Oh boy : Has this ever happened to you too ?

[GoddessMaureen]

Hello,

I've been a member of the Lite community here for over a year. I have made some truly awesome and amazing friends/family here online as this site. When I created my profile and then began posting my erotic tales/adventures here, I left my y msg on in my profile as fans (very kind and wonderful men and women) wanted to contact me to discuss my writing. I left it on my profile as I have had no bad experiences. Until now.

Yet, a year later I have had at least 2 so far. One man began pvt msging me here at Lite and I let him know right away that I am here for my thread (Lost Princess) and to publish my erotica. He then wrote back wanting to know If I am a man or woman as my profile did not make that clear !! He is asking me to cyber him then when I explain what I use this lovely site for, is now confused on how a "Goddess Maureen" is a man or woman ? He kept emailing me telling me my profile was wrong. On the profile it also lists my fav things and that I am a writer and actress..(not actor, actress.Goddess and not God.) I switched up my profile then suddenly he begins to email me his interest.(dear lord) I have since heard nothing from him since I said I just wanted to be friends. Apparently there are a number of men pretending to be women on this site. (I did not know that) I knew about some women conning men out of money/gifts but not that men were actually faking women profiles.

Last night I was working and had my msg off when someone I do not know or recognize suddenly pops up in my msg and says my name. I thought it might be someone I know why changed their y handle..I say Yes ? he goes on and on about how sorry he is to interrupt me..etc...I had never seen or chatted,spoke or IM-ed this man before. He saw my name on the site and decided since he was so lonely he wanted someone to "talk" to him. I explained as kindly as I could that I use the site to publish and work on a thread here..that is all. I do not want to give anyone the impression of anything else as it seems so sad/unfair to let men think they will get something when they won't. I did not want to waste his time/effort. This makes him angry..he insults me, tells me how rude I am, took the Lords name in vain and would not stop. I finally blocked him. My good friend in Japan sighed when I told her the story, shook her head and said how some people feel they are "entitled" just because they see your name.

I left my msg info up for the fans of my work and friends I've yet to meet and because of this so called "man" I took the info down. My question is, has anyone else had this problem with men or women ? I swear in the yr I have been lucky enough to be here, this has never happened. Men usually thank me, apologize and move on, no hard feelings. Have you felt pressured to change your profile, delete it or leave off your msg info because of a problem with a member or members in general ?

I guess I'd like to say just because you see someone's handle here, and perv their profile it does not mean they are here looking for what you are looking for. Perhaps a pvt msg to their account here to introduce yourself and let them (as I have often done) explain why they are here without harrassing them on their messengers, is a better way to go. I am happy you are so "horny and hard" but it has nothing to do with me and I do not need to drop what I am doing and satisfy you because you feel entitled as a man to order women around just because my name happens to be listed as a member/guest of this site. PLEASE think with your Brain and not your penis.


Thanks for listening and Happy WED Hugs, (I feel better for having written this, thanks)

Maureen

 

[GoddessMaureen]

Hello all,

Just bumping the thread up

Happy weekend Hugs,

Maureen

 

[MrsMellowCake]

I've certainly had some bad experiences. One in particular springs to mind, it was a chap I had spoken to via yahoo a couple of times and one day I was ill with flu, literally couldn't get out of bed. I had my laptop with me to keep me company and IM kept pinging away, with messages like "Hi." "I'm hard." I thought, well, just ignore them but it got to 20, 25 from the same man and I got fed up and sent him a message to say look, I'm sick, give me a day or two and we'll talk, and signed off. So a couple of days went by and when I logged back in, there were over 100 IMs from him. Often just one word, often just my name followed by a question mark, quite a lot of them saying "I don't understand. Have I done something wrong?" and I'm afraid I rather lost my cool. I'd been really unwell, told him as much and told him to back off in no uncertain terms. And then...one more message..."oh OK. If you won't talk will you give me the name of someone who will?" And he's been on ignore ever since.
There definitely is a sense of entitlement, but worse than that I think is the fact that people seem to forget that there are real lives going on behind these screens. Just as in real life, sometimes one just isn't in the mood. As for people not thinking with their penises...I doubt that will happen any time soon!

 

[GoddessMaureen]

Thank you Mrs Mellow Cake

Hello,

Thank you for sharing your similar experiences with me, my thread and all of Us here. Thank you for showing me it is not just Me having these kind of IM's too. I had one man write a pvt msg to me telling me he had to "come" and I needed to help him. (Really ? I thought, and why is that ? I do not even know you) then he started IM-ing me as some men here think all women who post or read here, or are members here, are Open for business to serve. As you were forced to do, he went right on my ignore also.

Another man was very nice and charming to me..but then out of the blue he sent angry pvt msgs to a friend of mine I convinced to join Lite. She sent them to me and when I asked this man why would you send such abusive messages to a friend of mine ? He had no answer. That was the last of him too. Then there was the Dom who ordered me to have nothing to do with my ex-Master and that I had to serve him or else, he did not want to be my friend..and now, he is nothing to me.

Entitlement indeed. I thought perhaps the thought of men thinking without using their penis might be a faint hope. I have met a few men who are totally awesome, funny, kind, charming, supportive and very good friends of mine. I call myself lucky that I know there are some men here who think of others and do not feel entitled to anything.

Happy weekend and thank you for taking the time to post,

Maureen

I've certainly had some bad experiences. One in particular springs to mind, it was a chap I had spoken to via yahoo a couple of times and one day I was ill with flu, literally couldn't get out of bed. I had my laptop with me to keep me company and IM kept pinging away, with messages like "Hi." "I'm hard." I thought, well, just ignore them but it got to 20, 25 from the same man and I got fed up and sent him a message to say look, I'm sick, give me a day or two and we'll talk, and signed off. So a couple of days went by and when I logged back in, there were over 100 IMs from him. Often just one word, often just my name followed by a question mark, quite a lot of them saying "I don't understand. Have I done something wrong?" and I'm afraid I rather lost my cool. I'd been really unwell, told him as much and told him to back off in no uncertain terms. And then...one more message..."oh OK. If you won't talk will you give me the name of someone who will?" And he's been on ignore ever since.
There definitely is a sense of entitlement, but worse than that I think is the fact that people seem to forget that there are real lives going on behind these screens. Just as in real life, sometimes one just isn't in the mood. As for people not thinking with their penises...I doubt that will happen any time soon!