One Question...

[Demon_in_love]

If your partner would answer you any one sexual question, what would you ask?

 

[NippleMuncher]

If you know your partner well enough, there are no questions you could ask that you didn't already know the answer to, either by direct knowledge or extrapolated from conversations about likes/dislikes/fantasies/etc.

 

[Ezzy]

If you know your partner well enough, there are no questions you could ask that you didn't already know the answer to, either by direct knowledge or extrapolated from conversations about likes/dislikes/fantasies/etc.

Well said!

Now “Demon_in_love”, if the original question you asked was: - “If you could ask any question and the answer was going to be a definite, YES!”

Then that opens the whole thing up in so many ways, and may produce many more interesting answers.

 

[elib257]

If you know your partner well enough, there are no questions you could ask that you didn't already know the answer to, either by direct knowledge or extrapolated from conversations about likes/dislikes/fantasies/etc.

I disagree, you can never know the whole person, there's always more to learn otherwise you could never stay together for the rest of your life, it would just get boring. As always directness is the best policy so an outright question is perfect.

Having said that I can't think of a single question...there are hundreds!

 

[NippleMuncher]

I disagree, you can never know the whole person, there's always more to learn otherwise you could never stay together for the rest of your life, it would just get boring. As always directness is the best policy so an outright question is perfect.

Having said that I can't think of a single question...there are hundreds!

As I said, if you know your partner well enough, you'll already know. For some this takes a lifetime, for others we're a little faster study. Technically, the original question was of a sexual nature not "the whole person", which IMHO makes little difference anyway.

 

[Cathleen]

I disagree about knowing the answer to every question too. If it were so the growth, the personal development would be known to the other via osmosis or something? There are new issues created very often, most especially in technology/medicine, that bring new questions of ethics, would you/wouldn't you on a more personal level.

Yes, in a good adult functioning relationship we know our partners but that doesn't mean I can know everything. First of all I think as humans we do (and can) keep some thoughts private -- they're ours only. He may know with some certainity what side I might come down on but not always. It could be I haven't shared something, whether a past event or opinion, that might sway me one way or the other on an issue. What I thought at the age of twenty or thirty I've found is very often not how I see it today (thank goodness).

If we are functioning adults then we are growing and changing thru out our lives, so too can our opinions, wants, wishes etc and if things change (hopefully) there is something that had brought about the change. I agree the two will experience most things together vis a vis the relationship but some things are ours alone.

I also know I'm down to the minutiae on this.

I also agree there'd be tons of questions -- creativity and curiosity should never stop or grow tired!

One question I might ask might be about a threesome.


ETA: Welcome to Lit., Demon and elib257.


Another ETA: I hope others weigh in here, as I'd like to see if this might come down on a male-female slant.

 

[bobsgirl]

There is no way my husband would ever know my every answer to every question, just as I don't know his every thought. We've been married since God was a kid, and he still surprises me. I hope I continue to suprise him on a regular basis.

As for the question I'd ask... The first one that popped into my head was, why won't you spank me?

 

[Immobile]

I think I've asked every question.

 

[Cathleen]

There is no way my husband would ever know my every answer to every question, just as I don't know his every thought. We've been married since God was a kid, and he still surprises me. I hope I continue to suprise him on a regular basis.

As for the question I'd ask... The first one that popped into my head was, why won't you spank me?

You know sometimes it helps if you have a friend that can talk a blue streak and can ask lots of questions; it's that curiosity thing.

 

[Quoll]

What else can I do to increase your pleasure?

 

[elib257]

Cathleen that's exactly what I wanted to say (only on a pda here, typing's hard so short posts it is )

And thankyou for welcoming me, been floating for a while and have noticed your beautiful avatar before.

 

[firefighter02]

I would have to agree with Cathleen here (waves from the corner..Hi Cate! )

With that said... I've noticed in a most of my relationships I was terrified to ask every question (until the most recent one where nothing seems to be off limits).
It isn't that I'm a pansy, but I got a lot of flak about asking and if I wanted a serious answer. There are also some things I may just not want to know in fact.

I guess I can look at it a couple of ways...You may ask her what her fantasy is, or her idea of a perfect night, or even if she could pick out any toy what would it be or do.... All seem pretty harmless and you may or may not; depending on her comfort level with you, get an honest answer.

Now..ask the wrong women to do you in the rear with a dildo and well...you might just end up on the wrong side of a phone call from her papa....

I think it boils down more not to comfort,,but trust and both parties ability to actually use the information in a postive maner.