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[painful_rapture]

So, I've been posting pretty often, nothing important or anything, but I find that on all of the 'fun' threads (games/challenges and whatnot) that you'll see a couple members...tag teaming (right word?). Is it rude to butt in? Should you just wait until they're done? I feel kind of awkward going to post something, and seeing two people basically having a public conversation. Not that I mind, I find it entertaining, I just don't want to be rude.

Let me know how you feel on the subject because I'm kind of at a loss. I'd appreciate some guidance.

 

[Corbal]

So, I've been posting pretty often, nothing important or anything, but I find that on all of the 'fun' threads (games/challenges and whatnot) that you'll see a couple members...tag teaming (right word?). Is it rude to butt in? Should you just wait until they're done? I feel kind of awkward going to post something, and seeing two people basically having a public conversation. Not that I mind, I find it entertaining, I just don't want to be rude.

Let me know how you feel on the subject because I'm kind of at a loss. I'd appreciate some guidance.

Do it. Post. Read the original post (OP) to make sure you're playing right and slide in. If someone skips you, keep going. Eventually they'll move on or someone will jump in and break up their back and forth. Don't let anyone discourage you from posting.

 

[painful_rapture]

Do it. Post. Read the original post (OP) to make sure you're playing right and slide in. If someone skips you, keep going. Eventually they'll move on or someone will jump in and break up their back and forth. Don't let anyone discourage you from posting.

That's what I've been doing, so I guess I'm in the clear Thanks for sharing. I wonder if anyone disagrees...

 

[seela]

That's what I've been doing, so I guess I'm in the clear Thanks for sharing. I wonder if anyone disagrees...

Not likely.

Welcome to the forum!

 

[soulfulfriend]

I agree with the previous posters and think as long as you read previous posts you should be welcome. I just think you need to join in to make friends and get to know people.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

So, I've been posting pretty often, nothing important or anything, but I find that on all of the 'fun' threads (games/challenges and whatnot) that you'll see a couple members...tag teaming (right word?). Is it rude to butt in? Should you just wait until they're done? I feel kind of awkward going to post something, and seeing two people basically having a public conversation. Not that I mind, I find it entertaining, I just don't want to be rude.

Let me know how you feel on the subject because I'm kind of at a loss. I'd appreciate some guidance.

Sometimes it's fun to be rude Really, though, those "fun" threads are meant for everyone who wants to play; if people want to have 1-on-1 flirts, that's what PMs are for. Sometimes, though, that just happens because they're the only two awake at a particular time.

 

[Dyslexicea]

So, I've been posting pretty often, nothing important or anything, but I find that on all of the 'fun' threads (games/challenges and whatnot) that you'll see a couple members...tag teaming (right word?). Is it rude to butt in? Should you just wait until they're done? I feel kind of awkward going to post something, and seeing two people basically having a public conversation. Not that I mind, I find it entertaining, I just don't want to be rude.

Let me know how you feel on the subject because I'm kind of at a loss. I'd appreciate some guidance.

Most of the time the more contributions to a thread the more interesting it is. I'm not the least bit shy, at times I'll even hijack a thread.

Sir_Winston54 is right, sometimes it can be fun to be rude but I'm sure some of the dudes think I'm the bitch from hell. I tend not to cut the guys much slack when I'm offended but strangely I'm much more civil when it's one of the women who's done so, maybe not so strange.

If I have something to say I just post it, although there are times I wish I'd given a little more thought and worded a few of my posts slightly more tactfully.

 

[painful_rapture]

Thanks!

Thanks for all of the shared opinions.
I don't want to be rude, so I'll just use common sense judgement.
Maybe other people were wondering the same thing and found their answers here

 

[Stella_Omega]

The thing about the internet, and about forums like this one-- there is ALWAYS ROOM for someone else.

Sometimes I think that tag teaming is the rude thing to do-- especially in a general thread.

If you want to blurt on the blurt thread and some couple of people have been going back and forth on it-- go ahead and blurt. They're the ones "breaking the rules" anyway, because that thread is supposed to be non-sequential.

If you have something to post that's to the topic and people have been ignoring the topic-- bringing it back is the mark of a good citizen

If people don't want to talk about the topic, they won't, that's all. Nothing bad will happen to you.

 

[Que]

Sometimes it's fun to be rude Really, though, those "fun" threads are meant for everyone who wants to play; if people want to have 1-on-1 flirts, that's what PMs are for. Sometimes, though, that just happens because they're the only two awake at a particular time.

If it appears the "couple" ARE ignoring others, then I think the "Polite" thing to do would be to hurl "GET A ROOM" at the offending couple.

It is polite because perhaps they forgot that they are posting in a public forum or are somehow unaware that they are obviously in the giddy throes of that first blush of attraction.

They will be embarrassed, possibly to the point of being offended. They will need to discuss it in private, discover PMs and 'voila!', you can rest the blessed rest of the righteous knowing you eased the lovebirds into a quite love nest.

That said, I HATE being skipped...I also HATE the lurkers that vulture the "would you perform such and such act upon the above poster" threads.

I don't have in those instances a specific stalkee in mind as I am an equal-opportunity within a non-gender-neutral-framework stalker. Still, I will have a clever (to me) rejoinder in mind and am never afforded the opportunity to use it. My work-around for such times is to just post in close time proximity to the vulture and assume it will look like we just happened to post at about the same time.

 

[drinkz]

If Query put as much effort into real life as he does trolling, maybe he would still have a marriage.

 

[Primalex]

I tend not to cut the guys much slack when I'm offended but strangely I'm much more civil when it's one of the women who's done so, maybe not so strange.

It's not strange, it's called sexism.

 

[peedrinker21]

It's not strange, it's called sexism.

exactly

 

[Dyslexicea]

I seem to have a fan club, both Primalex and peedrinker21, who's been here less than a month!

It's not strange, it's called sexism.

The only way you can know me is by interaction here at Lit and I assure you you'll never interact with me anywhere else, which has nothing to do with your gender, capisci.

(1)For me to be a sexist I'd have to have unfairly treated men. Not cutting most men, not all, slack is not treating men unfairly. I respond to posts by speaking my mind regardless of gender. The fact that I cut other women slack has nothing to do with sexism, if you can't figure out why, put two plus two together and I assure you the answer isn't three or five.

(2)For me to be a sexist I would have to behave in a way that fosters sexual stereotypes. I assure you I would never try to enforce male stereotypes, nor do I believe those stereotypes are real. In my opinion men who try to act macho are nothing but fake. By the way being dominant has nothing to do with being macho.

(3)I would have to be in a position to actually discriminate against men in a way which was sexist. In other words I would have to discriminate against men because I believed they were inferior to women. A belief I happen to not have.

I do admit to having a low regard for men as a whole but I assure you men have earned that. Regardless of overall regard for men there are many individual men I hold in high esteem. Even here at Lit there are those I can't help but respect.

If Primalex you consider me a sexist because I won't kiss your ass, I'll proudly wear that badge.