Online/Long Distance Relationship: How Long Do They Last?

[cutie pie]

I'm just curious. . .being relatively new to the online scene.

Online/long distance relationships require more effort, better communication and a higher level of a trust than a traditional relationship. I'm discovering this firsthand.

Obviously, you think it's worth it, or you wouldn't stick around. But, for those of you with more experience, how long does this type of relationship last? Does it just fade away? How do you make it work??

I'm aware that there are a multitude of reasons for becoming involved in a LDR.

Please share you experiences, be it good or bad, here.

Thanks!

 

[lovetoread]

My LDR lasted 5 months.

We talked all the time,emailed,im'd,and made visits to each other.

Now we are together and its great.

But let me tell you,it was hard,very hard. Especially when you need his arms around you,when you need that body moving above you,or when you need a human touch.....

phone sex was good,dont get me wrong,but it wasnt enough. I dont think that I could have had a very long LDR,as the need to be with him physically was overpowering.

Coupled with the fact that ours is not a regular type of relationship and it makes it doubly hard.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Mine last about 45 seconds.

"You're sexy. I wanna do everything to you in your stories and make some news ones up."

"Cool! Can the StudMuffin come? If he promises to kill you quickly rather than let you linger?"


I never hear back. Is it my breath?

 

[SweetCherry]

18 months as a "relationship" but 2 years of knowing him. We're doing just fine, but I admit there's times I miss having his arms around me.

*sigh*

 

[BustyTheClown]

I'm happy to say that I've been in my online, LDR relationship for nearly two and a half years, and we've known each other for three. What's better is that we don't show any signs of slowing down. He's in England and I'm in America, so we *really* went for the title of long-distance, lol.

I can't believe I'm saying this, but we have been fortunate enough to have our relationship be riddled with hard times. My parents were okay with my relationship with him at first, but as time went on and he and I didn't show signs of slowing down, they got very worried. (I was 16 when we met, and he was 19, which is why my parents were concerned.) They dismissed my feelings for him as just a childish crush, and when I didn't "lose" my crush on him, they gave us more and more trouble. To make a long story short, we stayed together even when we weren't supposed to, and those were the toughest damn couple of months of my life, and for him too. But we just knew we had to stay together, you know? Breaking up was just not an option for us, so we just carried on with our lives, sneaking in calls and e-mails whenever we could, telling ourselves that the situation would right itself in time and we just had to wait it out.

I hope to god that not everyone who has an online/long-distance relationship has to deal with the hell that we were put through, but for us it really strengthened our love and trust for each other. Even though I've never wanted to be apart from him, after what we went through, I can never imagine leaving him unless something *really* goes wrong with our relationship. He's been able to visit twice last year, and this year I'm going to England to be with him and his family all summer. We didn't meet until we'd been together for over a year, and I think that was the best thing for us to do, because we were so totally comfortable when we finally met it was like we hadn't ever been apart.

There are still hard times, when things go wrong with him or with you and you just feel terrible that you can't be together; there are times when you do something that really angers him (unfortunately, I'm the only one who seems to make those kinds of mistakes) and you can't stand knowing that he is so far away, when the only thing you want to do is hold him and tell him how sorry you are. There's stuff like that in every relationship, but it's magnified when you can't be together, you know?

But to me, it's worth it. If it wasn't for the internet, I'd never have felt as complete as I do, and I'd never have found the man I know I'm meant to be with. I hope your experience(s), if not permanent or even romantic, are pleasant ones that bring you more happiness than pain. Good luck! It really is worth the wait and being apart.

 

[shynsexy]

i had only one online/ldr to a sweet man in canada, i live in texas....it lasted a year.. what fun times thanks for helping bring a memory back to life

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I am in a long distance relationship ... we met almost 4 yrs ago this coming summer... and we are still together.

I tend to travel to where he is at when he goes out on business, I have that luxury or he will come see me ... we are okay.

But at times it gets hard, we miss one another very much. I trust him with all my heart, besides he can not lie to me ... I know when he lies.

 

[Cheyenne]

*bump* for evening input.

 

[Siren]

Online relationships?

 

[Reverie]

I've had an email penpal for over a year and the relationship was very close (epic letters every day) but has never progressed passed intense flirting. I wish it would but it doesn't seem likely since we live in different countries. I'm afraid that lately we've sort of drifted a bit apart and I was wondering if you all have any suggestions for rekindling the spark in a long distance relationship?

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Hi Cutie pie

Oman and I are about 7 months into our "online" relationship. We met face-to-face last February when he visited NYC for a week, and we are now in the process of working out a plan for actually being together full-time. It's difficult for me to separate "on" and "off" now since he is a real part of each day, and we are an official "couple" to those who know us offline (as well as online). I hope it lasts forever!

It is terribly frustrating to be separated right now, and I'm not sure how I could handle this if we didn't have the intention of ultimately being together.

 

[Laurel]

Mine last about 45 seconds.

"You're sexy. I wanna do everything to you in your stories and make some news ones up."

"Cool! Can the StudMuffin come? If he promises to kill you quickly rather than let you linger?"


I never hear back. Is it my breath?

I have the same problem! Only I don't write stories and I have a Manu, not a Studmuffin.

Long distance relationships would drive me crazy.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I'll work on that...

Not only does the stud think I'm mad, the monster wants do Dinosaur me to death. He is a bright kid though.

 

[lickerish]

how long do they last? well from my only experience...

6 months, give or take. Ask him *points up*.

 

[Sateema Lunasi]

Two of my close friends who have been together for nearly four years broke up last weekend because their relationship became long distance. She went to law school, he went to med school. They tried to make it work for nearly a year after it went different directions, but alas, nothing could save it. They love each other but they don't want to be unhappy because they have to be alone. So they split up. So, after seeing that as well as many other LD relationships split up I would say it requires something very special to make it work. Of course everyone likes to think they have that something special to make it work, but usually it doesn't work anyway.

As for Online relationships, I am extremely skepticle of them, since it doesn't seem that an online relationship would fulfill what really needs to be fulfilled in a person. Also, it seems too "safe" like "he is there but not really so he cannot mess with me." It is too easy to lie online. But that is just my opinion. I have no experience with that. I do know a friend who had an online relationship with aguy for a few months and it turned out very bad, so that makes me even more skepticle of it.