" Normal" sex

[Quint]

Re: poop

i think a lot of things can be normal (i mean, not for me, but still sound good...). however, personally, i do not like the idea of bodily functions (urinating, defecating), being involved in sex. no offense to any of you who like that, i just don't understand the turn on at ALL. in fact, it would definately kill the mood for me.
i guess that's the thing i don't understand about anal sex (maybe someday i'll want it). i mean, the idea of receiving it someday sounds ok to me (not particularly hot, but who knows?). however, i don't understand why a man would want to basically stick his penis into shit? but that's because of the fact that i just have my strong dislike for any of the holes in my nether region besides my vagina. oh well, i guess some things will never be understood by me.
however, while i doubt i will ever participate in gay sex, threesomes, bondage, or anything particularly "interesting", all of those things seem perfectly normal to me, and actually quite fun...

I'm extremely squeamish about bodily functions. It took me forever to be able to pee in front of my boyfriend, and I'll never be up for more than that. I feel nothing but revulsion, panic, and disinterest for any sort of scat activities. Anal sex isn't about shit for either of us; I try to be as clean as possible when I catch him eyeing my ass that certain way. But it really isn't that big of a deal--whatever bacterial transfer occurs can be easily washed off in the shower. Just don't suck him off immediately afterwards. There are lots of purely physical reasons why people are into it--it's tight, naughty, a little painful, a little pleasurable, a little barbaric. But no shit.

Now, watersports I have indulged in. There are several reasons why people enjoy this, but I feel pretty comfy saying that it's something a person just would not get if they weren't wired in a certain way. We're into erotic humiliation; watersports is a way of playing with that. Other couples do it as a form of intimacy; after all, it IS a very personal thing that would not be shared with just anybody. Lots of reasons. But just last year, I thought it was a terrible idea and could not comprehend ever being aroused by it, so I definitely remember what it was like to go "Why would anyone want to do that? Ewww."

 

[Mysty61]

Very interesting question. I just looked in the dictionary for "normal" and it says conforming to a certain type of standard, regular, average - free from mental defect. That doesn't help much as we then have to determine what standard, regular, or average is. I don't think there is anyway this can be applied to the general population as most everyone would have define normal sex as they practice it. So if sex with children, dead people, and perhaps animals is not legal they can be removed from normal. That leaves normal to be defined by each person as to what they think is their standard, regular ot average activity, and it may differ as you move from one relationship to another. In short I guess what I am saying is I do not think there can be any universal "normal" - it is what individual relationships make it.

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

Ask your favorite guy (or if you are a guy, ask yourself) if he had had the chance to have sex at 14 with a grown woman, would he have done it and would he now regret it? (OK assume she was kind, gentle, discrete, drop-dead cute and did it for his pleasure).

Maybe I'm a bit unique but I would definatly have not done it, and if I had I would have regretted it *shrugs* eh I'm just wired a bit differantly in the head then most people ^_^()

-Zergplex

 

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[Mskey]

Wow!
Thanks to all of you for your replies. I must say I was very pleased to see that nobody piped in to speak up in defense of either pedophelia or necrophelia. I was quite worried when a friend pointed out that the title of the thread just begged for a troll invasion.
Seems that the general consensus is that Normal sex is whatever feels right for you and your partner without endangering anyone else. Sounds good to me!

Ranger~ your lil story about made me pee my pants and brought back some fond memories of a few of the guys that used be in my husbands unit all those many moons ago....

Angela~ now now then before you make to many farmer brown jokes I've known many farmers and those that live in the country who have no desire to anything with their animals other then raise them, sell them, work them, or slaughter them. Of course my father is from Wales, home of every nasty sheep fucker joke in Great Britian I think, and so I have heard the stereotypes before myself...lol!

Missy Jean~ don't feel bad, I had to look up a " watersports" only after I made an ass out of myself by saying that I really wasn't athletic enough to engage in them....

 

[Limbhugger]

my friend and I were chatting the other day and we came to the topic of sex- whoa big suprise there huh baby? -anyhoo we were joking around about me being a perv due to a certain sexual encounter I was retelling and he assured me I wasn't. We got to talking about how everyone has a little perv in them, that's " normal" but when you stray outside of that things get strange. He said he was into plain ol "normal" sex and so I asked him to define " Normal" and some of the answers I got were interesting and it got me wondering....

In the realm of sexuality what do you consider " normal" and what is extreme, taboo, or outright wrong?

For me there are the obvious things, ANYTHING involving kids, Necrophelia and animals. To me these just obviously scream out WRONG!!! (hopefully pedophelia and Necrophelia are wrong to EVERYONE.) Now in spite of how I feel there are people out there who do not find say animal sex to be " wrong".

So in this day and age what defines a sexual norm?

Well you know I'm a bad one to answer this question.

 

[homunculus]

It's clear that the vast majority of people define normal sex in the same way. That is, the majority identify with heterosexual practices involving consenting adults. Normal is a statistical term and isn't very interesting. Driving 65 or so in a 55 mph zone is statistically 'normal'--whether it's right, or fuel efficient, or safe, are different issues.
So I think the implied question is, does everyone have a secret kink?
Has every lover of any significance revealed some urge or wish or fantasy out of the norm...
I would say, for most of us, no.

 

[Lostdriver1964]

i just think that everything in sex can be considered normal
just few rules have to be respected in my opinion:

both have to like it
no harm or permanent injuries
no risks for life or body integrity

if it works like above...just enjoy ;-)

 

[fsumusic1981]

Normal?

I'm not too sure what I would consider normal....

When trying to ascertain what is "normal," I think we should keep in mind that what is normal is very different from what is "accepted."

In my mind, some things that earlier posters mentioned, like "watersports," are NOT NORMAL, insofar as that the vast majority of the population doesn't engage in this sort of behavior. But I think something like watersports is "accepted" in that most people would see nothing wrong with two consenting persons engaging in this behavior, even if they wouldn't engage in it themselves. I, myself, feel this way.

But take "necrophilia" as an example. I have never heard of anyone actually engaging in this behavior, but since there is a term for it, I assume there are people who do. Because most people don't engage in this behavior, it is not "normal"... just like watersports. Unlike watersports, necrophilia is a behavior that most people see as unacceptable. So there is a difference.

As for what normal is, I think if a survey were to be conducted in America, we would find there is a very narrow range of what constitutes "normality" in the minds of ourselves and neighbors. But as for what is acceptable, I think we would find that people would be more open and accepting of a wide variety of behaviors, even if they weren't widely practiced.

But then again, there is the fringe that thinks anything outside of what THEY do is unacceptable. I think you know the fringe I mean. Like Readyone said, different groups of people are going to have very different ideas of what normal is. My grandparents think sex before marraige isn't normal....

-Peace

 

[homunculus]

A distinction should be made between accept and tolerate. Most people will tolerate just about anything they don't have to see or hear much about, including at times, unfortunately, things that don't involve consent. That is, they don't call the cops or harass anyone...But they don't accept, say, watersports or playing with faeces, except in the limited sense that they accept that these things go on.

 

[SlickTony]

There are some men who attempt to do this on their own by attempting a near hanging while they are wanking. Problem is, for some, they end up truly hanging themselves.

This was one of the opening scenes in Six Feet Under--you know how they begin each episode with someone's death.

Speaking of the undertaking profession, I read somewhere that a a lot of people in this line of work experiment with necrophilia--I suppose because they've got the opportunity.