Online Dating

[bluntforcemama]

I have a few curiosities... can anyone tell me about their experiences with online dating? I'm always finding lovely people online that I wouldn't mind knowing in person... but there's always that nagging conscience in the back of my head that warns me of doing it.

 

[Royal_Prince]

Myst- ive done it a couple of times (using love@aol.com) they have been really nice gals too but usually i find that the pictures i received were always a little outdated... and then when i say ah um.... I feel like a heel cause i shouldnt care about looks. I really don't i think i care more about deception. If i knew straight away- looks wouldnt matter.

Good thing im in a steady realationship now- cause meeting someone is tuff work

http://members.aol.com/rogernprince/myhomepage/crown2.jpg

 

[R Nitelight]

Myst

Distance kills.



Sorry. Mine just ended, so your timing is impeccable.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Sorry to hear that, R. I always wonder if people are really the same as they are in real life when they're online. I mean, online, you're forced to talk, or else silence prevails, and there's nothing else to do. But in person, sometimes my other half and I can go for hours without speaking, and be perfectly content.

 

[Royal_Prince]

what i found

is if you know a person on line very well, then yeah basicly they are the same. However there is this VERY quiet, nervous stage you go through where you wonder if you know the person at all....then somewhere along the line you start to talk.... and you start to say, there's the person I used to know on line...(does that make sense?)


http://members.aol.com/rogernprince/myhomepage/crown2.jpg

 

[TN_Vixen]

it's a little of both

first off, I NEVER present myself in any other way that isn't real. I don't think that's fair to do, however, it has been done to me before so it is a possibility.

BUT, I've met 2 genuine people over the net that I connected with who are sincere and lovely people and my life would be less rich had I not experienced it.

Be careful with whom you interact and always be honest about yourself. ALWAYS. I cannot stress that enough.

 

[Ksss]

I have met several people in RL, that I have talked to online for over a year now. Both are just like they are in RL as they are online. And yes, the key is to ALWAYS be yourself, if that's what you expect in return. But then again, unfortunately, not everyone feels this way.

 

[Problem Child]

Royal Prince and Ksss...

I'm glad that you have found the people you've met to act the same online and in RL. Let me just add that this is NOT ALWAYS THE CASE. I'm not yelling at you here, just going for emphasis...

I have had two relationships where I talked to and e-mailed another person that lived out-of-state for weeks (even a few months), before we finally met.

The first was a very nice person, and I still care for her deeply. We stopped seeing each other for reasons I won't get into here, but it was nothing terrible.

The second person was a night mare. I won't get into all the details, but basically she was (is) a psycho. Totally different in RL than I had imagined she would be. I spent several weeks after seeing her wondering how I could have been so wrong in my perception of her. As I analysed the situation, I realised all the warning signs were there, but I had ignored them.

Of course, I have had many relationships closer to home that started on the web. My experience is that they are generally easier because you meet sooner and there is not as big a "build-up" to the meeting. If you don't hit it off, you simply go your separate ways.

What's the lesson I learned? Trust your instincts. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.

 

[Royal_Prince]

cum to think about it

there was this one psycho girl that after one date said "i don't think you are putting as much into this relationship as me"

I screamed and ran for the hills

http://members.aol.com/rogernprince/myhomepage/crown2.jpg

 

[Iris]

I know it's not fair to judge a whole concept on one experience but mine was so bad I would never date online again. I thought I had a potential boyfriend, what I ended up with was a stalker. I think that says enough.

My take on it is there's plenty of great people you can meet in the flesh every day. Why not try?

 

[Royal_Prince]

bingo

you nailed it iris

http://members.aol.com/rogernprince/myhomepage/crown2.jpg

 

[LittleRedDevil]

Re: Myst

Distance kills.



Sorry. Mine just ended, so your timing is impeccable.

I hear that one. Distance kills a lot of things.