Oh shit, I did that.

[freescorfr]

Miss Taken's sexual position.

JuicyLips has not been here today - instead I'll pose a JL type question.

Are you like MissTaken? Surprise
Regret
Dismay
Feeling imlicated
Emotionally attached


or a Lady Macbeth,

"A little water washes us of this deed".

Can you simply walk away from the night before?

Put it all behind you and move on?


{imagine if Lady Mcbeth has said, "Oh shit, I did that " It would have fucked up the whole play.}

 

[riff]

you lost me on this one, bud

 

[heterotic]

I get it from "Lady Macbeth" on down, but I'm completely confused above there.

 

[freescorfr]

Hi Riff. I agree - not crystal clear.

To reput it another way - The night after the event do you say, "Did I do that, with a bit of surprise, self-blame?"

Or is it

"OK, that one can be put neatly away out of sight?"

Is that clearer?

 

[freescorfr]

Quote from Miss Taken's post on the Your sexual position thread.

"When you wake in the morning and say, "Oh Shit! I did that!"



The MissTaken position...


what a flipping mistake, you were!

Or, when you are riding her and glance over at the bedstand to see her wedding band and a picture of a man....

Then, that would be the Miss Taken position."

 

[erosman]

no...for me, I think I process fast enough...or am just stubborn enough, to not regret.

Woody Allen said something like so:"The heart wants what the heart wants." That was after it was discovered he was fucking his stepdaughter. It may appear calloused and out of touch, but to honestly reveal what your heart is saying - "hey, it's what I wanted." - for me is a good step.

We don't get the chance to re-live the moment...we do get the chance for the water to wash us.

 

[badasschick]

Most of the time I can walk away from it, or just kick them out.

But if its so good that I wake up next to a labrador retriever and don't mind it. Then I want more.

 

[heterotic]

I'm with erosman. Never woken in the morning and regretted it, even when bad things have happened, because I've only done what I wanted to do.

Of course, I've never slept with my stepdaughter, either.

 

[MissTaken]

I have, on an occasion or two, realized in the aftermath that my hormones got in the way of good sense.

Can I move on?

Yes, slowly. I have a difficult time getting rid of the poor guy who thought there was something really special happening, when in fact it was pure lust.....and perhaps, a mistake.


The phone calls and messages slow down to a dribble before I can actually say, this really shouldn't have happened.

Call me a wuss, if you like. I am just not very good at rendering disappointment.


I am working on it though!

Step 1: Don't sleep with anyone who will end up leaving me regretting the act.

Step 2: Speak up if it happens.

 

[erosman]

I am just not very good at rendering disappointment.

I really like this image, MissT. I can see myself heating a pot of pork fat...rendering it...melting it...so that the impurities can be skimmed and the desired procuct be stabilized for future benefit.
(Sorry if that is a bad graphic for you...lol...it really works for me. ) To sift through the shit of our disappointments, and collect the treasures that have lasting meaning - the art of living.

 

[fallon2]

When she

When she calls back I usually tell her "hey I had a GREAT time" but . . . "I don''t want to waste your time and mine." I wish her the best (and I do mean that) and try not to hurt anyone's feelings. If she tells me the same thing that is also appreciated and ACCEPTED.