orgasm/cum problem

[saphira17]

hey all:
ever since first masterbated i have never been able to orgasm on my own. i have 2 toys but nothing, i get super wet and feel like something but nothing is gushing... my bf/fiance has been able to make me cum, just not me myself...
HELP!!

 

[phelon]

hey all:
ever since first masterbated i have never been able to orgasm on my own. i have 2 toys but nothing, i get super wet and feel like something but nothing is gushing... my bf/fiance has been able to make me cum, just not me myself...
HELP!!

Breathe... or at least one old GF had issues, and we found that when she got real excited she would stop breathing regular, and that would interupt her process.

 

[BertrandRussell]

Marry him.

 

[Firebrain]

x x x x x

 

[your_vice]

So can you not mimic whatever your boyfriend does? Some women who can come from oral sex but not masturbation are too sensitive for prolonged rubbing so you could try doing it through a pair of panties or reducing the friction in some other way. Toys can also be toned down like this by wrapping them in a soft cloth or holding them so they only just make contact.

Basically, it's your body. If you can't figure out what the difference is, we're not likely to. It might simply be the closeness and arousal that comes from being with your fiancé rather than just alone. Try reading some of the stories posted here and see if you can work on your fantasies and what you think about when you touch yourself.

 

[saphira17]

ty all

thank you all, that should help me, hopefully I'll relax more and breathe more next time i have some fun... or get pointers from my guy as well...

 

[satindesire]

hey all:
ever since first masterbated i have never been able to orgasm on my own. i have 2 toys but nothing, i get super wet and feel like something but nothing is gushing... my bf/fiance has been able to make me cum, just not me myself...
HELP!!

Gushing? Is that how you gauge your orgasm? Orgasm is usually characterized as a 'peak' in pleasure followed swiftly by intense, reflexive contractions of the genitals. Not all women female ejaculate. Also, not every woman can have an orgasm from pure g-spot stimulation.

Are you aware of your entire genitalia, including the names and locations of all your parts and their functions? Do you stimulate your clitoris at all? Most women can only reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation and penetration of the vagina does little to nothing in terms of sexual pleasure.

Are you being patient? Some women can take up to an hour to reach orgasm. Are you relaxed, in a quiet and private location in which you can concentrate and not be distracted? The mind is more involved with a woman's orgasm, distractions can easily set your orgasm back in a most frustrating way.

 

[Adakgirl]

The correct spelling is "masturbating" not "masterbating'. Satin Desire's post pretty much covers all the questions that you need to be asking yourself. For many women, orgasm does not include gushing. You need to gain more knowledge about female orgasm.

 

[infinity706]

Most women can only reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation and penetration of the vagina does little to nothing in terms of sexual pleasure.

I think you meant orgasm, not sexual pleasure, right? The vast majority of women I know enjoy penetration even if it doesn't get them off.

 

[satindesire]

I think you meant orgasm, not sexual pleasure, right? The vast majority of women I know enjoy penetration even if it doesn't get them off.

Sexual pleasure in terms of it pushing you towards orgasm. I'm sorry I wasn't that clear.

Of course, even women such as myself, who absolutely find it 100% necessary to have clitoral stimulation, can enjoy penetration even without orgasm or clitoral stimulation...but the actual SEXUAL PLEASURE varies from woman to woman.

 

[infinity706]

I figured that's what you meant. I just like to clarify everything because otherwise, some guy will inevitably read the thread first and get the wrong idea. Maybe I've just been on the internet too long, though.

 

[saphira17]

ty all

as i said to one and all thanks to your helpful insight and will try to do & feel better next time i feel the need to "play". thanks to one and all and yes i do read these stories one is bookmarked so always have it. it's either those or videos/movies on my computer.

 

[satindesire]

I figured that's what you meant. I just like to clarify everything because otherwise, some guy will inevitably read the thread first and get the wrong idea. Maybe I've just been on the internet too long, though.

I don't mind. I really think it's important to be 100% clear when it comes to stuff like this, so I appreciate the insight!