Have you ever been with someone online and then watched them move on to someone else? Does it bother you to be the one moving on....do you worry about the "ex's" feelings....? Does it bother you to be the one left behind? How do you, personally, handle those feelings?
"Online Bedswapping"
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plasticman33
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Hmmm, nope! Haven't moved anywhere!
Black_Bird
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Cath! said:
You mean as in, the person you are having Cybersex with? Unless you plan on meeting this person IRL, I wouldn't put too much emotion into cybering. Its suppose to be fun - not real.
Southern37
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Re: Re: "Online Bedswapping"
You are absolutly 100% correct.....but lots of people dont get that. However i think Cath is referring to an online romance....actually falling in love..then breaking up and seeing them again on line...right Cath?
Black_Bird said:
You are absolutly 100% correct.....but lots of people dont get that. However i think Cath is referring to an online romance....actually falling in love..then breaking up and seeing them again on line...right Cath?
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Hey......I am keeping my bed.......go buy your own!
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Briefly.
Drove me crazy.
Briefly.
Then, I turned my energy to fixing it.
Time will tell.
Drove me crazy.
Briefly.
Then, I turned my energy to fixing it.
Time will tell.
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The problem with the cyber thing is that you can have the best intentions in the world, being upfront and honest from the start, and still run into the problem of hurt feelings. The best cyber-sex is similar to the best RL sex in that emotions become involved. I think we all should have a tape of a gentle voice playing as we cyber. It should say, "this is not real," over and over and over again.
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This has not happened to me, I can only imagine how I would react.
Never in a million years did I think I could fall in love over the internet, but it did happen. If something were to happen to us, I would not...COULD NOT...watch him with someone else. There would be no way that I could handle it, I would have to leave...just for my own sanity, I would have to remove myself from the whole situation.
Never in a million years did I think I could fall in love over the internet, but it did happen. If something were to happen to us, I would not...COULD NOT...watch him with someone else. There would be no way that I could handle it, I would have to leave...just for my own sanity, I would have to remove myself from the whole situation.
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I was really hurt when pablo dumped me for Siren. Well, I dumped him first. But still he should have known better and mourned the loss of the Muffster for more than 15 seconds before he was carrying on with Siren.
They even exchange recipes now. He never exchanged recipes with me. All I have of him now is a few pics of guns with chocolate sauce and that one day we trounced ppman. Ahh, that will always be our Paris...
So, yes, I get a little misty eyed when he plays with Siren, but I know that he's happy and that I've let him go, so it's okay.
What, seriously? Nope, never had that problem.
They even exchange recipes now. He never exchanged recipes with me. All I have of him now is a few pics of guns with chocolate sauce and that one day we trounced ppman. Ahh, that will always be our Paris...
So, yes, I get a little misty eyed when he plays with Siren, but I know that he's happy and that I've let him go, so it's okay.
What, seriously? Nope, never had that problem.
What we are really
talking about is jealousy. Does it have a place online. I think if your emotions are involved there is going to be the opportunity of things getting very tangled.
If you have entered into a relationship online, even if it is just for cybering or phone sex, you should have some idea where each other is coming from in regards to how exclusive you want that relationship to be.
Honesty and a very direct approach with your partner should head off any potential problems. But life being what it is, people do move on to other partners, just like in real life.
Could I watch my parnter online with someone after he had left me for someone else? I would like to be really mature here and say, oh, sure no problems, but in reality, it would probably bother me for awhile. It is one of the pitfalls of this online stuff
Cassidy
talking about is jealousy. Does it have a place online. I think if your emotions are involved there is going to be the opportunity of things getting very tangled.
If you have entered into a relationship online, even if it is just for cybering or phone sex, you should have some idea where each other is coming from in regards to how exclusive you want that relationship to be.
Honesty and a very direct approach with your partner should head off any potential problems. But life being what it is, people do move on to other partners, just like in real life.
Could I watch my parnter online with someone after he had left me for someone else? I would like to be really mature here and say, oh, sure no problems, but in reality, it would probably bother me for awhile. It is one of the pitfalls of this online stuff
Cassidy
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I've been the dumper a few times. The first time, I let her think things were much more serious than they were. That was horribly wrong of me.
I've been more upfront since but I've still had a couple of women who got very attached very quickly. They couldn't or wouldn't pull back at all so I stopped chatting with them.
There have a few instances where I wanted to talk to someone again after an online one-night stand but got the brushoff. I wouldn't call them relationships though, not in the context of Cath's original question.
I've been more upfront since but I've still had a couple of women who got very attached very quickly. They couldn't or wouldn't pull back at all so I stopped chatting with them.
There have a few instances where I wanted to talk to someone again after an online one-night stand but got the brushoff. I wouldn't call them relationships though, not in the context of Cath's original question.
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Xzchief, I learn something new about you everyday.
And, I think Juicylips (my dear friend Cassidy) has very well summed up the reality of online relationships! We think a lot alike that way.
Somebody get's hurt or scorned one way or the other when things don't work out. Though with me...it is never intentional.
And, I think Juicylips (my dear friend Cassidy) has very well summed up the reality of online relationships! We think a lot alike that way.
Somebody get's hurt or scorned one way or the other when things don't work out. Though with me...it is never intentional.
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After first sneaking into the chat scene here at Lit, I found it gave me (a rather shy person) the "freedom" to flirt and have a good time (along with cybering in some other "disguises"). I did not take any of these experiences seriously, but felt it was better than reading stories as you more or less directed the ways things ended up.
I soon became very tired of this, and decided to just sort of linger and discuss generalities with the lit "regulars", especially those settled in Syd's hot tub. However, I soon discovered that many others were more seriously involved in their online situations, and found many instances where jealousy and hurt feelings came about with breakups and such.
The very instant that "Jenny" became more of the real me, I met up with my wonderful Oman. Complete with the pangs of jealousy, the yearnings of distance, and in a few instances, feeling the backlash of some who had become "protective" (and possibly "wanting") of the "omahaman", I felt my chat time had developed into a sort of real-time soap opera.
I've tried to explain myself here with the hope I would understand it all better. I had sensed a little bit of jealousy when I was in "cyber mode" if I noticed a particular user or two start over with another user. But since my LDR has become such an important and real relationship, I find myself spending less time in chat (and too much time on the boards!). I wouldn't want to see Oman take on any other on-screen lady, and would continue to stay away, although let him be if we were still together offline.
Clear as mud?
I soon became very tired of this, and decided to just sort of linger and discuss generalities with the lit "regulars", especially those settled in Syd's hot tub. However, I soon discovered that many others were more seriously involved in their online situations, and found many instances where jealousy and hurt feelings came about with breakups and such.
The very instant that "Jenny" became more of the real me, I met up with my wonderful Oman. Complete with the pangs of jealousy, the yearnings of distance, and in a few instances, feeling the backlash of some who had become "protective" (and possibly "wanting") of the "omahaman", I felt my chat time had developed into a sort of real-time soap opera.
I've tried to explain myself here with the hope I would understand it all better. I had sensed a little bit of jealousy when I was in "cyber mode" if I noticed a particular user or two start over with another user. But since my LDR has become such an important and real relationship, I find myself spending less time in chat (and too much time on the boards!). I wouldn't want to see Oman take on any other on-screen lady, and would continue to stay away, although let him be if we were still together offline.
Clear as mud?
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It must be weird when you have connected with a person and spent many sensual conversations together and then they seem to still be there on the boards but not comunicating directly with you..... not like they said to you... thanks for the fun, I'm moving on now.......
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Re: What we are really
The only way I could go on is to take you with me XXXXXXjuicylips said:talking about is jealousy. Does it have a place online. I think if your emotions are involved there is going to be the opportunity of things getting very tangled.
If you have entered into a relationship online, even if it is just for cybering or phone sex, you should have some idea where each other is coming from in regards to how exclusive you want that relationship to be.
Honesty and a very direct approach with your partner should head off any potential problems. But life being what it is, people do move on to other partners, just like in real life.
Could I watch my parnter online with someone after he had left me for someone else? I would like to be really mature here and say, oh, sure no problems, but in reality, it would probably bother me for awhile. It is one of the pitfalls of this online stuff
Cassidy
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