Older partner too "proper"

[sonicspeed]

From my own view on the world I find alot of these mid 40 guys out of shape and older than dirt.I look around and can't believe these men my age have allowed themselves to become fat old dudes while the woman our age still look great.

i'm 40, fat, out of shape but after 3 back surgeries and 2 hip surgeries it gets real hard to stay lean and trim like i was in my early years. my mind is still willing but my body gave up long time ago lol

 

[galendms]

"too proper"

OK, skipping some of the previous stuff, let's move to the initial question. Just go ahead and try things! If he's uncomfortable or doesn't like them, you can be sure he'll say so. Some of us older guys [I can say that being over 50.] always had to damn near beg for anything different or unusual. 30 years ago sex and "free love" may have come out of the closet, but there were plenty of up-tight inexperienced and uninformed women who thought it all was dirty! Consequently, we tended to take it slow and when we got the green light stuck with very traditional methods. Maybe he really has a kinky streak, but you're younger, he's older, and he thinks he'll scare you off. Give it a try and see what happens!

 

[Mardoba]

Ok so here's what I did. The other night we had just finished having sex, and well he's tired and I'm ready to go again. lol. Anyways I did tell him this and he said he would need sometime, I understand all that so I was ok with it. Somehow , I can't remember what I said, but I managed to ask him about his fantasies, and then the conversation grew from there. Turns out we are both use to the other person starting the action. So that we have to work on. Also there are few things he won't do due to past experiences with his wife, but those are things I can live without. He is also willing, so I can have my way with him. LOL. Thanks for all your help and advise. I am going to check out that link you gave me Mrmadman. Thanks again.

Ps - the next morning he woke me up and it was great.