One Night Stands

[rcuhljr]

That's really good to hear Curvy, for as awful as a situation to find yourself in, it's comforting to hear that sometimes justice is done, and victims receive the support they need.

 

[christian1971]

I've had 1 (1) night stand.

We meet on a singles website and wrote to each other for a few weeks and decided to meet. And she would spend the night, and we would see where it would lead?

So when the day came she came over we had a very romantic dinner with drinks and shared a desert together walked around the lake in a park close by made out a few time and came back to my place. Where we laid on the couch made out more got naked and went to the bed had sex for about 2- 2-1/2 hours finally going to sleep. Next day she had to drive back so we made out more did a little oral and said our goodbye and that we would be friends with benifits. So I am looking forwars to another visit really soon.

 

[Guest]

I have done it twice and regretted it each time. It made me feel dirty and sleezy. Never would I again.

 

[silverwhisper]

curvygrrl:

i know other rape survivors IRL. i am incredibly grateful on their behalf that you pursued this as you did. thank you.

ed

 

[UnknownWanderer]

I wonder if there is anyone out there like me in that:

- "I have never had sex with someone *thinking that it would be* a one night stand, but a few turned out being that."

What I mean is every time I've had sex with someone, I thought it would be happening again in the future. And some of those times I was right, and some I was wrong. But in the ones where I was wrong, it wasn't like I was pursuing them afterwards, it was just that for one reason or another we never got together again (not really either my fault or hers).

A couple times I had sex with a "friend", and we just ended up never doing it again...she moved away, or we lived too far apart, or we met someone else before we got together again, etc.

But frequently, the largest reason is just my own naivete...heh. I am legendarily clueless when it comes to women and never picking up the "signals". *Multiple* times now I've offered some woman a place to crash at my apartment, for one reason or another (missed her ride/train, isn't feeling sober or awake enough to drive, etc.) which I thought was completely innocuous, only to have them "surprise" me when we got back to my place...lol.

 

[DarkMuse]

I've had two definite one night stands. Didn't feel dirty after either of them--enjoyed them thoroughly (one was FANTASTIC and the other was pretty good, too).

Had sex with a guy on Saturday. It was fantastic, but I had actually met him before, and then ran into him at the bar we were at. I'm hoping it actually turns into a "thing", because he seems like a nice guy, and he's excellent in bed.

 

[curvygrrl]

Like UnknownWanderer, a couple of my one night stands have been by accident. I intended to get together with them again but for some reason or other, it just didn't happen. There have been times where I have just had a regular old one night stand.

Best one I ever had was when a friend was getting married in CT and I flew over and stayed in a hotel. A few friends and I got together and went to a local club where I hooked up with one of the bouncers. He was older than I was and REALLY knew what he was doing. We actually intended to meet again, both of us had trips planned to each other's towns but one reason after another kept us apart and we eventually decided that it just wasn't meant to be. We still call each other every now and then just to say hi or happy holidays, but the time for us getting together has kind of passed.

 

[bertrande]

between the ages of 18-22 I had quite a few one night stands (have no idea how many, prob more than 10-12), I am 37 now so it was a fair while ago before the aids issues hit. I was a practising alcoholic I must add and always seemed to be looking for love, never had any will power back then.

I would never have done it if I had been sober, I put myself in situations of danger many, many times because of being a little tipsy.

I also have a string of failed relationships that happened mostly in my drinking years.

Now days I wouldn't have a one night stand, I need the emotional tie. I have a wonderful SO whom I love dearly.

And as for the poll - essentially I don't think they are a good thing.
As a mum of 3 daughters (8,6,5) I will be telling them (when the time is right) that it's okay to have sex before marriage, or live with someone. What I want them to know is that it's important for them to be safe (i.e protection) and to have an emotional connection before they jump into having sex with anyone.

 

[Eilan]

Dear Eilan

Since this was a first MMF for you was the physical aspect enjoyable or was your mindset about the acquaintence and his marital situation too much of a deterrent to experience the MMF situation? If you found another male whom you (both hubby and yourself) developed a long term relationship with and a trust was there and the situation of a MMF presented itself, do you think that you would go for it?

Actually, it wasn't my first MMF, but it was the only one that we did with that particular person.

We actually did try to set up a more "long-term" arrangement with someone else, but schedules and other issues have worked against us, and we haven't talked to him for some time now. One of the issues there was that he was divorced and lonely and actively seeking a potential wife #2. No big deal, except that he wanted to keep meeting us on the side without his future (potential) partner knowing. I didn't want to play a part in that.

 

[iansearchof]

Recently I tried to recall one night stands. I can remember only one, but it doesn't seem to fit. The concept seems to be one of deliberation regardless whether more than a single night is intended.

The only one I recall occurred in unusual circumstances when neither of us intended anything. It happened, it was magical, and, though limited by opportunity, was to have been more than a single night. Alas, circumstances (including a certain important judicial personage) interferred.

It's a great story, but I have yet to capture the magic in words.

 

[bvoltaire]

I am a man who tends to get a little emotionally attached, but have had a couple of one night stands. Usually I saw the girl again after or it was someone I knew and we just hooked up the one time.

I am going through my mental list of partners...

There was the girl from William Jewell college...Wendy, who was the roommate of someone else i had slept with...

And since i've been married....one woman behind a bar against a u-haul....and one on vacation from chicago who picked me up on her last night here...(she was awesome, we had some great sex together!)

 

[zerimar1231]

One night stands...

I say it's a don't, unless you know the person, but besides that, no. It's unsafe, plus i'd feel bad afterwards, i just know it.

 

[Elizafairy]

No I have to be in love its not beautiful if youre not. Its not good at alL!

 

[JRaven]

I was a virgin when I met my husband. I made him wait until we were married. After two kids and 10 years, I wondered if I had missed out on anything. When my husband took the kids out of town for a week to visit his parents, I had a one night stand.

Jack, a male friend from work, knew of what I was doing, where I was going. In fact, he was at the bar I went to. We acted like we didn't know each other. I started talking to two guys, not sure which one I liked most. In the end, they shared an apartment. I had sex with both of them that night.

That was five years ago. I now have an on-going relationship with Jack. It's developed into a monogamous swinging relationship between Jack, his wife, my husband, and myself.

I like the long term better than the one night stand. But I'm glad I did it. I think that had I not, I wouldn't even be here on Lit. I wouldn't have put any of my fantasies on here.

So, I guess my opinion is that everybody should do it at least once.

Jenny

 

[CountryBoy20]

With me, I had intimate passionate sex with someone I loved, and since then, the one night stand just doesnt turn me on that much. I think it's more of the spiritual side of sex that turns me on. Two souls joining together for one precious moment, when nothing matters but you and the one you love. That is the most beautiful gift to mankind.

 

[DevilsAngel369]

too many STDs out there for just 10 seoncds of joy!

 

[fgarvb1]

I have had I think three one night stands in my life. I guess that runs about 4%.

To tell the truth if your doing it right both parties want at least one rematch.

 

[ozbloke1980]

I've had my fair share of them in my time and will again in the future. I nevre have or will regreted having them either.