One Sided Relationships...

[juicylips]

Alternate thread title: Wanting More than You Can Have


How long does it take you to realize you're in one? Not just in a romantic sense, but friend wise also.

Do you stay and hope it works out or do you see it for what it really is....which is you pretending that he/she cares?

Tell me.
jl

 

[Sillyman]

Fairly quickly, and if I am, I leave.

 

[juicylips]

Fairly quickly, and if I am, I leave.

So you're not one to be blinded by lust or love?

 

[Sillyman]

Not particularly. I'm passionate, but there tends to be a dettachment in the back of my mind somewhere.

 

[juicylips]

Not particularly. I'm passionate, but there tends to be a dettachment in the back of my mind somewhere.

It's called self preservation.

I haven't even said good morning to you, S.

 

[Rex1960]

How long it takes me to realise ? I don't know.
But as soon as I realise, I start thinking of how much I value this friendship/partnership/relationship.
If I value it high enough to put more into it, I do.
If I consider it helpless, I quit. The sooner the better.

Oh - and I always think about my expectations. It's probably not anotherone's fault if my expectations are too high.

 

[juicylips]

Oh - and I always think about my expectations. It's probably not anotherone's fault if my expectations are too high.

BINGO!

You can't ask someone to give to you what they don't have...but you usually don't realize this until you are more involved than you should be.

 

[Sillyman]

It's called self preservation.

I haven't even said good morning to you, S.

Good Morning JL.

 

[Rex1960]

BINGO!

You can't ask someone to give to you what they don't have...but you usually don't realize this until you are more involved than you should be.

Plus it works both ways.

I can hardly do anything against someone else's expectations.

If I don't fit, they'd decide how to handle their expectations and it's not definately up to me trying to fit on all costs.

 

[juicylips]

If I don't fit, they'd decide how to handle their expectations and it's not definately up to me trying to fit on all costs.

When you get to that point, it makes you wonder why you thought this person was right for you to begin with.

And, you are so right about being adamant about changing yourself. I see that so much. It's often like fitting a square peg into a round hole. It either works or it doesn't.

 

[Rex1960]

When you get to that point, it makes you wonder why you thought this person was right for you to begin with.

I've so much been there before....

And, you are so right about being adamant about changing yourself. I see that so much. It's often like fitting a square peg into a round hole. It either works or it doesn't.

Isn't it fun to watch the kiddies trying to do exactly that. Like I tried myself to hit that hole even harder with that peg.

And later in life you forgot about the fact that if the hole wasn't big enough it never worked and you again try to just hit harder....

 

[A Desert Rose]

Alternate thread title: Wanting More than You Can Have


How long does it take you to realize you're in one? Not just in a romantic sense, but friend wise also.

Do you stay and hope it works out or do you see it for what it really is....which is you pretending that he/she cares?

Tell me.
jl

I think I finally figured this out, but not before I had to bitch slap myself silly.

It's hard to believe that I could have been as stupid as I have been, for so long.

Amazing that you started this thread now, of all times. But thank you for doing so.

 

[glamorilla]

too many relationships operate on the power of least interest~that is the least interested party holds the upper hand.

sad that it's only when cards are folded do they realise they missed out on someone who loves them.

 

[juicylips]

And later in life you forgot about the fact that if the hole wasn't big enough it never worked and you again try to just hit harder....

*Laughing*

Oh...I know. I mean...you keep thinking if I just do this or if I just do that....*hitting harder*

I think toddlers have a better grasp on things...they at least eventually come to figure it out and the peg slides through effortlessly.

 

[A Desert Rose]

too many relationships operate on the power of least interest~that is the least interested party holds the upper hand.

sad that it's only when cards are folded do they realise they missed out on someone who loves them.

Fuckin-A right, Glam! How I wish I could tell him that too, the asshole.

 

[april-wine]

I have the juicylust, but she don't bring me flowers.........

 

[Rex1960]

[B...they at least eventually come to figure it out and the peg slides through effortlessly. [/B]

It was an adult who invented lube....

 

[Guest]

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: One Sided Relationships...

Amazing that you started this thread now, of all times. But thank you for doing so.

I love it when my timing is impeccable.

Hope you work through this with a minimal amount of pain.

 

[juicylips]

too many relationships operate on the power of least interest~that is the least interested party holds the upper hand.

That quote alone almost made me weep.

So fucking true, babe.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: Re: One Sided Relationships...

I love it when my timing is impeccable.

Hope you work through this with a minimal amount of pain.

The pain will come later. Right now I am murderously angry.

But thanks again, doll.

 

[Guest]

 

[glamorilla]

Fuckin-A right, Glam! How I wish I could tell him that too, the asshole.

he'll know it when he misses the things that only you did.

 

[A Desert Rose]

he'll know it when he misses the things that only you did.

I just want to see him miserable, fucking heart-wrenching miserable.

 

[glamorilla]

oh.

well then i suggest a voodoo doll.