Online Relationships : Do Genuine Loving relationships happen Online ?

[DreamMerchant7]

Does Attraction and Love happen at a place like LIT ?

Even if, two people may not necessarily be with each other ,due to real life Commitments, is it possible to find genuine attraction and fulfillment in the World of Virtual dating ? Can that be a source of Strength and Love ?

Sexual play, Emotional fulfillment, Friendship, Togetherness and Genuine unconditional Love - Would that happen online ?

I am a 38 years old male, who is a Latebloomer. I once treasured and experienced an intimate Online relationship, with a woman who was 15 years older to me. The Best Thing, I have ever had in my life.Yes, I treasure Mature women, but most importantly it all depends on the connection ,two people spark in each other. I desire such an connect and wonder, if such possibilities happen at LITEROTICA.

Has anybody ever had such an experience here ? Is it possible ? Would you like to share ?

 

[LTMMC]

YES and NO, dream merchant

YES, I have had one, actually more than one. And NO, I am not ready to share any of them with you.

But I sure wish you luck one more time. Because that is what you will need, first of all. Women like you described your first virtual encounter, do not grow on trees.

 

[LTMMC]

some sharing

I was wondering: perhaps I can share a few thoughts with you on loving relationships in the virtual realm only. I would guess the woman you were involved with before had a strong need for what you gave to her. And most likely you had strong needs yourself. IMHO, one of the most significant motives for developing affection for one another.

The second “prerequisite” for a virtual affair turning into affection: listening to each other closely, and responding in kind. Again a strong need often drives responsiveness automatically.

And then there is one factor, which actually favors virtual relationships over RL ones: internet conversations often turn out less inhibited than face-to-face ones. Which can lead to mail relationships becoming filled with deeper expectations. And ideally to expectations getting fulfilled actually. Maybe easier by mail than in real life?.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Insightful

Very insightful answers,LTMMC !

Each of the aspects that you have shared here is true. You were correct about the strong needs.But then don't we all have them ? Some gets fulfilled and some remain, in the dream-space in the world of fantasies.

Yes internet connections are more uninhibited, they gives us the freedom to be whom we truly are - beyond the constructs of real life boundaries and in some way, it also helps build meaningfully deep connections. Yes I do yearn for such a kind of connection,once more. I don't know if there are women out there, who aspire for the same - but it is nice to know that somebody has experienced the positive aspects of such a kind of connection, JUST like I once had.

By the way,I was not asking you or expecting anybody to share THEM with me, but just your./their experiences. Very informative comments. I appreciate it, LTMMC.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Was I too naive to dream of finding such a lady at LIT ?

Any feedback/comments, Ladies ?

Should I drop this search or thread altogether ??

Or perhaps........perhaps dreams come true ?

 

[jenai88]

It can happen

Any feedback/comments, Ladies ?

Should I drop this search or thread altogether ??

Or perhaps........perhaps dreams come true ?

I think the search is worthwhile. I have had fulfilling online relationships outside of Lit with individuals that spoke to my soul and will be remembered warmly with gratitude that the person intersected on my life journey as li enjoyed that connection while it lasted. We are all so varied in the connection we seek it does feel A bit like looking for a needle in the haystack to find the true gem that will fit into your spaces and meet the self determined needs you seek to have filled. But when you light upon the right connection and find one another it is an amazing feeling and an experience of great worth.

J.

 

[Jada59]

Yes it's possible but... If it's a strictly online relationship, it will be lacking. At some point, you're going to want to be with that person for real. And if that can't happen, it will be over.

For me? I don't want any more LDRs. Only the real thing.

 

[LTMMC]

Yes it's possible but... If it's a strictly online relationship, it will be lacking. At some point, you're going to want to be with that person for real. And if that can't happen, it will be over.

For me? I don't want any more LDRs. Only the real thing.

dear Better-Knower Jada! I would not have expected anything else from you than this.

Let me acquaint you with a fact you may find uncomfortable, but it is worth noting anyway: what you believe personally is immaterial! Because the world is NOT revolving around Jada59

 

[Awallflower]

Yes it's possible but... If it's a strictly online relationship, it will be lacking. At some point, you're going to want to be with that person for real. And if that can't happen, it will be over.

For me? I don't want any more LDRs. Only the real thing.

All relationships are lacking at some point online or real life.

I’m searching for something similar I’ve felt it before - but always briefly. Maybe one month in online time is like two years in real life - it runs its course quite quickly from my experience.

 

[Lady2020]

dear Better-Knower Jada! I would not have expected anything else from you than this.

Let me acquaint you with a fact you may find uncomfortable, but it is worth noting anyway: what you believe personally is immaterial! Because the world is NOT revolving around Jada59

I sense some irrelevant hostitlity. I can definitely understand where Jada is coming from.

Good luck to the OP.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

I think the search is worthwhile. I have had fulfilling online relationships outside of Lit with individuals that spoke to my soul and will be remembered warmly with gratitude that the person intersected on my life journey as li enjoyed that connection while it lasted. We are all so varied in the connection we seek it does feel A bit like looking for a needle in the haystack to find the true gem that will fit into your spaces and meet the self determined needs you seek to have filled. But when you light upon the right connection and find one another it is an amazing feeling and an experience of great worth.

J.

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Thanks for pitching in Jenai. You have brought some really good vibes here, to my thread. I feel that too, the search is worthwhile. But then the heart's longing just intensifies with time. You are blessed to have experienced that kind of a connection. A time also comes,when there is a natural progression from the virtual to real ( especially where the emotions are strong and the desires mutual ). That is a call to be taken,enjoyed and explored. In my own case,I waited too long, procrastinated and a time came when frustrations creeped in and slowly the relationship phased out. Though I did learn a lot from that experience,the true gift was this fulfillment - this oneness I felt with the person, sexually, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. In a world where nothing is permanent, perhaps this kind of a experience is worth having - again & again. I really loved your answer Jenai...
Pawan

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Yes, I can relate with that too !

Yes it's possible but... If it's a strictly online relationship, it will be lacking. At some point, you're going to want to be with that person for real. And if that can't happen, it will be over.

For me? I don't want any more LDRs. Only the real thing.

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You are so true, Jada. That is exactly why,my first ever experience failed. Both of us waited for far too long. I procrastinated, was too slow to act out. Actually we still deeply love and care for each other, but she waited too long, reached a point where she chose a different path, a new relationship with somebody closer because It was hard not to be together. I still carry a deep regret..And that has been a soul crushing experience for me. But yet - the Love - the connection and the fulfillment that I found from a virtual connection which blossomed into "something more"...has been a deeply worthwhile experience. These things are not planned, it happens. I have also learnt that, the best things in life should not be waited out. One has to jump in and grab it,while it is still there.

Nice to know that this kind of connection can still happen here.And in my case, I am now ready to make it worthwhile.
Thanks for the input Jada.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Everybody's perception is based on their Experiences !

dear Better-Knower Jada! I would not have expected anything else from you than this.

Let me acquaint you with a fact you may find uncomfortable, but it is worth noting anyway: what you believe personally is immaterial! Because the world is NOT revolving around Jada59

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Dear LTMMC,

Let us just respect and honor each other's views like mature people. In our world, each of us has a thing called free will. It is experiences that essentially mold a person's thoughts/perceptions. I started this thread to get personal feedback from everybody who wanted to share, good or bad.

I am not sure why your voice is a bit hostile, but I do feel that you are a very kind and understanding gentleman,who would understand that everybody has the right to express,whatever they feel is right or wrong. I started this thread in my own search for meaning and possibly to find those who could relate to what I expressed in my previous posts.

Thanks,
Pawan

 

[Butterflygurl1]

Yes, it is difficult when you experience a good connection with somebody and you know you will never really be together. But you can still benefit from having known the person, having them in your heart. The leaving hurts as much as RL, but it can be well worth it while it’s going on. You never know what interesting people you can meet until you leave yourself open for the meeting
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[DreamMerchant7]

Lovely !

All relationships are lacking at some point online or real life.

I’m searching for something similar I’ve felt it before - but always briefly. Maybe one month in online time is like two years in real life - it runs its course quite quickly from my experience.

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Hmm, that is so true Wallflower. Over time, all relationships are lacking at some point - Online and real life ! I feel that adaptation, mindfulness and the art of true sincere listening/connecting between partners is the magic sauce that can make any relationship worthwhile.

You have brought a bit of joy to this thread. I am happy that you chimed in. It gives me support, positivity and the excitement of the start of something new !!

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Yes, I understand her too. Thanks for joining.

I sense some irrelevant hostitlity. I can definitely understand where Jada is coming from.

Good luck to the OP.

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In a world where change is the only "permanent", I think every relationship goes through its ups & downs. A relationship like this can be so special/intense/fulfilling and worthwhile that the progression from virtual to real ,is natural. If that does not last long, the pain and hurt is also mind-numbing. But Love lives on. I think Hope is what eggs us all on. Even the ones,who have never had such an experience possibly carry a desire for such a thing which is divine as long as it lasts.

I do appreciate Jada's remarks and also everybody who jumped in to support this thread. I also want to thank you Lady2020 for adding your bit.

This truly adds to my learning and search......for meaning !

 

[DreamMerchant7]

What a beautiful piece of wisdom, ButterflyGurl !!

Yes, it is difficult when you experience a good connection with somebody and you know you will never really be together. But you can still benefit from having known the person, having them in your heart. The leaving hurts as much as RL, but it can be well worth it while it’s going on. You never know what interesting people you can meet until you leave yourself open for the meeting
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You have put it so well, Butterflygurl. Glad to have found your acquaintance here. There are a hundred instances where one's life's circumstances and responsibilities might act as a hindrance in the real life fulfillment of Long distance relationships. The true aspects all humans long for is To be Loved, Cared for, Respected, Explored/Enjoyed for what they truly are. Beyond the physical,the first connection is the spark that happens from a emotional/mental connection. I suppose during the journey we can learn a lot,while being unconditional mirrors to each other - fulfilling the deepest desires of what makes us human. The desire for the real is as intense and natural as much as its is needed. And in many cases it happens and some rare ones phase out/shift. But yet, this is a once in a lifetime thing to aspire for.

I really loved reading your inputs. Much appreciated.

 

[Jada59]

dear Better-Knower Jada! I would not have expected anything else from you than this.

Let me acquaint you with a fact you may find uncomfortable, but it is worth noting anyway: what you believe personally is immaterial! Because the world is NOT revolving around Jada59

Yep. You're showing your true colors. Back under another name. Ick.

In case you hadn't noticed, I don't get uncomfortable.

 

[Jada59]

All relationships are lacking at some point online or real life.

I’m searching for something similar I’ve felt it before - but always briefly. Maybe one month in online time is like two years in real life - it runs its course quite quickly from my experience.

No, not all RL relationships are lacking.

But the problem with online relationships is that you can't really touch that other person or kiss them or... Yanno?

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Very Insightful answers, everybody !

This has been a eyeopener.

I suppose I got a view of the different possibilities that can still happen,if two willing hearts meet here,online. Honestly, I had lost hope. The lockdown blues were intense too, not having somebody to connect or relate to. At LIT,my experiences has been varied. Most just want a rp and they disappear. For me, an authentic connection, the way I once experienced/treasured was a natural approach to opening up ,to my more sensual or intimate self.

But it is like looking for a needle in a haystack ,right ? Worth it, I suppose ! Perhaps dreams does come true...

Appreciate all you ladies, who took their time to share their thoughts. But are there more insights to the possibilities ? Any Real time experiences ? What do you truly desire/wish in such a connection ?

Desires ? Fantasies ? Genuine Love & Caring ? Dreams & Sexual expression ? Would you seek & desire all of these ? And what if this is not a mere fantasy !

Inviting everybody to share, especially if you rhyme with the possibilities......

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Does Attraction and Love happen at a place like LIT ?

Even if, two people may not necessarily be with each other ,due to real life Commitments, could two people find genuine attraction and fulfillment in the World of Virtual dating ? Can that be a source of Strength and Love ?

Sexual play, Emotional fulfillment, Friendship, Togetherness and Genuine unconditional Love - Would that happen online ?

I am a 38 years old male, who is a Latebloomer. I once treasured and experienced an intimate Online relationship, with a woman who was 15 years older to me. The Best Thing, I have ever had in my life.Yes, I treasure Mature women, but most importantly it all depends on the connection ,two people spark in each other. I desire such an connect and wonder, if such possibilities happen at LITEROTICA.

Has anybody ever had such an experience here ? Is it possible ? Would you like to share ?

I met my current lover here on Lit. We started out cyber sexting, sexting, phone sex, then I helped him with logistics to move closer to me. Because of CoVID he has had a rough time getting a job. However, we have been together off and on, and I am separating from my husband.
I would like to think it is possible as he and I are talking about him living with me when I move out in November.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Lucky Ones - You Two ! My Best Wishes.

I met my current lover here on Lit. We started out cyber sexting, sexting, phone sex, then I helped him with logistics to move closer to me. Because of CoVID he has had a rough time getting a job. However, we have been together off and on, and I am separating from my husband.
I would like to think it is possible as he and I are talking about him living with me when I move out in November.

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That is special, BigBoobbabe. That truly deserves a mention on this Thread or on the Literotica Boards. It sounds like a natural developments of two hearts desiring each other and finding the space to be together. My Best Wishes for you and your lover.

I do desire that. Appreciate you, sharing your story.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

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That is special, BigBoobbabe. That truly deserves a mention on this Thread or on the Literotica Boards. It sounds like a natural developments of two hearts desiring each other and finding the space to be together. My Best Wishes for you and your lover.

I do desire that. Appreciate you, sharing your story.

I may have failed to mention he is 33 and I am 55. I have asked him why he would get tied up with someone who cannot have kids. It didn't seem to bother him.

He sees me as the most beautiful woman in the world, and tells me that fairly regularly. He was willing to walk away if I was committed to making my marriage work. Said my husband is a fool if he doesn't want to do that.

Hubby is a fool!

 

[Jada59]

I sense some irrelevant hostitlity. I can definitely understand where Jada is coming from.

Good luck to the OP.

Yep. The OP is cool. This guy is a poster who I know under another name and what I know of him isn't pretty. He likes to attack women.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Your Lover is correct ! True Love & Connection go beyond Age & Color.

I may have failed to mention he is 33 and I am 55. I have asked him why he would get tied up with someone who cannot have kids. It didn't seem to bother him.

He sees me as the most beautiful woman in the world, and tells me that fairly regularly. He was willing to walk away if I was committed to making my marriage work. Said my husband is a fool if he doesn't want to do that.

Hubby is a fool!

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I am 38 now. That is the exact kind of a relationship I once had. ( If you did read my original post ). Treasure it. It is special to have something like that in real. To progress from the virtual world to the Real world and find someone who is unconditional and loves you.

I appreciate you sharing this over here. It brought memories and desires back. My best wishes !!