This is a serious question that may have been addressed. From the beginning of our wonderful relationship (20 years) my wife has only been able to have one orgasm during our love making sessions. Once the ooohs and aaahs are over for her and the cuddling slows, she remains sensitive and is not responsive to additional attention to her boobs or vagina. What to do? Sometimes it is just too good to just go to sleep or get out of bed. Thoughts???? I would love to tickle her to another couple of ooohs. One way or another.
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Snowman5933
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While I understand your desire to bring your wife to multiple orgasms, you should be willing to accept that it might not always be possible. My SO says her sensitive areas go numb after the big O. She's had more than one orgasm a few times that we've allowed 30-45 minutes downtime to recoupe and then make love or have oral sex a second time. Another thing we do from time to time is to slow our love making down, allowing alot more time for playing and laughing, and a very slow build up that usually ends with a big release. By the time we finish we're totally satisfied and exhausted. If you absolutely want round number 2, your going to have to communicate openly with your partner. I'm sure some of the women of lit will chime in with more great advice.
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If it's a g-spot orgasm, I can have multiples with no sensitivity issues whatsoever.
If it's my clit that's stimulated, however--whether it's done manually, orally, or with a vibe--then I become extremely sensitive to the point where it's difficult for me to clean up after sex. It's not painful--just really, really ticklish. But it's sensitive enough that I'm not interested in a repeat performance right away.
My breasts don't appear to be affected one way or another by my orgasms. Other ladies' mileage may vary.
If it's my clit that's stimulated, however--whether it's done manually, orally, or with a vibe--then I become extremely sensitive to the point where it's difficult for me to clean up after sex. It's not painful--just really, really ticklish. But it's sensitive enough that I'm not interested in a repeat performance right away.
My breasts don't appear to be affected one way or another by my orgasms. Other ladies' mileage may vary.
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I generally am easily multiple and my sensitivity depends on the intensity of each. There have been times when I have a very intense clitoral orgasm that if he tried to touch my clit again he'd be risking death. There are times when I have more of a wave of orgasms and my clit is fine and I welcome more touch. I can't remember any time my breasts becoming too sensitive.
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I am a one time cummer too.
Nothing I can do about it
My one is usually so huge it makes me weak. I personally couldn't handle a multiple like that
Nothing I can do about it
My one is usually so huge it makes me weak. I personally couldn't handle a multiple like that
throbbin bob
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work on the G-spot! see below technique i found (i think it was on Lit b-4?), anyway... i saved this to refer back to & it's great! also - although your not getting in for round 2 at this time, count your blessings she cums, a lot of guys have partners/spouses who can't cum via penetration!
THE TECHNIQUE
Quick Backgrounder
The G&A Spot(s) are a bunch of nerve clusters which trigger endorphines (natural painkillers) during child birth. These nerve concentrations are below the surface and protected. The clit is not protected and the nerves are right on the surface. Any guy who tries to handle a clit roughly usually gets a heel up the side of his head. The GSpot is different. Once it has been triggered you can NOT treat it like a clit. Beat it up! Guys have been taught to be gentle with "that " area. Yes for the clit. NO for the G&A's.
Basic Technique ideas:
#1: Make sure she goes for a tinkle (urinates) just prior to this. The best way to “experiment ” is for the woman to relax over a bunch of pillows, face down, bum up in the air and legs comfortably wide apart. In that position with her guy either at the side, straddling one leg or sort of in the middle, the best way is with his thumb - inserted and pointing down towards the bed. If you press the thumb into the vagina until the heel of the thumb is pressing into her lips the GSpot will be right under the fat part at the end of your thumb. It’s no harder to find than that. It is a small bump roughly the same size as that fat part at the end of your thumb too so it feels a little like there’s another thumb pressing back. (ALL women have this - all women may not react the same way) Start to rub it. You can rub like you’re trying to get a spot out - back and forth or sideways or in a circular motion - it doesn’t matter. DO NOT do it too hard at first but once it puffs up and gets a little hard, that's when you can get rough with it. She'll feel like she has to go for a pee about then. Ignore her. Hold her down. Tell her to go ahead. Ladies you aren't going to pee. It just comes from some kind of build-up and "about to release" feeling. Just hang on and tell him harder or faster to increase that feeling. The first time or two it takes a few minutes. Once you've done it a few times you can usually get the first orgasm in under two minutes - no matter what and then repeats every 30 seconds to a minute for as long as she can stand it. An average night means between 8 and 15 giant "O's". A marathon brings between 35 and 50 !!! Trouble walking the next day but Man) Man is it worth the shakes the next day.
#2 is: when you've triggered an orgasm, wait about 30 seconds, maybe a minute (no more)and then start again. Just as hard. Right away. It'll happen over and over as many times as you repeat it. DO NOT BE GENTLE !! Depending on what kind of shape she’s in, a slightly longer wait between orgasms is wise(ie. let her start to breathe again). My friends described those orgasms as like being hit by a train. It seems to involve the entire body. If they’ve never had a GSpot orgasm they are going to be amazed. When you do it to them again and again they will be astounded.
At that point an option that they all seem to enjoy is once she knows “that feel” she can climb on and ride you and position herself so that the end of your erection is hitting the same spot your thumb was hitting. She can then have a huge orgasm about every 10 to 20 downstrokes and keep that up until she melts or passes out. Then it’s time to cuddle.
One word of warning, guys, NEVER have her squat over your face, suck her clit and poke her GSPOT with your fingers. She will cum so hard and her pelvic thrusts will be so out of control that she will BREAK YOUR NOSE. Trust me on this. To combine the two (oral on the clit AND Gspot) she should be on her back and your face should be sideways to her.
THE TECHNIQUE
Quick Backgrounder
The G&A Spot(s) are a bunch of nerve clusters which trigger endorphines (natural painkillers) during child birth. These nerve concentrations are below the surface and protected. The clit is not protected and the nerves are right on the surface. Any guy who tries to handle a clit roughly usually gets a heel up the side of his head. The GSpot is different. Once it has been triggered you can NOT treat it like a clit. Beat it up! Guys have been taught to be gentle with "that " area. Yes for the clit. NO for the G&A's.
Basic Technique ideas:
#1: Make sure she goes for a tinkle (urinates) just prior to this. The best way to “experiment ” is for the woman to relax over a bunch of pillows, face down, bum up in the air and legs comfortably wide apart. In that position with her guy either at the side, straddling one leg or sort of in the middle, the best way is with his thumb - inserted and pointing down towards the bed. If you press the thumb into the vagina until the heel of the thumb is pressing into her lips the GSpot will be right under the fat part at the end of your thumb. It’s no harder to find than that. It is a small bump roughly the same size as that fat part at the end of your thumb too so it feels a little like there’s another thumb pressing back. (ALL women have this - all women may not react the same way) Start to rub it. You can rub like you’re trying to get a spot out - back and forth or sideways or in a circular motion - it doesn’t matter. DO NOT do it too hard at first but once it puffs up and gets a little hard, that's when you can get rough with it. She'll feel like she has to go for a pee about then. Ignore her. Hold her down. Tell her to go ahead. Ladies you aren't going to pee. It just comes from some kind of build-up and "about to release" feeling. Just hang on and tell him harder or faster to increase that feeling. The first time or two it takes a few minutes. Once you've done it a few times you can usually get the first orgasm in under two minutes - no matter what and then repeats every 30 seconds to a minute for as long as she can stand it. An average night means between 8 and 15 giant "O's". A marathon brings between 35 and 50 !!! Trouble walking the next day but Man) Man is it worth the shakes the next day.
#2 is: when you've triggered an orgasm, wait about 30 seconds, maybe a minute (no more)and then start again. Just as hard. Right away. It'll happen over and over as many times as you repeat it. DO NOT BE GENTLE !! Depending on what kind of shape she’s in, a slightly longer wait between orgasms is wise(ie. let her start to breathe again). My friends described those orgasms as like being hit by a train. It seems to involve the entire body. If they’ve never had a GSpot orgasm they are going to be amazed. When you do it to them again and again they will be astounded.
At that point an option that they all seem to enjoy is once she knows “that feel” she can climb on and ride you and position herself so that the end of your erection is hitting the same spot your thumb was hitting. She can then have a huge orgasm about every 10 to 20 downstrokes and keep that up until she melts or passes out. Then it’s time to cuddle.
One word of warning, guys, NEVER have her squat over your face, suck her clit and poke her GSPOT with your fingers. She will cum so hard and her pelvic thrusts will be so out of control that she will BREAK YOUR NOSE. Trust me on this. To combine the two (oral on the clit AND Gspot) she should be on her back and your face should be sideways to her.
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I don't always cum, so I'd be thrilled if I came once every time.
Be sure not to pressure her about this. If she's happy with your sex life, then you're obviously pleasing her and don't need to worry. If you want longer sessions, Snowman gave good advice - slow build up to a big release with lots of play time is very satisfying for me.
I don't have g-gasms unless it's with a vibe, so that's not a route to multiples for me. Every woman is different, and it's fun experimenting, so give that a try, but don't expect too much. Expectations are what kills the fun a lot of times.
Be sure not to pressure her about this. If she's happy with your sex life, then you're obviously pleasing her and don't need to worry. If you want longer sessions, Snowman gave good advice - slow build up to a big release with lots of play time is very satisfying for me.
I don't have g-gasms unless it's with a vibe, so that's not a route to multiples for me. Every woman is different, and it's fun experimenting, so give that a try, but don't expect too much. Expectations are what kills the fun a lot of times.
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Norajane said:I don't always cum, so I'd be thrilled if I came once every time.
Be sure not to pressure her about this. If she's happy with your sex life, then you're obviously pleasing her and don't need to worry. If you want longer sessions, Snowman gave good advice - slow build up to a big release with lots of play time is very satisfying for me.
I don't have g-gasms unless it's with a vibe, so that's not a route to multiples for me. Every woman is different, and it's fun experimenting, so give that a try, but don't expect too much. Expectations are what kills the fun a lot of times.
well said, if she's happy with just the one orgasm, don't make her feel bad for not having multiples. Expectations will most likely kill the fun, and she may not orgasm at all if she's too worried about being too sensitive for another afterwards
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I guess I'll have to consider all you nice ladies' comments, and accept that my wife is most often a one-timer. Sometimes, she'll come more than once but as I was saying in the other thread "How to tell if a woman has an orgasm", It's darn hard for me to tell sometimes. And it shouldn't bother me so much IF she IS satisfied, but it does make me feel as though, IF, I could do better ......
I fully realize that not every woman comes every time, hey, sometimes I don't either, when I'm tired, stressed, worried etc. but I'm at least willing to try to improve and experiment. I tried talking to her about Mr.G's famous "Try this and report..." technique, but her response just about floored me. She said "I don't think I have a G spot". She has been an R.N. for over 30 years and has many of the old stand by sex books on her bookshelf since before we met, and she reads the "womans' magazines" too, so it "ain't because she hasn't heard it before".
I just don't know, and she doesn't really talk about it. It's as if she is afraid to try. I'd try almost anything tohave that kind of powerful multiples, and I don't think I can get her to try and of the prostate stimulating techniques on me, it isn't as much fun alone.
I fully realize that not every woman comes every time, hey, sometimes I don't either, when I'm tired, stressed, worried etc. but I'm at least willing to try to improve and experiment. I tried talking to her about Mr.G's famous "Try this and report..." technique, but her response just about floored me. She said "I don't think I have a G spot". She has been an R.N. for over 30 years and has many of the old stand by sex books on her bookshelf since before we met, and she reads the "womans' magazines" too, so it "ain't because she hasn't heard it before".
I just don't know, and she doesn't really talk about it. It's as if she is afraid to try. I'd try almost anything tohave that kind of powerful multiples, and I don't think I can get her to try and of the prostate stimulating techniques on me, it isn't as much fun alone.
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Norajane and bob's girl
I'm no expert and I can't stray, but I would be more than happy to try with a woman who wants to TRY!
I'm no expert and I can't stray, but I would be more than happy to try with a woman who wants to TRY!
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