ok heres the situation

[Guest]

What the fuck should I do?

Met this great girl on line...we talked and chatted and it was my understadning that we had plans to meet in the very near future. Until...she disappeared. I have tried calling her...no answer...her email addresses seem to be non-existant...what do I do?

Do I keep calling until I get an answer?
Do I chalk it up to being a sily internet thing and move on?
Do I ask a bunch of complete strangers for advice???? (oh wait already doing that)...

Well...I suppose let me know what you think...who knows...maybe shell see this and recognize the name...
rabo

 

[rabo]

hmm...why did that come up as unregistered?

any answers to these and more questions would be great!
rabo

 

[willywanker]

Not trying to be a jerk, but if you want any real imput here, the first thing you need to do is back yourself out and register.

To many people have misused that unregistered option so....

Just a fair warning.

 

[Mistress]

What the fuck should I do?

Met this great girl on line...we talked and chatted and it was my understadning that we had plans to meet in the very near future. Until...she disappeared. I have tried calling her...no answer...her email addresses seem to be non-existant...what do I do?

Do I keep calling until I get an answer?
Do I chalk it up to being a sily internet thing and move on?
Do I ask a bunch of complete strangers for advice???? (oh wait already doing that)...

Well...I suppose let me know what you think...who knows...maybe shell see this and recognize the name...
rabo

A) She's ignoring you

B) Something in her real life took up her time

C) It WAS a silly internet thing

D) Maybe something happened, ya never know.

E) Maybe her boyfriend found out about her internet habits.

D) She probably has caller ID, or gave you a bogus phone number.

E) Who knows....

 

[rabo]

i tried

it came up unregistered by accient...ive been registered for a while...but well see what happens...not a matter of life or deth anyway.
rabo

 

[rabo]

Re: Re: ok heres the situation

A) She's ignoring you

B) Something in her real life took up her time

C) It WAS a silly internet thing

D) Maybe something happened, ya never know.

E) Maybe her boyfriend found out about her internet habits.

D) She probably has caller ID, or gave you a bogus phone number.

E) Who knows....

Ya...I got the explanations part of it down pretty well...the question is how long or strong should i even bother trying to persue?

 

[plasticman33]

Probably just one of those silly internet things.

She probably just enjoyed the thrill, but, felt threatened when being faced with the possibility of your intrusion into her real life. So she covered her tracks and disappeared. Happens all the time.

 

[Guest]

She's fucking me.

 

[Guest]

hmm

sounds like quite a pickle you have gotten yourself into...

did you do anything wrong? Argue... anything? Cuz unless you did something......


maybe she didn't like you as much as you think she did??
maybe you missinterpreted something?
maybe she just doesn't want to meet?


it could be all kinds of things

 

[Weird Harold]

Sounds like a classic case of cold feet.

Met this great girl on line...we talked and chatted and it was my understadning that we had plans to meet in the very near future. Until...she disappeared. I have tried calling her...no answer...her email addresses seem to be non-existant...what do I do?

Don't call, don't e-mail, don't stalk.

Just let her go.

There are some terrible people prowling the internet, and women especially have good reason to get cold feet about meeting people from the net. I suspect she got cold feet and has you on ignore until she sorts things out.

If you keep e-mailing her and pushing to meet her, then you look more and more like the kind of person a woman should not meet. Whatever the reality is, that's how being persistent will make you appear to her.

I've met two ladies from Literotica, and have an open invitation to any Literotican, male or female, to have coffee and donuts if they come to Las Vegas. Both times, we met in a situation where it was left up to them to approach me in a public setting where they can back out right up to the last second. Any other setup can be threatening and appear excessively risky, increasing the chance of cold feet.

What you planned the meeting for may have a lot to do with her cold feet. Anything other than coffee and donuts commits them to putting up with you longer than they may find comfortable. A meeting for the express purpose of having sex is the most threatening possibility of all because it inherently involves going somewhere private with a stranger. (assuming of course it isn't a meeting to fulfill a fantasy of public sex with a stranger.)

It certainly sounds to me like there was something in the arrangements for meeting that made her break off all communication with you. She may or may not get back in contact with you when she resolves her fears. It has to be her choice though. There are very few female predators on the net, so it is only logical to let the woman control the context of any meeting.

 

[Wizard]

Yep I hate to say it but sounds like time to move on to me...................

 

[cymbidia]

We've just had a thread on this topic, as a matter of fact.
Go read it here, if you like:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=39294

 

[beckbabe]

I agree with Harold. Don't pursue her, she is giving you every hint that she doesn't want you to, for whatever reason. Don't let it upset you.

 

[rabo]

A happy (well sort of) ending

Well...the good news:
a) she was NOT ignoring me
b) we are now very much in contact with new plans for a visit

the not so great news
a) the reason I couldnt get a hold of her was because a drunk hit her car and she was hospitalized for a couple of weeks

the lessons:
a) drunk drivers suck
b) not all people who cant get ahold of others are being ignored
c) not all who try are stalkers

Rabo smiles once again@!

 

[Laurel]

Re: Re: ok heres the situation

A) She's ignoring you

B) Something in her real life took up her time

C) It WAS a silly internet thing

D) Maybe something happened, ya never know.

E) Maybe her boyfriend found out about her internet habits.

D) She probably has caller ID, or gave you a bogus phone number.

E) Who knows....

or

F) She's a He.

Don't laugh...it happens!

 

[Never]

Re: Re: Re: ok heres the situation

or

F) She's a He.

Don't laugh...it happens!

Really?

 

[Laurel]

I've heard some pretty wild stories, some even on this very board...

 

[registered "^^"]

Her husband changed shifts and she can't be on line now.

 

[Pyper]

I can think of three separate cases where the she was actually a he. One of them was my best friend (a gay guy) pretending to be a woman in a roleplaying situation (which got romantic). He never let on that he was a guy, and gently broke it off.

 

[rabo]

can you not read?

there are no other options!!! she is not a he...she is not married...this is ridiculous...can you assholes not be happy for someone???
rabo

 

[Starfish]

rabo, I don't know if they saw your post. I am happy that you found out what was up, and troubled by what happened.

Good luck to the both of you.

 

[Savage Kitten]

good gosh!

you come here and ask for advice.. and when these generous peole try to help you... out of concern or even just cause they are nice... you call them assholes.

I agree with Starfish.... they probally psted before reading the whole thread... I almost did.

And even after reading the whole thread... just because you said it.. and because you asked for it... i'm gonna be an asshole.. and tell ya the truth!

there are people who lie out there in cyberworld there are people who will carry on an internet affair with you created entirely by their imagination

you never really know if anything at all that she has told you is the truth until you meet her face to face. And when that does happen... you can come back here and tells us all....

I TOLD YOU SO!

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: good gosh!

you never really know if anything at all that she has told you is the truth until you meet her face to face. And when that does happen... you can come back here and tells us all....

I TOLD YOU SO!

Yup, I thought the "hospitalized for a couple weeks" excuse was "off" a bit, too. You'd have to be about dead to be in the hospital for "a couple weeks" in this day and age of get 'em in and get'em out, revolving door medicine.

Now, that said, I DID have an online lover disappear for about 4 days last year. Turns out he really was in the hospital while they tried to figure out what was wrong with him. Scared me though not to hear from him. Was totally out of character and I was worried sick.

 

[rabo]

all thee of little faith

Well...

I am incredibly sorry for those I called asshole...it wasnt meant as a complete put down; but you have to understand that when one is trying to be the good guy and being told he is a stalker...or that he is stalking a he pretending to be a she...one gets frustrated...my foul mouth is actually surprised at the restraint I used.

As for the doubters...I will say that regardless of the horror stories (of which I am well aware)...the above are truths...She really was hospitalized for that long including relearning how to walk etc....and she is def. a she...having spoken on the phone as long and often (and unplanned) as we have...I would be most impressed by the actor who could pull that off. (I bet someone says that she is a pre-op tranny next...). However, along with the horror stories, there are also beautiful tales of people finding the love of their life through the internet...so to the pessimists....I say drink the fucking glass of water full or empty!

Once again...appologetic about offending anyone...wasnt my intention...
rabo

 

[pabloback]

face reality
SHE JUST DIDNT LIKE YOU !!!