On the bi fence

win1strl

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I'm a MWM 35 who can't stop fantasizing about gay sex. This is getting borderline silly at this point. I'm just not sure what to do. I don't want to go to some seedy place like all the pervs up on the highway rest stops. The whole Bar scene is out. I guess I'm picky. I'm what most would consider very good looking and I'm super athletic. Just don't know how to even get to approaching this with someone like me.

I don't want the all out gay thing. And to be honest, I'm otherwise not attracted to Men in any way shape or form. But I have this fetish about sucking cock that doesn't seem to want to go away.

ANy suggestions on how to live this out without getting aids or becoming the next prom queen or something?
 
Maybe look for a guy off craigslist or some personals website but, at first say you are want to take things slow and just j/o w/ a guy first. This way you can get to know the guy instead of just sucking off some random perv. As far as not becoming a queen if you suck cock you are not going to become somehow less masculine then what you already are. And as far as getting hiv from sucking its pretty unlikely that would occur. From my understanding is you would have to have really bad dental health like you just got of major dental surgery or meth mouth to put you at a risk. Still you shouldn't suck off random guys get to know him first and j/o is fun too.
 
Well, wouldn't you know it. I look at Craigs list and what do I see but a married guy my age who is bi-curious and wants to fool around. Of course I replied.

If this works out and this guys is even half way decent looking, I will probably suck him dry. Screw it. There is no sense fighting it anymore. I want to get on my knees, suck cock and take a load of cum in my mouth.

There.. I said it.
 
Well, wouldn't you know it. I look at Craigs list and what do I see but a married guy my age who is bi-curious and wants to fool around. Of course I replied.

If this works out and this guys is even half way decent looking, I will probably suck him dry. Screw it. There is no sense fighting it anymore. I want to get on my knees, suck cock and take a load of cum in my mouth.

There.. I said it.


DO NOT use craigslist... & I am talking from experience!!!

99% of the guys on there are walking diseases. They all say they are bi or curious but they are not. They are gay and looking to get quick action.

Whatever forum you are going to use, talk to them for a few weeks before you meet them. If they are just like you then they will be nervous to meet right away and prefer taking it slowly.

Like I said most of them are walking diseases and after a few days they will disappear.

I was on another forum the other day and the guy read my profile & said he was just like me and pretty much repeated what my profile said.. after 2 emails he disappeared. He was a fake. I asked around and 4 or 5 people told me that he lurks on new / innocent people. They dont know if he is dangerous / has a disease / or just creepy but BE CAREFUL !!!!!!!!!
 
DO NOT use craigslist... & I am talking from experience!!!

99% of the guys on there are walking diseases. They all say they are bi or curious but they are not. They are gay and looking to get quick action.

Whatever forum you are going to use, talk to them for a few weeks before you meet them. If they are just like you then they will be nervous to meet right away and prefer taking it slowly.

Like I said most of them are walking diseases and after a few days they will disappear.

I was on another forum the other day and the guy read my profile & said he was just like me and pretty much repeated what my profile said.. after 2 emails he disappeared. He was a fake. I asked around and 4 or 5 people told me that he lurks on new / innocent people. They dont know if he is dangerous / has a disease / or just creepy but BE CAREFUL !!!!!!!!!

I wouldn't recommend CL either. I've tried it a few times, and they've all been full of shit. I vetted them first, so nothing happened, good or bad. I used to be on squirt.org, I had a pretty good luck there in the beginning, but it kind of dried up. But it's still miles above CL.

Not sure what other options there are for the OP, but like boca said, be careful.
 
Well, wouldn't you know it. I look at Craigs list and what do I see but a married guy my age who is bi-curious and wants to fool around. Of course I replied.

If this works out and this guys is even half way decent looking, I will probably suck him dry. Screw it. There is no sense fighting it anymore. I want to get on my knees, suck cock and take a load of cum in my mouth.

There.. I said it.
Hy man go for it. If my wife was not so good to me I would look for a hot hard cock to suck.
 
As Bill Clinton used to say, "I feel your pain." I, too, have the same fantasies, the same urges. But I've got a lot to lose if I put myself in a place where I get caught, catch something, etc. And it's not just the marriage thing--my wife and I haven't slept in the same bed in years. Losing the marriage wouldn't be a great loss. But I've got kids I adore and don't want to hurt, a career that's going gangbusters and is to a certain extent, a public one.

But where do you put this stuff?

I've checked out CL, squirt.org, couple of other places. Rarely is there an ad or posting that appeals to me. It's mostly guys looking for anonymous hookups and nsa sex, and that to me says: "If I have sex with you, how many other people am I going to be having sex with without knowing it?"

I'd like to find someone who's basically in the same situation as me, that I can trust, and have a long-term DL, FWB relationship with.

Which means, in all likelihood, I need to just go fuck myself.
 
I'm a MWM 35 who can't stop fantasizing about gay sex. This is getting borderline silly at this point. I'm just not sure what to do. I don't want to go to some seedy place like all the pervs up on the highway rest stops. The whole Bar scene is out. I guess I'm picky. I'm what most would consider very good looking and I'm super athletic. Just don't know how to even get to approaching this with someone like me.

I don't want the all out gay thing. And to be honest, I'm otherwise not attracted to Men in any way shape or form. But I have this fetish about sucking cock that doesn't seem to want to go away.

ANy suggestions on how to live this out without getting aids or becoming the next prom queen or something?

From what you said it sounds like you are looking for a "suck buddy" - which should/could be a relationship where you two can build a mutual trust and "promise" to not do other men w/o telling the other.

Since you don't want the "gay thing" where love is involved, and the concern about CL aids is all too real, I would say that you need to find a bisexual man like yourself. It seems to me that you being "super athletic" would naturally lend itself to finding someone similar at a gym. And even if you do place an ad on CL, I agree with what was said above about "vetting". Perhaps you could suggest/require that whoever you meet would join you at the gym for a few weeks while you get to know them and to see if they're being up front and honest. All in all finding a partner is hard if you're at all selective in who you go to bed with - but that's true whether it be a hetero or homo relationship. Good Luck.
 
ANy suggestions on how to live this out without getting aids?
Use a condom. I don't care what you think about condom use in general; if you want to remain disease-free, USE A CONDOM. And if you don't want to use a condom for yourself, use one for your wife's sake.
 
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Hi,,,

MANHUNT......is a good site to start on.....good luck and have fun.

Dad
 
From my understanding is you would have to have really bad dental health like you just got of major dental surgery or meth mouth to put you at a risk.

Regardless of how prevalent the virus actually is, I think the -risk- of HIV infection from oral is vastly underrated. People don't understand that just because blood isn't visible doesn't mean there aren't any microscopic vectors for infection.

Craigslist is pretty skeevy, honestly. I've been lurking there for years and seen people repost ads under different headers on different boards. They get around.

It's mostly guys looking for anonymous hookups and nsa sex, and that to me says: "If I have sex with you, how many other people am I going to be having sex with without knowing it?"

This. Again, people on Craigslist act like they'd fuck anything that moves, and some things that don't. Use a condom.
 
curious?

I feel the same way. Curious and into pvt CD(secret) but where do I find a fit, older Cd like me? Just to share the same urge??????.....married..Have to be totally discreet ..nothing perm....just to experience that sensation of sucking a hard cock.........
 
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me too

I feel the same way. Last year I emailed tons of times and then never connected. I got frustrated and let the urge go dormant. Then recently I did the Craigslist thing and hooked up with a guy. I was not more than mutual jo...and lacking a bit. I hooked up off Passion site and it was moderately better. But the process is slow. I am not into a blow and go, nor a one and done. Anyone in Wilmington Delaware (! 95 corridor) area may feel free to contact me ....slow and sure.

And I like the post....words of wisdom....USE CONDOMS

It may seem to turn off many guys, but what this process can be slow and SAFE.
 
i am in the same boat and have been, i'm older than you 50,
but cant figure out where and how to look.
good luck to you
 
Well, here I am, giving up on the whole idea as I sit at the local college library doing some reading last night. Not thinking about this whole Bi thing at all, I hit the mens room, open the door (which was unlatched) to the handicap stall and there's a guy in there stroking it!!!! I recognize him from the mBA program we're in.

I clearly took him by suprise as he tried to conceal what he was up to but it was futile. So here I am dumbfounded looking down. He then says, Are you going to come in and shut the door? I nodded. But Still I'm just standing there speachless and in shock, heart racing a mile per minute, starting to blush as he's now jerking himself openly in front of me. NOt huge or anything but I decent sized dick which is now getting wet.

So I went over and started stroking it myself and then totally lost myself. I started licking it, licking off the precum and stroking it at the same time. Then we switched, I sat on the healm and he stood in front of me. I grabbed his ass and started sucking it really deep. Guy was moaning like hell, I felt drunk, scared, heart rate about 150+, affraid to get caught (even though it was late night). This went on for about 10 minutes.

Finally, it was amazing, his cock seemd to get really hot, swelled up and started to pulsate a bit. He was getting goose bumps on his legs and I knew what I was in for and then Bang! Hot stream of cum hit the back of my neck! This guy came in buckets I swear. It was leaking out of the sides of my mouth and now I was gagging because he had his hands on the back of my head and was basically using my face as a pussy!

Anyway, it was over, he zipped and left, I sat there and jerked off. Got up washed my face and left the building. I am totally disgusted and ashamed of myself at this point. I can't beleive I did it. Now I'm going to see this person and man I feel like a dirty slut. I can't get this out of my head today. I was up all night thinking about it.
 
Don't worry too much about it. There's nothing wrong with hot, male to male sex. I mean, did you enjoy it? It would have been better if he'd made you cum too, but that's the way it is with a lot of gay sex - quick, fast, and one sided.

Now it's not good to be used, so the only problem with the othewise quite hot sex you had was that he used you to get off, treated you too roughly for your first time, and didtn't pleaure you. Whether that's beacause he was nervous and scared too, or becuase he was an ass you'll have to decide.

But don't feel bad for what you did. It was what you wanted, and I hope you enjoyed it. Now just find someone nicer who will take care of you too, and let you explore this side of your sex drive.

PM me if you want to talk more.
 
Thanks. Good stuff. Should be interesting at class tomorrow because while this guy it not my Monday course, he's there on Mondays. It's going to be somwhat embarrassing crossing paths with us both knowing that 48 hours earlier I gave him a blow job. See what happens though.

I have to admit for the first time it was rough but I'm hard as a rock now thinking about it. I also have to admit that if he was standing in front of me right now with his cock hanging in my face, I would love to blow him again. Want to chat a little first though before this goes further. From what I can tell this guy is married too( has aring and female picks him up).
 
Thanks. Good stuff. Should be interesting at class tomorrow because while this guy it not my Monday course, he's there on Mondays. It's going to be somwhat embarrassing crossing paths with us both knowing that 48 hours earlier I gave him a blow job. See what happens though.

I have to admit for the first time it was rough but I'm hard as a rock now thinking about it. I also have to admit that if he was standing in front of me right now with his cock hanging in my face, I would love to blow him again. Want to chat a little first though before this goes further. From what I can tell this guy is married too( has aring and female picks him up).

Definately try to follow-up and see if he's interested in you guys getting to know each other a bit better. You may very well have found a potential 'buddy with benefits'
 
Thanks. Good stuff. Should be interesting at class tomorrow because while this guy it not my Monday course, he's there on Mondays. It's going to be somwhat embarrassing crossing paths with us both knowing that 48 hours earlier I gave him a blow job. See what happens though.

I have to admit for the first time it was rough but I'm hard as a rock now thinking about it. I also have to admit that if he was standing in front of me right now with his cock hanging in my face, I would love to blow him again. Want to chat a little first though before this goes further. From what I can tell this guy is married too( has aring and female picks him up).

One thing to keep in mind is that he obvously shares your interest in men. I think that it's likely that the next time that you meet he might uncomfortable as well, but suspect that he'd very likely be ready for a round 2. :D
 
One thing to keep in mind is that he obvously shares your interest in men. I think that it's likely that the next time that you meet he might uncomfortable as well, but suspect that he'd very likely be ready for a round 2. :D

Good point - he may have felt awful at first too. But, he obviously enjoyed the experience
 
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