Not sure what to do :(

[bad_girl69]

I have been with my master for 2 year on March 12. Everything is all great. He is very nice and considerate, and yet is very stern when he needs to be when i get out of line. I couldnt ask for anything more at all. This was completely perfect. Well so i thought. I dont know how to tell him how im feeling, not really sure if he may get uspset or if im going to sound like im nagging etc.. but in July 2006 he moved to a different apartment. Which was completely fine, really, but first of all, it took him soo long to get his internet back on, which made me have some doubts and finally we started to talk again around November/December. I thought everything was going to finally go back to normal. But i dont really know... i mean, im just so confused at this point.
Before we used to talk almost everyday, even just things in general, on mic, but now he hardly comes on. He mostly comes on once a week, if he came on twice a week, that would be a realy shocker!

I guess i want to ask a few people what to do. Do i confront him? Are my doubts wrong of him not wanting me anymore? Is he bored of me? OMG im going crazy with all these thoughts. He told me plenty times b4 that he loved me, but ever since he came back, well first off.. im lucky if i can be able to talk to him for more than 30 minutes...but he hasnt said love you... am i just worrying for no reason? I hate being so confused.

 

[amadaun]

Sorry, I'm not entirely clear: is this a purely long-distance relationship, or are you just living apart in the same area?

 

[Kierae]

I assume that this relationship was online and not IRL from what you wrote. Alot of times folks who just play Dom/sub games online burn out and move on - not much different than cybering (you can only recreate the scene via words so many times and then it loses its novelty). Not to take away the intensity of the experience you had with him prior to his "move" (assuming he really did move and didn't just drop offline) but this is something you should consider. Personally I would ask him outright since you do have a 2 year history.

~kierae

 

[myinnerslut]

i too would ask him what is going on. i am sorry for the situation you find yourself in. it must be tough.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I have been with my master for 2 year on March 12. Everything is all great. He is very nice and considerate, and yet is very stern when he needs to be when i get out of line. I couldnt ask for anything more at all. This was completely perfect. Well so i thought. I dont know how to tell him how im feeling, not really sure if he may get uspset or if im going to sound like im nagging etc.. but in July 2006 he moved to a different apartment. Which was completely fine, really, but first of all, it took him soo long to get his internet back on, which made me have some doubts and finally we started to talk again around November/December. I thought everything was going to finally go back to normal. But i dont really know... i mean, im just so confused at this point.
Before we used to talk almost everyday, even just things in general, on mic, but now he hardly comes on. He mostly comes on once a week, if he came on twice a week, that would be a realy shocker!

I guess i want to ask a few people what to do. Do i confront him? Are my doubts wrong of him not wanting me anymore? Is he bored of me? OMG im going crazy with all these thoughts. He told me plenty times b4 that he loved me, but ever since he came back, well first off.. im lucky if i can be able to talk to him for more than 30 minutes...but he hasnt said love you... am i just worrying for no reason? I hate being so confused.

sounds like these are questions you need to ask of Him. we can't answer them for you. you need to talk to him, tell him how you're feeling and ask him the questions you have. communication is key in ANY relationship but in my opinion even more so in a D/s and especially an LDR/online D/s Relationship. so no you are not wrong for wanting to bring this up to him. good luck

 

[bad_girl69]

I want to thank you all for placing your comment and for your words. It does mean alot to me, and i thank you.
Yes this is an online relationship. But there was so much talk of meeting up and making this real, and he even asked me about moving in with him.
I guess im just going to take all ur advice and just ask him. Now i cant help but worry abit of what the answers might be.

 

[h_i_s]

I have been with my master for 2 year on March 12. Everything is all great. He is very nice and considerate, and yet is very stern when he needs to be when i get out of line. I couldnt ask for anything more at all. This was completely perfect. Well so i thought. I dont know how to tell him how im feeling, not really sure if he may get uspset or if im going to sound like im nagging etc.. but in July 2006 he moved to a different apartment. Which was completely fine, really, but first of all, it took him soo long to get his internet back on, which made me have some doubts and finally we started to talk again around November/December. I thought everything was going to finally go back to normal. But i dont really know... i mean, im just so confused at this point.
Before we used to talk almost everyday, even just things in general, on mic, but now he hardly comes on. He mostly comes on once a week, if he came on twice a week, that would be a realy shocker!

I guess i want to ask a few people what to do. Do i confront him? Are my doubts wrong of him not wanting me anymore? Is he bored of me? OMG im going crazy with all these thoughts. He told me plenty times b4 that he loved me, but ever since he came back, well first off.. im lucky if i can be able to talk to him for more than 30 minutes...but he hasnt said love you... am i just worrying for no reason? I hate being so confused.

Hmm... sounds like you are very confused... and i can only begin to imagine why.
While i certainly agree that you would do better to find your answers at the source of your confusion (with your 'master')... your first step may be even a bit more simple than that.

Juggling a 5 year relationship while maintaining a balance with keeping a 2 year LDR/online relationship at the same time.....can't be an easy task...... although one can only IMAGINE the complications.

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=21525525&postcount=17

.... together for close to 5 years now, and things are just getting better and better ... so why the two year LDR 'master' on the side? That's got to be confusing.. no doubt.

Or maybe you forgot to include the other half of the story here......

Does the 'master' that you had/have the LDR/online thing with know about the relationship of 5 years?
If he does... maybe that's a reason for him being so distant and suddenly less interested and less available to you..... maybe he has taken issue with the 5 year relationship that you have had/are involved in.. or whatever the story is on that.

And how about the person of the 5 year relationship? Do they know about the LDR/online master of two years?

Regardless.... for more than just a few reasons.... you won't find any *one size fits all* answers coming from anyone here.

The solutions start with you ... and also involve the master of 2 years ... and the other person you have the 5 year relationship with.

BEST ADVICE TONIGHT: Start there. Don't pass go until you can collect your $100 dollars... and try not to land your ass in jail while circling the board... lol

 

[Evil_Geoff]

OMG... sinn... have I told you lately that I love you? *LOL*

Sorry bad_girl, but to quote Ricky Ricardo....
"chew gots some 'splainin' to do!"

 

[h_i_s]

OMG... sinn... have I told you lately that I love you? *LOL*

Sorry bad_girl, but to quote Ricky Ricardo....
"chew gots some 'splainin' to do!"

i am an Owned slave Mr. Evil G. i'm not allowed to be in possession of much. i am not allowed to own or accept anything... kind of like a nun but i get to have wild sex and stuff. Shall i forward your expressions of love to my Owner? Or are you trying to make some attempt at starting some kind of LDR/online fling with little old innocent 'me'? (ok, ok so the old and little part are mostly on the mark)






But but.... but..... RIIIIIIIIIIIICKY !!!!
*snorts*

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*smiles* I know you are owned, sinn and would not encroach, nor try to poach, upon your Master's property. My love is chaste and pure, and unsullied by thoughts of debauchery. Rather like my feelings for Etoile, who, being uninterested in affairs of the heart with those of my gender, is unattainable, unreachable, lofty and distant in her perfection...






You're not buying into this at all, are you?

 

[Honeybee80]

It seems really odd to me that after two years she wouldn't even have his phone number. I'd say that if he hasn't even let her that far into his life, she is totally overestimating the depth of the relationship.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

It seems really odd to me that after two years she wouldn't even have his phone number. I'd say that if he hasn't even let her that far into his life, she is totally overestimating the depth of the relationship.

well after reading into the other post from another thread that sinn posted..seems this person just wants attention anyway? because in the other post she said that she WAS with a guy for 2 years (i'm assuming that's the master she speaks of) and then he just ended it. THEN she met another guy who she's been with for 5 years.....that's how i took it..*shrugs* methinks the OP has some explaining if she wants anyone to understand what is going on and give advice....

 

[PleasurePuppy]

I've been with my master for a little over a year, and most of our interaction for at least the first half was online. We went through this five or six month period where we didn't get to talk much. During that time, I started to think the same way. I started to feel like he didn't want me anymore and it was all over. I was wrong. Don't make any assumptions, he is talking to you still.

When I talk to my master about things I question his reaction on, I request permision to talk first. At least that way there's no punishment for bringing it up and you can address the problem. A good master wants his slave to be happy, he shouldn't ignore it once you put it out there.

 

[h_i_s]

You're not buying into this at all, are you?

So like.. i get to sit with Etoile in this whole example of whatever-it-is-not?
Ok. i see nothing in the rule book that says i can't do thaaaaaat...

i'm buying, and i'll raise you two.

 

[h_i_s]

Don't make any assumptions, he is talking to you still.

When I talk to my master about things I question his reaction on, I request permision to talk first.

Might be that what she could do to solve the whole thing would be to pass the master's phone number on to that person of the 5 year relationship.... let them hash it out. At least it would open them up to new and exciting possibilities. Like, maybe they could split her up the middle... and just share.

Regardless, since based on the current version of the story to date, this does appear to be someone who has two relationships going at once (aka likely cheating).........if it IS, how it seems......

The best part would be that they would ALL be in the relationship together... and in it together.... consensually ... this time!!


P.S.
Failed to mention,...... because i can't take the main point of this thread seriously at this point.........
The point is TALK to your master. Most seem to agree to that.

Another point would be that the Master should be the first person you would and COULD talk with... that's the point for many who are in this type of relationship. Many agree that communication is key to ANY relationship. If you can't TALK to one another (for whatever reason) i don't know that there is much there to call a relationship. i also wouldn't call that a 'Master'.... based on what the title means for me...
Not trying to insult... i am 'pondering'.. because for me, the situation that we are discussing ... is to me, comparable to a swimming pool with no water. i'd jump in and flail about screaming that i can't swim... and would look foolish for being in a pool that has no water...... poeple would point and be like, "WTF did she even get in the pool for? i'd have picked a pool with WATER at least.... duh.". Anyway, blabbing problems onto a forum, and seeking advice from those not even in the relationship would get my ass in hot water with my Master.... to begin with.

 

[Bandit58]

If she has been in this relationship for 2 years. they should be able to talk to each other - this is the whole point of a relationship, right?

Seems to me he is trying to "wean" her away from him. He only comes on once a week, for about 30 minutes? I've been in that situation myself (in a vanilla sense). The relationship went from chatting every day, text messages and phone calls, to chatting once or twice a week, and him not answering his phone when I rang, over the course of a year or so. Turns out he'd met someone in his town and was too cowardly to tell me for weeks. He was also married (which I knew about) and a serial cheater and kept making promises he couldn't or wouldn't be able to keep - but I was naive and vulnerable and I believed him I finally pinned him down on the phone one morning and that was the end of it. Yes I was heartbroken, but I learned a valuable lesson from the whole experience.

 

[Inconsequential]

I want to thank you all for placing your comment and for your words. It does mean alot to me, and i thank you.
Yes this is an online relationship. But there was so much talk of meeting up and making this real, and he even asked me about moving in with him.
I guess im just going to take all ur advice and just ask him. Now i cant help but worry abit of what the answers might be.

If you are that worried about his answers, you need to be strong enough to accept you may have to choose to leave. I would rather see you leave and be hurt for a little while than be in a neglective relationship for a long while. It may not sound like abuse but neglect is.
I can't say he is neglecting you, but if you went from talking everyday to talking once a week if you're lucky then something else must be demanding his time and you really do have a right to know if you could do more to attain his attention or if you could be of better service to someone else.
I know it sounds harsh, but really after you ask him the questions in your head, you'll at least be able to say you know where you place is and where you stand.

 

[Etoile]

*smiles* I know you are owned, sinn and would not encroach, nor try to poach, upon your Master's property. My love is chaste and pure, and unsullied by thoughts of debauchery. Rather like my feelings for Etoile, who, being uninterested in affairs of the heart with those of my gender, is unattainable, unreachable, lofty and distant in her perfection...

 

[Taurean_sexKitten]

I'm sorry to hear

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, but i really think you should talk to him so you can express your concerns about the relationship.

 

[wickedlady31]

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I have been with my master for 2 year on March 12. Everything is all great. He is very nice and considerate, and yet is very stern when he needs to be when i get out of line. I couldnt ask for anything more at all. This was completely perfect. Well so i thought. I dont know how to tell him how im feeling, not really sure if he may get uspset or if im going to sound like im nagging etc.. but in July 2006 he moved to a different apartment. Which was completely fine, really, but first of all, it took him soo long to get his internet back on, which made me have some doubts and finally we started to talk again around November/December. I thought everything was going to finally go back to normal. But i dont really know... i mean, im just so confused at this point.
Before we used to talk almost everyday, even just things in general, on mic, but now he hardly comes on. He mostly comes on once a week, if he came on twice a week, that would be a realy shocker!

I guess i want to ask a few people what to do. Do i confront him? Are my doubts wrong of him not wanting me anymore? Is he bored of me? OMG im going crazy with all these thoughts. He told me plenty times b4 that he loved me, but ever since he came back, well first off.. im lucky if i can be able to talk to him for more than 30 minutes...but he hasnt said love you... am i just worrying for no reason? I hate being so confused.

I've been here before....and was right with my assumptions....Follow your gut...tell him the truth in all of its brutality...and I am sure he will then..open up to you...
In my unprofessional opinion...he has someone else