Ok, I admit it, I need advice

[jass1960]

I am going for a meal with friends tomorrow night

But..she wants to shag me (translation: have sex)

....2 slight problems, I'm Married and so is she..

...so

..answer the poll


edited for lousy spelling

 

[Mischka]

You consider breaking your marriage vows a slight problem? Is there more to this story? As it stands right now, I feel terribly sorry for your wife and her husband.

 

[jass1960]

You consider breaking your marriage vows a slight problem? Is there more to this story? As it stands right now, I feel terribly sorry for your wife and her husband.

oh yeah, sorry forgot I posted on a porn board!

 

[alexandraaah]

oh yeah, sorry forgot I posted on a porn board!

Hey, no one said "leave your morals at the door or don't come in."

I vote behave, but am interested to know if there's more to the story.

I'd say initiate a foursome if it's actually realistic.

Good luck to ya.

Alex

 

[Mischka]

So you equate Lit with a complete lack of moral concern? Because people come to Lit to explore sexual topics, that automatically means we check our conscious at the door? We are not all base hedonists that disregard the feelings of others; sexuality covers a spectrum, and for most of us, that includes exploring the spiritual and emotional consequences of physical pleasure.

(Great minds think alike, Alex. I swear I didn't copy your door metaphor.)

 

[alexandraaah]

So you equate Lit with a complete lack of moral concern? Because people come to Lit to explore sexual topics, that automatically means we check our conscious at the door? We are not all base hedonists that disregard the feelings of others; sexuality covers a spectrum, and for most of us, that includes the spiritual and emotional consequences of physical pleasure.

Hey, Mischka,

next time you want to plagiarize my thoughts and do it so much more eloquently than I...pm me, alright?

 

[jass1960]

Hey, no one said "leave your morals at the door or don't come in."

I vote behave, but am interested to know if there's more to the story.

I'd say initiate a foursome if it's actually realistic.

Good luck to ya.

Alex

Hey, you vote behave...but want to know more!!!

Does that mean you have double standards too?

 

[alexandraaah]

Hey, you vote behave...but want to know more!!!

Does that mean you have double standards too?

No...it means:

1) I'm nosy as shit.

2) I like to make well-informed decisions.

If all you're going to share is what you already posted, then I stand by my vote.

 

[lavender]

 

[Aphrodisiac]

No ... don't cheat on your wife.
I mean why did you even get married in the first place.

Odds are this woman who wants to " shag" you does not even care about you. If she did she would respect you and your marriage and not even tell you she wants to shag you.



Hope you make the right choice.

 

[PrincessSalome]

It doesn't sound like you're interested in her particularly, but rather intrigued by the novelty of it all.

If that's the case and you think the fourway is an option, shit, there's really no question, is there? Wouldn't we all like to live in the Literotica group sex category? However, I for one have not been in many relationships (okay, none) that could handle it.

Or perhaps you'd rather not see her husband's ass (particularly on top of your wife). Then, I say go for the footsie. You can get the forbidden lust endorphins without getting into trouble. You get to leave all horny, go home, and have sex with someone you love.

If I'm wrong and you want to start something major with her, then you're screwed. Think before you fuck. Imagine the worse case scenerio and then the best case scenerio. A happy ending is a long way away.

 

[jass1960]

7 out of 9......

....votes for behave!

My thoughts exactly....

....but it is interesting to see how moralistic this porn board is!!!

Initiate a 4some came a close second and I for one would be very relaxed about that!

Lots of (EXPECTED) flak about cheating...but IMHO I live in the real world where married people actually fancy other people - we may not take it any further but saying a marriage vow doesn't stop you looking in you sweet shop!

 

[Wiggles]

I think what you're looking for here is someone, or everyone, to say it's ok.

That's a decision only you can make, that you have to live with.

You have your conscience, and your judgement. I'm going to assume you know how to use them?

 

[Mischka]

Re: 7 out of 9......

Lots of (EXPECTED) flak about cheating...but IMHO I live in the real world where married people actually fancy other people - we may not take it any further but saying a marriage vow doesn't stop you looking in you sweet shop!

You weren't asking about looking. You were asking for advice about fucking another woman.

And again, why are you surprised that people who enjoy erotica also have morals? There is no conflict between the two.

 

[TN_Vixen]

I think what you're looking for here is someone, or everyone, to say it's ok.

I think you're right Wiggles. And, when we say it isn't ok, he insinuates we're all prudes.

jass, just make sure you can live with whatever decision you make.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Odds are this woman who wants to " shag" you does not even care about you. If she did she would respect you and your marriage and not even tell you she wants to shag you.

I vote behave too... or a 4some if that's possible... in which case, I'm intensely jealous.

But with all due respect, I disagree with ya Aphrodisiac... I'm married and have been for damn near 8 years. I have no problem with telling male or female friensd that I find them attractive, or that I'd be interested in exploring a physical relationship if circumstances were different. It doesn't show a lack of respect for my marriage, imo.

 

[jass1960]

I vote behave too... or a 4some if that's possible... in which case, I'm intensely jealous.

But with all due respect, I disagree with ya Aphrodisiac... I'm married and have been for damn near 8 years. I have no problem with telling male or female friensd that I find them attractive, or that I'd be interested in exploring a physical relationship if circumstances were different. It doesn't show a lack of respect for my marriage, imo.

Actually I am not looking for someone to say it is okay....
I am like most lit people raising a subject for discussion..
..and I have got to say i agree with pagan I do find friends attractive, as I know my wife does..it is not unhealthy, just natural

 

[NoRegrets]

Re: 7 out of 9......

....but it is interesting to see how moralistic this porn board is!!!

Morality is not the same as honesty.
My S/O and I engage in some activities
that are deemed immoral by others. I could
not care less. If I am dishonest with my
S/O I destroy our relationship and myself.

In my mind this site as a place for people that
lead a highly eroticized life of which porn is
often a part. We like sex and want to enjoy
it more and communicate with like minded
people. To learn, share, and be part of a
community. Oh yea, and to flirt

I think trust is required for great relationships and
great sex. If you really have the urge to shag this
babe, tell the S/O. You don’t have to do it. Maybe
she is interested in some permutation of the 4 of
you. Just being honest takes away the charge that
betrayal brings to these situations. IMHO

.

 

[Wiggles]

Actually I am not looking for someone to say it is okay....
I am like most lit people raising a subject for discussion..
..and I have got to say i agree with pagan I do find friends attractive, as I know my wife does..it is not unhealthy, just natural

When I see 'I need advice' I usually take it to mean, what should I do? And from your first post, I gathered that you want to shag (Or have sex with) this woman...??

Sorry about any misconceptions.

 

[Bindii]

Behave!!!

Once you are in a commited relationship (and yes this includes marriage...lol)Window shopping is ok, but buying is out of the question.

 

[Black_Bird]

Behave... My vote. It isn't about being moralistic, it's about saving yourself a few thousand grand, the emotional heart ache and the set-backs of divorce. If you wanted to have freedom to have sex with whomever you choose, you shouldn't have married... or at least should have married someone who was open to the idea.

 

[kotori]

I vote take her to East Grinstead and shag her (not upstairs). Say "hi" to Alan Ackbourne whilst you're there.

 

[alexandraaah]

Re: Re: 7 out of 9......

In my mind this site as a place for people that
lead a highly eroticized life of which porn is
often a part. We like sex and want to enjoy
it more and communicate with like minded
people. To learn, share, and be part of a
community. Oh yea, and to flirt.

Does Laurel and Manu know you stole the mission statement from their wall?

 

[The_Masseur]

To shag or not to shag?

My advice: spend a few hours imagining your wife shagging your friends' husband without your consent. Why should she be held to a different standard? If you really want to sleep with this woman, then maybe a foursome (and a possible future in becoming a Swinging couple) is right up your alley. That way you can have your cake and eat it too. Plus, the two of you get to maintain trust in your marriage.

 

[NoRegrets]

Re: Re: Re: 7 out of 9......

Does Laurel and Manu know you stole the mission statement from their wall?

How close did I come?

Does it actually look like plagiarism?

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