Objectification

[Doctor Joe]

I have been used this way before. A weekend on a boat with guys and Hubby. I told them if you need to release some cum or get horny just use me for your pleasure. Also happened in Mexico when we ran into a bachelor party at our hotel. We met the guys in their suite and some stayed behind and didn't go to town. The ones that stay behind use me for a fuck, suck and titfuck toy for a few hours. Saw the whole group the next day at the pool and the ones that went to town were very disappointed.

I'm very disappointed that I haven't been to SoCal to objectify you Del!
Love to have you as a playtoy!

 

[sterculius]

The great thing about objectification is that not only can I enjoy directly what I feel as I'm being "used", but I'm also able to step outside of myself and experience a sense of separation as I observe and enjoy what I see being done to me almost as an independent voyeur and think to myself "what a slut!!"

 

[ElliottEden]

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[hrnyslt]

This is one of my favorite fetishes I love giving over all control and just being treated like a toy it allows me to let go of myself and really enjoy getting used.

 

[CharityLynn]

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[Specula]

This is one of my favorite fetishes I love giving over all control and just being treated like a toy it allows me to let go of myself and really enjoy getting used.

beautifully said!!

 

[gunthernehmen]

There a genre of porn called "freeuse". It meshes well with this thread.

 

[bushyTrail]

The great thing about objectification is that not only can I enjoy directly what I feel as I'm being "used", but I'm also able to step outside of myself and experience a sense of separation as I observe and enjoy what I see being done to me almost as an independent voyeur and think to myself "what a slut!!"

Interesting... In a story I'm writing, I'm using a room whose walls are all mirrors to achieve what you describe in a more pragmatic way. Would this make the whole experience better, in your opinion?

 

[Erosfan]

I've taken part in a CFNM objectification session with a bunch of other ladies. It was fun to turn things around.
As for me I think if its in fun then it's fine. But there are some nasty people out there.

I'm into the CFNM thing myself. I have had a few really great experiences. My wife and I discuss this often. These days, I only get naked for my wife. I think she feels that I want to interact or have sex with other women even though I assure I don't. I want her to show her friends that I am hers and will do anything she wishes.

 

[confusedcamy]

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[SluggerOToole]

I wish I was hot enough to be objectified.

 

[sterculius]

Interesting... In a story I'm writing, I'm using a room whose walls are all mirrors to achieve what you describe in a more pragmatic way. Would this make the whole experience better, in your opinion?

Not necessarily, objectification transforms me into an unfeeling entity. My actual feelings or observations become irrelevant. I become merely a tool to be used for someone else's gratification. My disembodied state allows me to vicariously enjoy the activities I'm called upon to perform. Mirrored walls might allow me to view myself from different perspectives, but have no effect upon my liberated, disconnected state.

 

[lil_jenni]

Fuck, I love this thread. I can't believe I never saw it before.

My entire sexual history before hubby is one of being objectified, both by guys and in my own mind. And it is a part of our play now. Hubby was uncomfortable with it when we were first together, but as with many of my darker desires, he has come a long way.

I do have a limit, however. I tired being a stripper twice in my life and hated it both time. Then I worked at a brothel for a few weeks and hated it even more. My first sexual experiences were with a guy who thought that all women were wroth nothing more than the pleasure they gave men. I had no control at all. After him, I always kept some control by picking the guys and being the aggressor (except when I was really drunk). Dancing and whoring both left me feeling like nothing was in my control.

 

[policywank]

Objectification is sort of ill-defined word for me. From a female perspective the historical context is that when we are objectified it is assumed that we are not useful for or able to be anything else than what our objectifier assumes. So when a man observes a woman's sexiness in a certain way it is assumed that he assumes she is dumb. But the examples are sort of pre-ordained - if he says she has pretty eyes he is being respectful and not objectifying her but if he says she has great tits he is being crass and objectifying her. Who wrote that rulebook? And why must seeing me as a sex object automatically mean a man can't see me as anything else?

I know men who think I am intelligent and good at my job and able to carry witty conversation and highly fuckable. And not just in some overtly old school gentlemanly way. Guys who want me to dress up slutty, get paraded around at a club or party then take them home and fuck them in the raunchiest possible way. As long as that doesn't automatically make them assume I am otherwise a vacuous dumbass I quite enjoy it. And when we are doing all of that, yes they are thinking of me only as a sex object and frankly that is how I am thinking of them as well. Indulging in that because we want to doesn't mean we otherwise having no regard for one another.

But even when we do have little regard for one another aside from the sexual experience that isn't necessarily a bad thing if we both know that and enjoy that. I have guys I fuck who quite honestly aren't all that appealing when we aren't fucking. Am I objectifying them. Yes I am and probably vice versa. But we both know and accept it.

I kind of feel like the "traditional' view of being objectified is rooted too deeply in women's need to receive approval. The reality is that if we are truly equal we don't need approval. So what if a guy is only fucking me for my firm ass and big tits as long as I am enjoying myself.

Now if he is genuinely disdainful of me and abusive outside of the sex I will probably find that unattractive so I won't likely be with him. But even then I have had a few short-term flags that sort of walked that line - hey it excited me at the time and that was all there was to it. Whether something works for me or not is a very personal matter - I don't owe it to society to enforce a given code of conduct on men.

 

[lil_jenni]

After re-reading my post above, I wanted to add something. A lot of girls on here I've talked to who have danced or taken money for sex find it empowering. I wish I could have, and I wish I could look back at it that way now. But I can't. To me it feels like I've really become the thing that first guy tried to make me--a non-person only good for a man's pleasure.

And if you're thinking about PMing me and suggesting I get some.counseling, thanks for the thought, but please don't. I have a wonderful therapist I've been working with for years. She and Hubby keep me sane and willing to believe I am worth Hubby's love.

 

[willingtobeused]

I so agree with you

 

[sterculius]

Just because you enjoy objectification doesn't mean there are no hard limits. A valuable tool should be used with caution to avoid breaking it so that it can be used over and over again. I love being used, but not ABused!

 

[Erosfan]

Just because you enjoy objectification doesn't mean there are no hard limits. A valuable tool should be used with caution to avoid breaking it so that it can be used over and over again. I love being used, but not ABused!

Perfectly stated. I too, love being used and I will do anything my wife wants.

 

[sterculius]

I trace my first exposure to objectification to a 3-4 year period when, as a teenager, I willingly served as my best friend Larry's personal cocksucker. I would agree to suck his cock whenever and wherever he told me to, usually at least once a day and sometimes twice that same day. I was at his beck and call. I would put aside whatever plans I might have made in order to blow him. I would gleefully perform whatever demeaning and embarrassing acts he ordered me to do. I would conspire with him in finding new ways to humiliate me. It aroused me to allow him to denigrate and "use" me for his sexual gratification. The only time I disobeyed him was when I wouldn't agree to let him tell our friends that I was his cocksucker and to blow them while he watched. I objected because I was afraid of becoming known as the neighborhood cocksucker. Although he said he wouldn't, I was convinced that he eventually would tell them anyway, in spite of my objections. On one occasion, I arrived at his house where I would normally blow him, to see that Steve, one of the guys he wanted to watch me blow was there with him!I I panicked, confused as to which one I'd have to suck off first until it became clear that Steve was there not for a blowjob, but to get a homework assignment he'd missed. After he left, and I gave Larry his blowjob, I realized I was disappointed I didn't have to suck off Steve too. I used to masturbate while dreaming he had told our friends about me, imagining myself down on my knees, surrounded by all our friends and their girlfriends, as they stood around laughing at me, watching me suck cock after cock and swallowing their cum while the guys had their cocks out, stroking themselves as they waited to take their turn fucking my throat. Sadly, he never did tell them. I wish he had.

 

[LauraWilling]

So many great comments on this and I agree with many of them. As a former dancer, nude model and escort work for awhile and very submissive, I feel women have always been objectified since man and woman came out of the Garden of Eden. It is nature, it is a given. Men and women have always objectified each other and always will. If we didn't no one would be reproducing and we would become extinct.

In all of my time working I felt empowered by others objectifying me. They paid to see me, watch me and they enjoyed it and I learned how a smile of a certain move could make them get excited and throw money at me. Their objectification of me was actually giving me power over them. It was the first time in my life I felt like I was in charge, I had the power. I don't have that feeling in everyday life. men and some women have total power and control of me if they wish to use it. This has lead me into relationships with only Dominant people. Even my husband more owned me than he was a husband. Thankfully he was as one of husbands friend said after my husband passed that he was a benevolent dictator over me. But I was an object for his pleasure from the time he claimed me until he died. I do no regret his ownership of me. He gave me a great life I never would have had otherwise. Point being I was an object to him and could be used as he pleased.

I realize my "marriage"was not your "normal" marriage as most think of these relationships, but I feel it was the extreme end of what most people see as marriage. All women and men are objects and no politics or political correctness can change "Mother Nature" for very long. It is impossible. Please don't think of me as a political person at all, I am not. Just stating common logic and sense if you think about it, and trust me I am also not a rocket scientist or brain surgeon, just a little street smarts and common sense.

Ladies who of us have not admired a great butt on a guy passing by or eyes that see through us with a great smile. I strong man, not just muscles, but attitude and character. A confident man. We all love that and are attracted to it. Aren't we? Just like men see a nice set of boobs or a nice bottom, walk and legs on us and don't we present these body parts in the most attractive way we can for the situation we might be in. It is human nature! We are all seen as objects. Some of us realize this and know our place. Physically we are the "weaker sex" so we can be Dominated this way, but we also have strengths if we would just use them.

People might ask why do't I use my "power?" My answer is I do. I know what I am and what I and others like me are meant for and I do that the best I can and it has served me well over all. Yes there were hard parts in my life, but who has not had hard times in their lives?

Objectification is Mother Nature at work. It is called life , folks.

 

[sterculius]

Bravo!!!

 

[shinybikiniwife]

Unpopular as it is, objectification of a partner is exceptionally erotic to me. For my purposes it's of a woman but others a man or both. Anybody enjoy this fetish or am I alone?

I find the experience of treating a woman like she's just a toy for my cock, a place to dump my cum... It's very erotic. Key to this fetish is that she enjoys it as well.

Most people would consider this the worst kind of misogyny but that angle for me has little erotic worth. It's just the giving of herself complexly to me to be as selfish as I want with her. So more about my greed as a lover.

For me that's a great fetish that's been great irl. Not every night, but man sometimes it's the best.

Anybody else?

Sometimes! omg... very blunt, but I appreciate the honesty. So, sometimes.

 

[faraday69]

One of my greatest fantasies is to find another mans wife for objectification on a regular basis. Both of them would be willing for it to happen ideally.
There would be deep communication about boundary's before, and ongoing.

 

[watchmygfnd]

One of my greatest fantasies is to find another mans wife for objectification on a regular basis. Both of them would be willing for it to happen ideally.
There would be deep communication about boundary's before, and ongoing.

The thought of watching my gf controlled, serving a man sexually, being an instrument of his pleasure is extremely hot.

 

[HeidiThompson]

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