online play vs real life and loosing sig other

[lostsavage]

fighting the jelosy monster

My Sig other is playing in an on-line D/s relationship. In her words it is just an on line thing, And to be honest we are in an open relationship sexually. We are both new to all of this.

the Jealousy I have is that she is showing some very erotic attention on the D in her on line life. Emotional attention I would love to get. I am getting the best sex out of this, but the emotions seems to stay online.

Is this normal at first?

Lost

 

[FurryFury]

There can be a great deal of obsession at first. Online can involve a great deal of emotion. However one should not IMO, lose emotional feelings for your RL SO, because of it.

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

Didn't you originally post that you had to basically drag the information out of her and only after you had discovered it all by accident? If so, there is your answer in terms of how worried you should be and how serious it could become. If someone is in an open relationship sexually, and find it difficult to tell you anything about someone else they have been involved with online or in RL, it is a good sign that all is not as you had both agreed it should remain in terms of playing with others but remaining a couple yourselves...IOW, it is more than just sowing your oats elsewhere for some casual fun.

Catalina

 

[Etoile]

My Sig other is playing in an on-line D/s relationship. In her words it is just an on line thing, And to be honest we are in an open relationship sexually. We are both new to all of this.

the Jealousy I have is that she is showing some very erotic attention on the D in her on line life. Emotional attention I would love to get. I am getting the best sex out of this, but the emotions seems to stay online.

Is this normal at first?

Lost

Although Catalina's comments about what you may have originally posted make me a bit suspicious of how okay you really are with this, I'll go based on the post I'm seeing right now.

If I understand right, you're concerned that she's not showing you affection. If you want affection and you're not getting it, you need to let her know. It is so easy to let something like this fester and it ends up wrecking the relationship. Even couples who practice polyamory still have to re-evaluate things sometimes. Poly can require negotiations the same way BDSM can. Let her know what level of "open relationship" you're comfortable with, and let her know what you need from her in order for YOU to be happy. She should do the same - let you know what SHE needs to be happy. Discussion is the only way for relationships like this to be successful.