OK, he's ready!

[tythisredheadup]

The husband is ready to assume the role as dom. It took a few mistakes from me, and a knockdown, dirty fight to make him see this is what I need. So, he's ready. He's ready to be everything I want him to be. Sounds easy enough, right?

Here's my problem, I can't teach him. I am the sub! It was hard enough to mold him as the husband, now I have to mold him as the dom too? I told him to get online and read, talk to people, whatever it takes for him. I cannot teach this man. Hell, I don't even believe this crap can be taught.

I need help from you men here. He's has to learn, or else. When I say something, I feel I am still topping. I don't want to top anymore.

 

[lorddragonwolf]

The husband is ready to assume the role as dom. It took a few mistakes from me, and a knockdown, dirty fight to make him see this is what I need. So, he's ready. He's ready to be everything I want him to be. Sounds easy enough, right?

Here's my problem, I can't teach him. I am the sub! It was hard enough to mold him as the husband, now I have to mold him as the dom too? I told him to get online and read, talk to people, whatever it takes for him. I cannot teach this man. Hell, I don't even believe this crap can be taught.

I need help from you men here. He's has to learn, or else. When I say something, I feel I am still topping. I don't want to top anymore.

tell him to get on here and read he will learn.

 

[spankableBelle]

The husband is ready to assume the role as dom. It took a few mistakes from me, and a knockdown, dirty fight to make him see this is what I need. So, he's ready. He's ready to be everything I want him to be. Sounds easy enough, right?

Here's my problem, I can't teach him. I am the sub! It was hard enough to mold him as the husband, now I have to mold him as the dom too? I told him to get online and read, talk to people, whatever it takes for him. I cannot teach this man. Hell, I don't even believe this crap can be taught.

I need help from you men here. He's has to learn, or else. When I say something, I feel I am still topping. I don't want to top anymore.

I applaud you for getting this far with him...smiles. At least he's willing to see the need in you, even if it did take a knockdown fight...

I wish you the best...and I'm envious...smiles

 

[graceanne]

I'm sorta in a similar boat as you, except that hubby's eager. One of the sites you can send him too that has good newbie info is www.domsubnation.com. You'll also want to have him read up on some safety things. And of course their's lit. lots of good dom/me's here.

 

[tythisredheadup]

He's more interested in the new equipment he gets to use, rather than the emotional aspect of it.

Whatever gets me a spanking...

 

[Sir_Winston54]

He's more interested in the new equipment he gets to use, rather than the emotional aspect of it.

Whatever gets me a spanking...

Though it may sound cliché, one of the most outstanding sites I've run into is http://www.castlerealm.com - if he goes through both "The KingDom" (material for Dominants) and "subSpace," (material for submissives), he will learn a lot.

I do recommend that anyone new to our culture - on either side of the paddle - review both areas of Castle Realm, because they offer some interesting insights into the mindset and priorities of the "other half" of the D/s equation, so to speak.

You might offer to go through them with him, so that you can discuss the things that interest each of you, or figure out together anything that seems a little unclear to you on first reading. This also has the advantage of becoming your first sharing of the culture, and could help bring you closer together in your experiencing it.

I usually end up on the site a time or two a month, just reading and reviewing... and I've been "lifestyle" for over 30 years. No matter how many times I visit, I can always find something new, or something that reminds me of some facet that I haven't thought about or considered lately.

On second thought, whatever you refer him to - do it with him. It certainly can't hurt your situation to learn more together - and it might just be a biiiiiiiig help.

 

[WriterDom]

Well, hell red, you have a great group right there why not join together?

http://www.magenta.com/~smpex/

Look at all the topics you have missed

9 Dec 1998: "Toymaking" by spectrum: {at Master Cary's}
9 Jan 1999: "Singletails" by Dave {Holiday Inn World's Fair}
6 Mar 1999: "D/s discussion" by Master Cary {Holiday Inn World's Fair}
5 Jun 1999: "Rope Bondage" by Master Cary
10 Jul 1999: "Hot Wax" by spectrum
29 Aug 1999: "Future topics/ foot massage" by spectrum
18 Sep 1999: Atlanta road trip
23 Oct 1999: "Knifeplay" by spectrum & amanda
13 Nov 1999: road trip up to Kingsport, Tri-Cities Power Exchange Munch
22 Jan 2000: "First Aid/ Safety Demo/ Workshop"/ Musey {Lava Lounge} (cut short by blizzard)
19 Feb 2000: Atlanta road trip
26 Feb 2000: "Caning" by Mom&Dad
1 Apr 2000: "Sensation Play," or "Sen-Sade" by Grey
29 Apr 2000: "Toy Making II" by spectrum
10 Jun 2000:"Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones, But Whips and Chains Excite Me! or The Differences Between Abuse and BDSM." by jen
15 Jul 2000: "Flogging Techniques" by Master Cary
19 Aug 2000: "Roleplay!" by Mom & Dad
28 Oct 2000: "Safety - at last!," by Musey
2 Dec 2000: "Rope Bondage" by Numinous/Daniels
6 Jan 2001: "Tattooing and Piercing," by Dusty Hill of Biotech.
10 Feb 2001: "Books! Pervy books!," by -^-^spectrum-^^-
17 Mar 2001: "BDSM Spirituality," by Joe Turner of Atlanta's Tribe
21 Apr 2001: "Ethical Sluthood," by Janet Hardy, of Greenery Press
26 May 2001: "The Scene in Europe," Dale and Pam.
4 Aug 2001: "Corsetry," Jen.
8 Sep 2001: "Making 24/7 Work in a Vanilla World," Mistress Tamara and her submissive.
13 Oct 2001: "Mindfucks!," John Warren.
17 Nov 2001: "Hypnodomination," Lady D.
12 Jan 2002: "Cock & Ball Torture," Evil Bill
16 Feb 2002: "Negotiation," -^-^spectrum-^^- and TymKeepr
23 Mar 2002: "BDSM and the Law in Tennessee," the Group's lawyer
27 Apr 2002: "Good Old American Bondage," Jeff/TNRopes
1 Jun 2002: "BDSM and Personal Growth: An Examination and Discussion," Spectrum and Janet Miles
6 Jul 2002: "Domineering is not Dominant," Terry and ginger, Rob and paige, from Atlanta's Tribe
10 Aug 2002: "Knifeplay," by Master Bear
14 Sep 2002: "The Mystique of Fireplay," by Rusty/UTMaster
19 Oct 2002: "Wax Play: Thermal Shock," by -^-^spectrum-^^- and TymKeepr
24 Nov 2002: "Pervertables and Home-made toys: Show Me Yours and I'll Show You Mine," - the group.
4 Jan 2003: "Age Play," by Lady Catherine, of Atlanta.
1 Feb 2003: "Electrical Play," by Jeremiah, of Atlanta's Tribe.
8 Mar 2003: "Mummification," by Sir Jospeh, of Nashville NLA.
12 Apr 2003: "Bullwhips!," by Travis of Houston
17 May 2003: "The National Leather Association," by Joseph from Nashville
21 Jun 2003: "The Physiology and Psychology of Pain," by Lady Catherine.
26 Jul 2003: "Roleplay," by Mom and Dad of Atlanta.
30 Aug 2003: "Hypnosis," by Jeff/Cuffsmaster, of Chattanooga.
4 Oct 2003: "A Dom's Toybag," by Rusty/UTMstr
8 Nov 2003: "Massage," by Rebecca Bradford of Be Well Bodyworks
13 Dec 2003: "Percussion 101," by Rusty/UTMstr and other local pervs
17 Jan 2004: "What is a Leather Title, and How Does It Fit within the Leather Lifestyle?", by Master Rickford ans slave kimmie.
28 Feb 2004: "D/s Decorum," by Lord Mercury.
3 Apr 2004: "Some Like it Hot: Wax Instead of Whacks," by spectrum and TymKeepr
8 May 2004: "Needle Play," by Gawga Peach.
12 Jun 2004: "Basic Bondage," by TNRopes and UTMstr.
18 Jul 2004: "Toymaking III" by spectrum: {at Papermill Super 8}
21 Aug 2004: "Medical Scenes," by Mistress K

 

[bytor2112]

tell that motherfucker to contact me...

i'll come over and tell you what to do bitch...

you will be my fucking slave and i will totally fuck you around the world bitch..

my first order would be to get psych help though...

 

[bytor2112]

tell that motherfucker to contact me...

i'll come over and tell you what to do bitch...

you will be my fucking slavbe and i will totally fuck you around the world bitch..

my first order would be to get psych help though...

 

[shy slave]

Its too much tempation I have to point out that if your going to be a Dom than remember slave is spelt SLAVE not slavbe.


*wanders off repeating the Do not feed the trolls mantra*

 

[bytor2112]

Its too much tempation I have to point out that if your going to be a Dom than remember slave is spelt SLAVE not slavbe.


*wanders off repeating the Do not feed the trolls mantra*

thanks babe ;

i'll shoot a load in your face one day for that

 

[InnerDarkness]

thanks babe ;

i'll shoot a load in your face one day for that

*jumps up and down*

oh! oh! oH! me, too! me, tooooooo!!!!!

 

[tythisredheadup]

tell that motherfucker to contact me...

i'll come over and tell you what to do bitch...

you will be my fucking slavbe and i will totally fuck you around the world bitch..

my first order would be to get psych help though...

Hey, it's my fucking thread. When I want to be a "slavbe", I'll be sure to give you a call...

Pussy.

 

[Jack Eagle]

Hey, it's my fucking thread. When I want to be a "slavbe", I'll be sure to give you a call...

Pussy.

RED,

Way to go. Bet his short comings include more than spelling!

 

[bunny bondage]

everyone here has mentioned great places to get info. but the sad fact is this - even though he may be willing to give it a shot, it just might not be for him. personally, i find there's a big difference between a dom spanking me because he wants to and him spanking me because i want him to. i don't mean to be a bummer or anything, i just don't want you to have expectations that might not be fulfilled. jeez, this has come off as all depressing, pay me no mind! i just don't want you to be hurt in this experience!

 

[Xelebes]

Hey, it's my fucking thread. When I want to be a "slavbe", I'll be sure to give you a call...

Pussy.

Slavbe sounds like a Slavic word. I wonder what it means.

 

[SweetDommes]

Slavbe sounds like a Slavic word. I wonder what it means.

It means that the person using it is a total asshole, moron, and general annoyance ...

*wanders off with shy, repeating the "do not feed the trolls" mantra*

 

[graceanne]

I think that slavbe means domme. See, KC was right, s/he's a closet sub.

 

[tythisredheadup]

everyone here has mentioned great places to get info. but the sad fact is this - even though he may be willing to give it a shot, it just might not be for him. personally, i find there's a big difference between a dom spanking me because he wants to and him spanking me because i want him to. i don't mean to be a bummer or anything, i just don't want you to have expectations that might not be fulfilled. jeez, this has come off as all depressing, pay me no mind! i just don't want you to be hurt in this experience!

Don't worry, Bun. Being hurt is the least of my worries. And he has been reading or something, because he was pretty good last night and this morning...

He'll get there, it will just take the cattle prod.

 

[bunny bondage]

Don't worry, Bun. Being hurt is the least of my worries. And he has been reading or something, because he was pretty good last night and this morning...

He'll get there, it will just take the cattle prod.

lol! well best of luck in achieving your happiness! be sure to tell us juicy details! ^_^

 

[Sir_Winston54]

<snip>He'll get there, it will just take the cattle prod.

Cattle prod? You sure you're sub? Sounds kinda Domme-ly or switch-y to me. ::evil chuckle::

 

[ghosst_K&H]

find a local group, and perhaps a mentor for your Dom.

 

[graceanne]

find a local group, and perhaps a mentor for your Dom.

Where in the world do you find mentors for dom's?

 

[tythisredheadup]

Cattle prod? You sure you're sub? Sounds kinda Domme-ly or switch-y to me. ::evil chuckle::

I wouldn't consider myself a switch. Whether it's bottoming, or topping from the bottom, I usually get what I want. All I know is, I get sooooo wet from being forced to do things. I haven't checked to see how wet I get from forcing things upon someone.
Hmmmmm.....

 

[ghosst_K&H]

Where in the world do you find mentors for dom's?

More experienced local Doms usually will take a neophyte and show them the ropes, and chains, and whips...etc