Online bullies

[KeithD]

There's a flip side to that, though, which is that "deviance" is to some degree nothing more than a matter of perspective, taste, and whim, and is in fact completely "normal." It amuses--and sometimes concerns--me to see the amount of squeamishness people display in this forum, or the suggestion that there's something abnormal or unhealthy about sex stories. Shouldn't the participants of this forum, of all people, be beyond that sort of thinking?

One would think so, but I'm always surprised about that.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I think he was a thoughtful person who reflected on his actions, and corrected them when he recognized that he made a mistake. I remember one story he told about snapping at his grandson, and apologizing to him the next day.

His wife said in a documentary about him that he loved to fart in public.

https://allthatsinteresting.com/mister-rogers-farts

For a minute there I thought you meant Reginald Christie.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

There's a flip side to that, though, which is that "deviance" is to some degree nothing more than a matter of perspective, taste, and whim, and is in fact completely "normal." It amuses--and sometimes concerns--me to see the amount of squeamishness people display in this forum, or the suggestion that there's something abnormal or unhealthy about sex stories. Shouldn't the participants of this forum, of all people, be beyond that sort of thinking?

TBF every time I use squeamishness, tis always for comic effect.

 

[KeithD]

They frequently operate in packs, resembling wild dogs, fueling each other's bad behavior. They hypocritically praise each other's writing or talent in a repulsive circle of canine butt-sniffing.

I've experienced that first assertion on the AH--from some still posting here. The second assertion once was strong here but doesn't seem to happen much anymore on the AH.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Online bullies are not a big problem. You click ignore and they are gone.

The real problem is enablers, those who will give the bully a pat on the back when the bully's rant is one they agree with or their target is someone they dislike. They encourage the bully and marginalize the bully's victims.

You don't have to look very far to see examples of that.

 

[Djmac1031]

Online bullies are not a big problem. You click ignore and they are gone.

Unfortunately, it's not that easy for some.

Most of us can laugh the bullies off, ignore and block and move on.

But for others, it's an attack they take personally, and it hurts.

 

[stickygirl]

Amen to that, but defining bullying is not as simple as it seems. Just as those with mental issues may never acknowledge their abnormal behavior, bullies often refuse to admit their actions. They frequently operate in packs, resembling wild dogs, fueling each other's bad behavior. They hypocritically praise each other's writing or talent in a repulsive circle of canine butt-sniffing.

I doubt anyone takes seriously the clowns who run their mouths or make threats. The true bullies, as I see it, are the ones in suits. They maintain a facade of politeness and eloquence, yet the toxicity they unleash is more lethal than a Cobalt-60 isotope. They have a tendency to fabricate baseless claims solely to mock others and present themselves as intellectually superior... well... until they face a real bull. That's when they usually scramble, shrieking about being victimized.

While it is generally advisable to ignore them, I personally prefer to barbecue them.

You 'doubt anyone takes seriously...' because you've clearly never experienced it and that's why you're dismissive of it. That's a comfortable place you speak from.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I have definitely experienced it: anonymous emails and comments filled with threats and death wishes. However, as the saying goes, a barking dog doesn't bite. It merely confirmed to me that I was on the right track, that I had struck a nerve. In response, I chose to publish more stories, one after another.

Even here, my harassers believe that they can silence me by repeatedly labeling me as a troll. Well, that's not going to happen. The simple truth is that they are nothing more than meaningless pixels on my screen.

We become offended only when we choose to be offended, because sometimes we find pleasure in feeling miserable and victimized.

Which is your experience.

Not the experience of others.

Victim-blaming is never correct.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

Have you never verbally stabbed others or unintentionally insulted them?

Karma's a bitch...

Er…what?

Your argument is “I know you are but what am I?

Previously you expressed sympathy for those who are bullies rather than their victims. Maybe they have had a hard time but it does not excuse their actions and I hate to point this out but some people are just assholes.

Secondly when challenged you imply that people suffering abuse just have a victim mentality then when I point that out come back with a karma comment?

Again…Er…what?

 

[ElectricBlue]

I don't believe in coincidences when it comes to human interaction. Those who complain about bullies are often far from being saints.

Karma is a beach?

That's Kiama, just south of Sydney.