Okay everyone, here's a big, scary question for all...

[Bindii]

Guys: What if your brother or best friend in the whole world approached you, and told you that he and his wife were having trouble conceiving, would you be a sperm donor for them?

Ladies: If your sister or best friend in the whole world told you that she couldn't carry a child, would you do it for her?

What circumstances would make it easier or more difficult to help out with this problem? If you agreed, would you view the child as "mine," "theirs," or "ours?"

 

[juicylips]

No.

Cassidy

 

[jass1960]

Guys: What if your brother or best friend in the whole world approached you, and told you that he and his wife were having trouble conceiving, would you be a sperm donor for them?

Yes

(although if my brother did ask me I would be surprised - he is gay)

 

[pyramider]

I am a guy
The answer is yes- If that is what they want

 

[girl]

Nope.

girl

 

[Scabbers]

Would that be from the bottle, madam--or would you prefer on tap?

Guys: What if your brother or best friend in the whole world approached you, and told you that he and his wife were having trouble conceiving, would you be a sperm donor for them?

Seriously, I would, and while I wouldn't go so far as to say "ours," I think it would be important for the little one to know the details (at an age-appropriate time).

 

[Wiggles]

If I was in a more secure place in my life I would most likely say yes, but it would have to be a best friend, of many years.

I think one requirement would be that she'd have to come over and clean, cook, and iron while I was pregnant, and take lamauze classes with me too.

 

[tn_8tiv]

Guys: What if your brother or best friend in the whole world approached you, and told you that he and his wife were having trouble conceiving, would you be a sperm donor for them?

What circumstances would make it easier or more difficult to help out with this problem? If you agreed, would you view the child as "mine," "theirs," or "ours?"

Yes, I would be a sperm donor.

I can see how a woman would hesitate to become a surrogate mother since she would have to carry all of the pain associated with childbirth. For a guy, it seems the right thing to do.

 

[Bindii]

Re: Would that be from the bottle, madam--or would you prefer on tap?

Seriously, I would, and while I wouldn't go so far as to say "ours," I think it would be important for the little one to know the details (at an age-appropriate time).

I wonder what the emotional repercussions (sp?) would be watching your child grow yet not having a say in its upbringing?

 

[Georgia Girl]

Nope

call me a wimp, I couldn't do it. I treasure the time I carried my son and I loved him even then before I ever saw him. I can't imagine doing that and then handing the child over to someone else and watching it grow up but not with me.

Dawn

 

[Pechorin]

Guys: What if your brother or best friend in the whole world approached you, and told you that he and his wife were having trouble conceiving, would you be a sperm donor for them?

I'd do it, but they'd have to be quick as I'm having the snip on Friday!

 

[alltherage]

Having had two children already I don't think I could. I bonded with my kids long before they were born and I think it would kill me to give up a baby I carried. So no I would not.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Nope. I wouldn' carry a child for someone else. Being pregnant was NOT one of my favorite conditions! I also can't imagine feeling a child move inside me, hearing it's heartbeat, seeing it on the ultrasound, and then handing it over to someone else... ANYONE else.

I would, however, donate an egg for a friend/sister/etc. I'm not quite so emotionally attached to them.

 

[jass1960]

got to disagree with scabbers

Seriously, I would, and while I wouldn't go so far as to say "ours," I think it would be important for the little one to know the details (at an age-appropriate time).

I have to disagree

If would be happy to donate sperm and I wouldn't see the child as mine - why must the little one know the details? To my mind sperm donation is very different to adoption.

 

[VanB]

Nope

No

Not a chance

Too many potential emotional issues to worry about in future knowing that the child is yours. Not fair on anyone - especially the kid if it ever comes out.

 

[Bindii]

Re: Re: Okay everyone, here's a big, scary question for all...

I'd do it, but they'd have to be quick as I'm having the snip on Friday!

Ouch! Good luck.......keep the ice handy......lol

 

[Scabbers]

No doubt . . .

there would need to be lots of counselling all 'round before actually embarking on such a radical programme. Think of the sibling rivalries that typically already exist. But also think of adoption (which some consider a panacea for the abortion question, infertility, etc.), think of it in light of Georgia Girl's comment. Scary indeed, Bindii, in lots of ways.

I wonder what the emotional repercussions (sp?) would be watching your child grow yet not having a say in its upbringing?

 

[sexy-girl]

this is kinda an important question for me considoring lisa and i might want a baby one day ... if lisa's brother was a sperm donor then the baby would be genetically close to both lisa and me


however to do something like that i think just creates to much weirdness too close to home ... lisa's brother would be the father of her's and my baby thats too weird


so it'd be better if there was a sperm donor that the father would have no attachment to the family or too the baby

 

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[T.H. Oughts]

I have one friend and one sister who I would give eggs to. It took me many years to have my first child and I know the pain of thinking you may never have one. So if I could bring that pleasure of holding a life to these two people I would

I would not just do it for anyone though.

 

[Andreina]

I think it would generally be more difficult for a woman to be a surrogate mother. I know that I most definately couldn't do it, even it was my best friend or some else female person close to me. Carrying a child for 9 months is something different than "just" doning some sperm. You spent day and night with the child, it moves in you, you can feel it and build an emotional closeness to it.
Being a sperm doner involves - pardon my french - wanking into a small plastic container. I'm not saying now that it finishes there for a man, especially in the case of doning sperm to friends and then seeing ones child grow up, but having to act as an uncle.

The end line is that I couldnt possibly become a surrogate mom, or give a child up for adoption. I'm simply too emotional for that, but I admire the (wo)man who can.

 

[Skibum]

I would if I hadn;t been surgically sterilized 20 years ago.

 

[fallon2]

smile

Yes, I would. The child would be theirs and I would be the favorite UNCLE!

 

[Dynamite]

No I wouldn't. I feel that there are children out there in orphanages and foster care homes that need parents. Very few people stop to think about them these days. Everyone wants babies.

I myself would prefer a older child. I can't have kids from what my doctor tells me. I couldn't expect someone to carry a baby for me.

 

[SA Storm]

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