it alone or with others. We like to cum and play with our dicks. Plain and simple. And our dicks are so much a part of our masculine self-image. So, surrendering that control, and I mean genuinely not just for a night of kinky fun, can be extremely powerful for a man.

Mistress most often imposes orgasm denial on me as way of reinforcing her dominance and my submission. She knows well that left to my own un-disciplined ways I would easily cum once or more a day, every day.

To me she uses both aggressive control and passive control. The aggressive control is, for example, when she will say I'm not allowed to masturbate or have sex with her for a few days or what have you. Denying me my orgasm as both a test of my willing submission to her dominance and as a building block method for when she does decide it is time for me to cum. Having gone so long without will make me desperate to do so when she finally begins working me and she loves that. Because then during those times she takes even more control over my orgasm. She may force it right away or bring me to the edge over and over and torture me. For if I cum without permission there will be retribution. I think it is something very powerful for her. Knowing how much I like to cum and how important a man's genitals are to him and my voluntary surrender of both to her is a strong motivator for her.

And the more passive control is when she doesn't directly exert her control. When she lets me be free to masturbate as I choose and to initiate sex between us and such, isn't she still really in control of my orgasms? She could easily require me to stop, but she doesn't, so isn't that some form of control? I don't mean that to sound like a "chicken and the egg" argument but it is how I see it.

And she has other methods of employing orgasm control. An example would be like a couple weeks ago when we were headed for a large shopping center. Before leaving she directed me to wear a specific pair of panties. She likes making me wear girl's underwear when out in public. Anyway, when we pulled into the very crowded and busy parking lot she quietly advised me to choose our space carefully. I parked as far on the edge of the lot as I could but was still surrounded by people and vehicles. We went inside, did our shopping and when we returned to the vehicle she demanded I pull my penis out and masturbate to completion right there in the driver's seat. We do not believe in exposing or forcing our lifestyle choices on others so she kept a sharp watch and the height of our vehicle essentially obscured anyone seeing what was happening unless they walked right up to the window. Nevertheless I was forced to keep a straight face and look as nonchalant as possible while stroking myself. She knew I didn't want to cum and was uncomfortable and embarrassed and that is exactly why she did it. Just to see if I would. And I did and she was very pleased and we went about the rest of our day as normal.

I have lots more examples but that is one that stands out right now. Anyway, as I said, it is orgasm control that is what I find most enjoyable, and in a way valuable. I'm beginning to realize that by giving her this control, I'm becoming a more disciplined person. I know that might sound strange but I guess it all plays into the fundamentals of the D/s relationship. Her dominance and my submission works to make each of us a better person in every day life.

 

[subgrl18]

ive always liked the idea of orgasm controle...the idea that someone can have that much power of you and your body makes me tingle lol.