Opinion on open relationship

[KaitlynW1993]

My partner brought up open relationships and polyandry in our chat the other day. He thinks it could be liberating and wants me to feel free to explore and spend time with any man I want. He's all about freedom, love, and trust.

How would you react if your partner brought this up? What do you think about open relationships and polyandry?

Im on the same mind frame. So i would agree to it. a solid 20% of relationships go south though.

As long as your communication is solid. Everything goes on the table. rules, what can or cant be done.
What you are ok with or not ok with.

 

[BBCfan]

My partner brought up open relationships and polyandry in our chat the other day. He thinks it could be liberating and wants me to feel free to explore and spend time with any man I want. He's all about freedom, love, and trust.

How would you react if your partner brought this up? What do you think about open relationships and polyandry?

I was in an open relationship for 5 years.
Was very challenging but also liberating when I got over the jealousy. She also always put me/us first which helped.
I honestly got tired of persuing women and by end realized I only wanted one woman.

I told my now partner she could have some fun as long as she's honest but I'm good with just her.

 

[Wonderer67]

I’m 56. I’m probably having a bit of a midweek midlife crisis. (I know it’s only Monday)

My wife and I have been talking about this for several months. She’s not too keen on the idea and is fairly monogamous. I want to be honest and open and do not want to do anything on the sly.

I’m hopeful that we might be able to work something out. I’m not looking for anything other than sex, but I know has to be careful.

We are reading the ethical slut together. It’s a good book, but just too much content.

We have a very solid relationship and have the outline of some ground rules.

We’ll see how it goes…

 

[Naughtylo]

It works for us. We've been doing it for years.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

I believe all relationships should be "OPEN". No one "possesses" another human being.

 

[babygirl4u1966]

My partner brought up open relationships and polyandry in our chat the other day. He thinks it could be liberating and wants me to feel free to explore and spend time with any man I want. He's all about freedom, love, and trust.

How would you react if your partner brought this up? What do you think about open relationships and polyandry?

Maybe test him. Go to a bar, dressed really sexy, bring home a hot guy and let him has his way with you in the master bedroom. Then see how he reacts. Some guys enjoy seeing their wives used like that. If you find that he enjoyed you being used by other guys, would you continue? I'm guessing you would...

 

[magic_rat]

My partner and I are in an open (ENM) relationship and we swing. We've discussed poly - several of our friends are - but we've never met anyone we'd disrupt our relationship for.

It takes total honesty and a complete lack of jealousy for poly relationships to work. I've lost count of the number of times guys have suggested trying being poly (presumably because they want more pussy) who then backtrack a few months later when the wife is getting plenty of interest and nobody wants him. Depending on how it works out for you it's either a dream or a nightmare.

 

[nock]

He brought up this topic. But after discussing it with people here, I feel like he sees me as nothing but a sexual object, to give someone after he's satisfied.

I think for some people it works, but I'm not sure it works on the long run for them. However, when I read you suspecting he may only see you as a sexual object, I wonder if his suggestion has already affected your trust (assuming you wouldn't have had that thought before he brought up opening your relationship). I don't think it's easy to go back, as some say here. One of you might turn out to be unhappy about the arrangement, while the other would want to continue. But as I said, for some people it works. Plus: Isn't this site great, you can discuss this, and you can find people to chat and play-act any kind of non-vanilla situation.

 

[Wonderer67]

How would you react if your partner brought this up? What do you think about open relationships and polyandry?

I would love it if my wife brought it up. We have talked about it for some time, but have come up inconclusive for the moment on how to proceed and more importantly IF we want to proceed.

I don’t think it’s a dead idea. The timeing just isn’t right right now.

 

[nock]

Keiiii, maybe, sometimes, it is as easy and hot as that... at least the first time
https://www.literotica.com/s/my-date-2

 

[Britva415]

It takes [...] a complete lack of jealousy for poly relationships to work.

Jealous behavior, maybe.

"Complete lack of jealous feelings" is unrealistic. Successful polyams generally don't not-experience jealous feelings, they simply have a healthy relationship with them when they do experience them. Which is a skill that can be learned.

Jealousy isn't the only difficult feeling polyams or anyone in any type of relationship have to learn to manage. It's not really that different from the rest of them.

And by "manage" I don't mean "repress." To people who know what I'm talking about, that goes without saying, but to people who don't know what I'm talking about, repression might be the only emotional self-regulation tool they could think of, so, I'm spelling out that I'm not talking about that.

 

[Nowackosplease2]

He is possessive. Whenever I go out with my male friends, he keeps calling and asking what I'm doing and where I am. He even checks my location. That's why I wonder if he would be able to handle it if I actually slept with another man.

I have a great friend whose husband is the same way. If he is out, there is no issue. If she is out, he’s texting, showing up, etc. She just filed for divorce.

That is a VERY slippery slope.

 

[live4thebj]

Tried it and wasn’t crazy about it. Yes I know this is selfish but I wouldn’t mind us sharing a woman. I still hope one day she will let her bff fuck me and her bff would be okay with my fiancé eating her pussy.

 

[Islander55]

Tried it and wasn’t crazy about it. Yes I know this is selfish but I wouldn’t mind us sharing a woman. I still hope one day she will let her bff fuck me and her bff would be okay with my fiancé eating her pussy.

Basically you are saying that you want to have sex with other women but she should not have sex with other men.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

Basically you are saying that you want to have sex with other women but she should not have sex with other men.

Hi Islander. That idea is so antithetical to a loving open relationship. How does that old saying go: "What's good for the Gander is good for the Goose."

Share and share alike; or, don't share.

 

[Islander55]

Hi Islander. That idea is so antithetical to a loving open relationship. How does that old saying go: "What's good for the Gander is good for the Goose."

Share and share alike; or, don't share.

I do think both partners are better off if they can get something new now and then but it can't be one way.

 

[live4thebj]

Basically you are saying that you want to have sex with other women but she should not have sex with other men.

Yup

 

[Justfantasies]

open relationships can be fun once he accepts it is easier for her to find partners than him and that he might lose her to one of them

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Open relationships are cool. They're the future, but require a lot of honesty.

Poly can work well for some (my mother is, my dad not; it seems to suit them) but there seem to be a lot where the guy suggests it, the woman develops other relastionships, guy whines because he's not getting any. Same probably applied to a lot of open relationships.

Each to their own. Do what works for you but don't hurt others in the process.

 

[Justfantasies]

Open relationships are cool. They're the future, but require a lot of honesty.

Poly can work well for some (my mother is, my dad not; it seems to suit them) but there seem to be a lot where the guy suggests it, the woman develops other relastionships, guy whines because he's not getting any. Same probably applied to a lot of open relationships.

Each to their own. Do what works for you but don't hurt others in the process.

as i say, the guy needs to understand what he is getting himself into

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Totally. I was talking to a swinger guy a while ago, they're (he and his wife) on fabswingers and have singles profiles as well as a couples profile. She gets anything up to 50 messages a day from guys, he won't get 50 in his whole life. That's how it is.

 

[Islander55]

Yup

I guess that would work for some.