Online BDSM: Rituals

[P. B. Walker]

Since ya'll was out and answering, I thought I'd toss another one at you.

I mentioned in my previous thread about requiring my sub to write me an email daily, sort of a daily report. I would love to hear about other rituals that people use during Online BDSM. This could be anything from how you normally greet each other to how you say goodnight. Sky's the limit, don't be shy, don't be timid.

I guess I already started with the little daily report thing.

PBW

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I'm pretty tame compared with some of the things I've read here, but my Doms have asked that I address them certain ways, that I address myself certain ways (ie, 'Your fucktoy', etc), that I always mention sitting at their feet, or that I write every day. One Dom often wrote me assignments, and I had to accomplish the assignment and then write to him about it. Often, he'd have me go in public wearing a short skirt and no underwear, and then to let him know what the results of such an expedition were. As I smell strongly of sex, men generally picked up on the fact that I was turned on, and not wearing underwear, so I often left people hard in my wake. My Dom loved hearing about that, because he knew I was his, and not available to those other men.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Why is it I'm never in the grocery store line (or wherever) when someone like you is on an "assignment"? LOL...

PBW "I never have any fun"

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Why is it I'm never in the grocery store line (or wherever) when someone like you is on an "assignment"? LOL...

PBW "I never have any fun"

One of the more fun times I went out, it was actually to the market.. He had ordered me to go there, and to buy all kinds of phallic-shaped vegetables, and to go to the till of the most vulnerable-looking guy. *grin* When I got there, in my little slutty getup, he got very red, very quickly... and as he was checking my groceries, he grew really hard... and slipped his phone number into my bag, on the bill, with the words 'i'd love to return the favour' on it... *grin*

My Dom just LOVED that!

 

[SexyChele]

I think the standard is pretty much as you've described it, PB. Reporting in via email. I've also been told to go sans undies in public. (Not difficult, as I rarely wear any when I'm not at work anyway) One of the most erotic, though, was to wait for a time when I was alone, then close the blinds - but not completely, just enough so that some one who really wanted to, could peep in. Then strip and walk around the house nude, without being able to touch myself. That one was pretty interesting.

Lately, I've found myself trying to surprise my "some one special". He never directed me to, it just sort of evolved. He told me he had this thing for panties in a conversation, so one afternoon I made an audio cassette of me getting myself off, relaying all of my fantasies, while wearing a pair of delicate lace thong panties. Then I sent him the cassette and the panties. That was a HUGE hit - but a man has to have that sort of kink to make it work.

I still do that on occasion, but I think of other ways to surprise him: writing a story out long hand and sending it to him (for some reason he loves this - I think it has to do with the idea that writing something out is more personal and takes a lot more time), doing the audio cassette thing but taking pictures at the same time and sending him the entire package. He can hear what I'm doing, and then see the pictures of what is happening. Now, he really no longer gives me assignments. Now, he just says, "surprise me". I think he knows I enjoy coming up with new ideas, and we've known each other long enough that I'm comfortable with his kinks and have accepted that he is just a lovable pervert.


Edited to add: He still does occasionally give me an assignment to masturbate in a semi-public place, such as the ladies restroom at work or wherever I happen to be going.

 

[UCE]

Here's a very simple one my dom did to me during the few months we were "online." But it was effective.

I'd answer the phone and he'd growl "on your belly!" I'd have to fall to the floor and conduct the entire conversation from a prone position. He didn't always do it either, and that kept it fresh. Rituals can become "ho hum business as usual" if you do them in every instance. Now that is more than Ok with something sweet and reassuring like a lullabye, as the repetition makes it better, but you don't want your partners going "ho hum" over what you do to them sexually!

Just a suggestion: take into account the social situation your sub lives in before doing things like this. I lived alone so most of the time it was cool, but once a girlfriend of mine (as in lovey-dovey kissy girlfriend) whom I was slowly separating from was over when he called and gave the order, and not only was I badly embarssed to do it in front of a woman who wouldn't understand (I froze for about five seconds before I obeyed), but she gave me hell for it later. "How could you DO that for ANYBODY?!?! Don't you have any sense of SELF WORTH?" (rolling eyes) At the time I was utterly unused to dealing with that level of ignorance, and so her angry abusive attitude made me feel pretty bad. But this experience also confirmed to me even more that I was really sincere about this master-slave stuff, even to the point where I was willing to suffer the displeasure of people whose opinions I cared about to do it.

Unda

 

[redelicious]

Hi PBW...

We have a bedtime ritual. It's a very basic goodnight type thing. We vary it a little depending on our moods or whatever is going on, but the structure and basic *script* pretty much stays constant. I guess some would find that dull. I find comfort in it actually.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hi PBW...

We have a bedtime ritual. It's a very basic goodnight type thing. We vary it a little depending on our moods or whatever is going on, but the structure and basic *script* pretty much stays constant. I guess some would find that dull. I find comfort in it actually.

In my not so humble opinion, a feeling of comfort a sub may get after performing a ritual correctly, is part of the purpose, the charm.

Eb