Ok, don't laugh. Help!

[The8thMelody]

OK, so I am very sexual. I am uninhibited and LOVE SEX!!! I've had many partners. I am physically and mentally in good health.

I can't come from actual intercourse.

I can get off from oral sex or manual stimulation, but I think maybe I don't have a G-spot - I've searched, believe me. I thoroughly enjoy sex, but it would be so much better if I could come WHILE ACTUALLY GETTING FUCKED! Help!

I have friends who come more often during sex than from oral. I wish I could know what it felt like! They say it's not that different from a clitoral orgasm, but I want to know first hand.

If you have ANY suggestions, please let me know. I'll try anything. I just felt like this lovely sexually open community would be the right place to ask about this.

Thanks.

 

[Liar]

Hi! Got no answer for you, but if you post your question over in the How To forum, I'm sure you'll get more replies.

#L

 

[Guest]

OK, so I am very sexual. I am uninhibited and LOVE SEX!!! I've had many partners. I am physically and mentally in good health.

I can't come from actual intercourse.

I can get off from oral sex or manual stimulation, but I think maybe I don't have a G-spot - I've searched, believe me. I thoroughly enjoy sex, but it would be so much better if I could come WHILE ACTUALLY GETTING FUCKED! Help!

I have friends who come more often during sex than from oral. I wish I could know what it felt like! They say it's not that different from a clitoral orgasm, but I want to know first hand.

If you have ANY suggestions, please let me know. I'll try anything. I just felt like this lovely sexually open community would be the right place to ask about this.

Thanks.

Hi Melody,

I see you have already posted in the How To forum and had one response there. That poster mentioned that you are actually in the majority, not the minority. Most women find it easy to get off on clitoral stimulation, but not penetration. I don't know how true this is, because the opposite is true for me. I always orgasm through penetration alone, whether that's with his cock, his fingers, my fingers, his tongue or a toy.

You have got a G-spot, but some women find theirs a lot harder to find than others. Mine is very prominent, probably why I am so receptive.

It is quite easy to locate, if you follow what I tell you here.

- First off, get comfortable. Lie on the bed, or sit in an easy chair.

- Open your legs a little and insert your middle finger into your vagina, with the palm of your hand facing upwards.

- You should only need to insert your finger a little way, probably just an inch or so.

- Bend your finger a little at the first knuckle and apply a little pressure to the front inside of your vagina.

- You should have the tip of your finger parrallel with your abdomen.

- Rub it a little, apart from feeling good, you should feel a little nub inside (I have been told that mine feels like the end of another thumb ).

- That slightly raised nub, which doesn't feel smooth, is the location of your G-spot.

Have a little play, I'm sure you'll be able to find it. You'll also soon find out that rubbing there brings on an orgasm very quickly.

The key to achieving orgasm through penetration is having your G-spot stimulated.

While you are still learning to hone the receptiveness of your G-spot (for want of a better expression), it's all about getting the right position.

I find the best orgasms can be achieved in two positions.

The first is when he bends me over and takes me from behind. I presume this feels so good because as he thrusts in and out, the downforce of his cock rubs my G-spot.

The other postion is when I am on my back and he is on top, with my legs bent up and either held by him or pushed up, over his shoulders. They key is having your legs up and between your two torsos. This is an incredibly effective postition, because as he thrusts in and out of you, the tip of his cock will rub your G-spot - a lot of pressure and friction is placed on that area.

Hopefully, in time, you'll be able to achieve orgasm through penetration in any postion, as I do.

I do count myself as very lucky, but it's all about exploration and experimentation.

I hope that helps!

Let me know how you get on, if only through PM.

Lou

 

[destinie21]

Jesus Lou you made me spill my coffee. Luckily the people at starbucks dicked me around when I asked if the coffee was hot. It was only luke warm.

 

[Guest]

Hehehe!

Lou

 

[The8thMelody]

thanx!

Thanks, Liar. Realized it afterwards. already did.
-Mel

 

[Colleen Thomas]

I might suggest you try different positions. As Lou mentioned most women cannot get off on penetration alone. But most women can achieve climax with clitoral stimulation. It is possible that in your personal anatomical dimension that your clit is slightly further from your vaginal entrance than it is for other women. If so, while you are getting the enjoyment of penetration, you may be getting less clitoral stimulation from your partner during the act.

It is possible your problem is simply mental or due to a physical failing, but in my experience with other women I have found that the exact point where pleasure is the strongest for them varries wildly. If your strongest pleasure point is far enough removed from your entrance it is very possible your partner isn't hitting it consistantly enough to let you come. If that is the case a position like doggy style, where you partner can use his hands to provide manual stimulation while in the act might be the ticket.

Best of luck,

-Colly

 

[Guest]

Mel,

Um... You're welcome!

Oh well, I could always take the bulk of my post, embellish a little and write it up for a "How To" story submission.



Lou