"offline" on yahoo

[dave's thing]

Since I began this rather popular thread yesterday, many men have requested to be added to my chat list. I'm always open to meeting knew people and, thus, added them. However, I'd say about 75% have no idea why they requested the add, ASK me my lit screen name, and then when I tell them my interests which are clearly displayed in my profile, they express a desire to "learn" but no real desire to participate. That last part is fine. I'm happy to discuss. I just cannot believe that 100 men request Yahoo adds, and 75 of them have no idea why!

I have had EXACTLY the same problem over the years with people of all kinds. As I was pondering over the thread and how to put my reasons for being invisible both here and Yahoo I found your post, and realized that the wording yours was exactly right. I found a long time ago that if I was visibly here (Lit or Yahoo), then I used to get these inane requests and questions yet when I was not online the only messages I got were from serious people with genuine comments or good friends. So slowly I started being invisible til I got the point where I am almost always invisble all the time. I hope I answered why I do it??

BTW it is not just men that are invisble...... most of my female friends, I am finding are doing it often too.

 

[pithy]

off/on

I have had some great experiences in chat on AIM over a few years. Separating the wheat from the chaff though is a tremendous challenge... and at times not clearly worth the effort.

Is Yahoo any better? Since recently discovering this site I've signed up, but haven't had much experience there.

mike

 

[craig30]

I have had some great experiences in chat on AIM over a few years. Separating the wheat from the chaff though is a tremendous challenge... and at times not clearly worth the effort.

Is Yahoo any better? Since recently discovering this site I've signed up, but haven't had much experience there.

mike

It really depends what you like to do with chat. It seems that yahoo is just the most popular of the chat program.

 

[hellsgate]

No, "offline" stealth settings keep a person's business & personal lives separate or just helps to avoid ex's or clingy/whiney/monopolizing soon-to-be-ex's, etc.

 

[Fohi80]

I didn't know you could set offline status here on Lit. I do it on yahoo because I want to give the person I'm with all my attention without being disturbed

 

[Plasmaball]

Why do most men always set their status to "offline" on lit. I have the sneaking suspicion it's b/c it better allows them to be engaged in multiple chats.

most women do this as well....Shrug

 

[TallMan60]

I often have mine off-line, but thats so that I don't get disturbed and sidetracked when I'm chatting to someone that I really want to give my full attention to

Yes, I can't meaningfully chat with more than one person at a time, and don't like it if I'm being shared. And I can always tell. It's a turn on to have someone's complete attention.

 

[PervyRomantic]

Yes, I can't meaningfully chat with more than one person at a time, and don't like it if I'm being shared. And I can always tell. It's a turn on to have someone's complete attention.

Definately agree.

 

[loisofthelow]

People are very sneaky and I have felt a little bit creeped out by some messages on yahoo that I've been getting. It seems that basic etiquette is not followed. I mean, I can't believe when men ask me to add them to my messenger list and then don't remember WHY they did, what my name is on here, or when they did it!

I agree completely!

I can't believe a guy will send an IM that says, "I'm from Lit A/S/L"

 

[PervyRomantic]

I agree completely!

I can't believe a guy will send an IM that says, "I'm from Lit A/S/L"

Wow. some people still use "A.S.L" I thought that was a relic of chat rooms!!


PR

 

[Hanon435]

i thought the light box meant horny.

my light is on when i'm here. and my pm box is not full ladies. and you can im me too. or post on my thread. i'm here ladies. any time.

 

[just2damshy]

I keep mine invisible almost always. I have had the same messenger name for many years and going visible usually means the past coming back to haunt me

Also have family on there and I moved away for a reason

I think I do it so I can decide when I have time to talk and when not, as I always have it on to know if I have incoming mail. Most of my closer friends know this and don't have a problem with it I don't think. This thread has made me feel bad

 

[Zack_28]

Never actually been "offline". If I'm on, I'm on, and everyone's welcome to chat.

I guess people "cheat" this way because they just don't want to be annoyed.

 

[johnph22]

Never go offline, I have set some people to perm invisible though.

 

[mellowyellows]

Yahoo is one of the biggest headaches you can't stand not to love!