Opposites attract?

[penguindance]

 

[Private Vasquez]

I would never get along with someone just like me, so I'm pretty sure that wouldn't work. Similar interests can be good, but not a similar personality to mine. The fights would be huuuuge.

 

[grrrly]

i couldn't stand someone like me

 

[Needssome]

Okay.....Yes I am a psych major.....and according to the research I've read and even the pop psychologists I've seen on tv, it's not a good thing to be complete opposites. It's best if you share the same values and (they've even done studies) are comparable in attractiveness. In other words, they've done research that shows that couples that are equally good-looking or equally ugly as the case may be, tend to stay together longer than if there's a big difference. Of course, in the text book the example they use for the good looking couple is Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman so maybe they aren't completely correct. But, being polar opposites isn't good. Some couples work best if they are complementary to one another. For example, one person is needy and the other person likes to take care of people. Being too much alike can be bad (it's nice when one person knows about say plumbing and the other person knows how to cook) but being complete opposites leads to a lot of problems as well.

 

[Kitte]

Too much alike, or too different doesnt work. Oh it can for a while but in the end I really believe it can kill a relationship.

I am often attracted to men who are not like me, they are confident, successful, and have direction. While I am an insecure flake. In the end I have found that rather then them being too different they are too much like me. Which is worse for me. Imagine two insecure flakes. It sucks.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

you need both opposit and simalaritys.

if your total opposit you will never want to be with them for anything.

if there are no oposits in you two.
well you never have time apart.