no such thing as a genuine dominant heterosexual woman?

toybill

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It's puzzling. Scan the websites, personals, etc. All "dominated" by sub males. Weed out the professional dommes-- playacting for cash, and what do you have left? Many times, it seems, you have women who are "acting" dominant to increase their chances of attracting a guy. Then they "dominate" him by having him do exactly what he wants -- serving his submissive needs, if you will. Are there really any attractive dominant women who enjoy the control for it's own sake, who demand to be in charge at least in part for their own gratification rather than their submissive partner's? I'm beginning to doubt it. Are you "dominant" ladies merely sheep in wolf's clothing? I'm beginning to think so.
 
toybill said:
It's puzzling. Scan the websites, personals, etc. All "dominated" by sub males. Weed out the professional dommes-- playacting for cash, and what do you have left? Many times, it seems, you have women who are "acting" dominant to increase their chances of attracting a guy. Then they "dominate" him by having him do exactly what he wants -- serving his submissive needs, if you will. Are there really any attractive dominant women who enjoy the control for it's own sake, who demand to be in charge at least in part for their own gratification rather than their submissive partner's? I'm beginning to doubt it. Are you "dominant" ladies merely sheep in wolf's clothing? I'm beginning to think so.


ohhhh you stumble across a real Domme and try calling her a 'sheep in wolves clothing' you better be wearing ear plugs and a cup dude......nodding sincerely

good luck with your quest :rose:

@}-}rebecca-----

( not a Domme....smiles sweetly..heh)
 
So, is that my problem? Maybe I should be contacting Dommes and act all submissive like. Then, she will turn out to be a sheep and "tell" me to tie her up and ravage her naked body. Hey, now! That would be my version of topping from the bottom! :nana:

Something tells me I should purchase a cup, first. :rolleyes:
 
Oh you wouldn't need a cup. She'll twist it nicely and give courteos caressing pull on them too!
 
Well let's see- - so far replies from a sub female, dominant male (and one alien). No dominant females- - I rest my case. Rebecca, I would love to stumble upon a "real domme" but that appears to be an oxymoron. And to the dominant male, I was not suggesting that it would work in reverse. But thanks to all for your thoughts and observations.
 
Actually, I came across this thread earlier, and was hoping that it would pass quietly into obscurity - unfortunately, that didn't happen.

The thing is - we (Holly and I, at least) don't need to prove that we are here. Those who know us, know that we are around; those that we are comfortable with have seen our dominance by simple observation; those that don't get our dominance ... well, I personally have no need to go out of my way to 'convince' you that I'm really dominant ... so basically, you can piss off.
 
Hahaha I think you are wayyyy off base!
Could be the ones you have met.
How many domms do you know to make such a statement?
And if it's that many, why do you know so many?
 
SweetDommes said:
Actually, I came across this thread earlier, and was hoping that it would pass quietly into obscurity - unfortunately, that didn't happen.

The thing is - we (Holly and I, at least) don't need to prove that we are here. Those who know us, know that we are around; those that we are comfortable with have seen our dominance by simple observation; those that don't get our dominance ... well, I personally have no need to go out of my way to 'convince' you that I'm really dominant ... so basically, you can piss off.

You have a really shitty attitude about just about everything, and not in a "I'm too cool to give two smelly shits what anyone thinks about me" way, but rather a sort of "I think being an arrogant, opinionated cunt is what being a dominant woman is all about" way.

That said, there's no such thing as a naturally dominant woman in the sense that you are born with either a dominant or submissive personality, but I do believe that one can work at it given the proper prerequisites.
 
Stuponfucious said:
You have a really shitty attitude about just about everything, and not in a "I'm too cool to give two smelly shits what anyone thinks about me" way, but rather a sort of "I think being an arrogant, opinionated cunt is what being a dominant woman is all about" way.

That said, there's no such thing as a naturally dominant woman in the sense that you are born with either a dominant or submissive personality, but I do believe that one can work at it given the proper prerequisites.

I honestly have no idea what I did to piss you off, but damn ... it has to have been long enough to get over by now ... seriously. I remember talking to you ages ago - when I believe you jumped my case because *gasp* I use my real first name. I don't remember doing anything to you other than saying I don't care about people knowing my first name.
 
ScarlettRose said:
so because said women don't want you they don't exist?


LOL you go girl!

OK, I am a sub woman, I know this in my heart of hearts, that I am a submissive to my loving husband. However, with that empowerment from him and in our play, I have been quite the Dominante to other women and men that we have played with.

Just because I use the word "play" with, does not mean however that I am play acting. I am a the dominate one in the relationship, the men and the women do not control me, nor are they doing what they want. I am the director when I am not with my adoring husband.

They do exist, but attitudes like yours will never get you in our bed.

Love Cindy :kiss:
 
SweetDommes said:
I honestly have no idea what I did to piss you off, but damn ... it has to have been long enough to get over by now ... seriously. I remember talking to you ages ago - when I believe you jumped my case because *gasp* I use my real first name. I don't remember doing anything to you other than saying I don't care about people knowing my first name.

we haven't said one word to each other until now, buut if we had I know I wouldn't give a flying fuck about your first name.
 
Stuponfucious said:
we haven't said one word to each other until now, buut if we had I know I wouldn't give a flying fuck about your first name.

so now, officially, the worst thing I've ever done to you is to confuse you with someone that has a similar screen name *gasp* horror of horrors ... seriously, get over it. I haven't done anything to you, and until recently, it had been months since I posted regularly ... I don't think I'm the one with the problem here.
 
toybill said:
It's puzzling. Scan the websites, personals, etc. All "dominated" by sub males. Weed out the professional dommes-- playacting for cash, and what do you have left? Many times, it seems, you have women who are "acting" dominant to increase their chances of attracting a guy. Then they "dominate" him by having him do exactly what he wants -- serving his submissive needs, if you will. Are there really any attractive dominant women who enjoy the control for it's own sake, who demand to be in charge at least in part for their own gratification rather than their submissive partner's? I'm beginning to doubt it. Are you "dominant" ladies merely sheep in wolf's clothing? I'm beginning to think so.

I'm no more qualified to say what's REALLY in someone's head than any other non-telepath, but the part of your analysis I have problems with is "women who are 'acting' dominant in order to increase their chances of attracting a guy." Granted, sub guys outnumber dom gals, so that does improve their odds. But it strikes me that in most cases, women have far simpler means of attracting guys than pretending to enjoy a sexual role that they do not in fact enjoy. I would suggest you rethink your impression of that group. Maybe some of them are actual domme females. Maybe most of them are.

Still, good luck in finding the dom female of your drams.
 
SweetDommes said:
so now, officially, the worst thing I've ever done to you is to confuse you with someone that has a similar screen name *gasp* horror of horrors ... seriously, get over it. I haven't done anything to you, and until recently, it had been months since I posted regularly ... I don't think I'm the one with the problem here.

Get over what? I am entitled to an opinion as much as you are. Just because you don't like what i have to say doesn't mean I have some grudge against you.
 
Stuponfucious said:
Get over what? I am entitled to an opinion as much as you are. Just because you don't like what i have to say doesn't mean I have some grudge against you.

I just want to point out that you came into this thread, ignored the original post, and attacked me ...

I'll let everyone draw their own conclusions about that scenario.
 
SweetDommes said:
I just want to point out that you came into this thread, ignored the original post, and attacked me ...

I'll let everyone draw their own conclusions about that scenario.

Half my post was solely in response to the first post, and no you aren't interested in letting people draw thier own conclusions. You've basically made up your own mind and people should believe you because you think you're smarter than everyone else.

And I did not attack you. If I said you were crazy (which you are, obviously you have a problem with multiple personalities), then that would be an attack.
 
toybill said:
It's puzzling. Scan the websites, personals, etc. All "dominated" by sub males. Weed out the professional dommes-- playacting for cash, and what do you have left? Many times, it seems, you have women who are "acting" dominant to increase their chances of attracting a guy. Then they "dominate" him by having him do exactly what he wants -- serving his submissive needs, if you will. Are there really any attractive dominant women who enjoy the control for it's own sake, who demand to be in charge at least in part for their own gratification rather than their submissive partner's? I'm beginning to doubt it. Are you "dominant" ladies merely sheep in wolf's clothing? I'm beginning to think so.


Your joking, right?
 
PatPowers said:
I'm no more qualified to say what's REALLY in someone's head than any other non-telepath, but the part of your analysis I have problems with is "women who are 'acting' dominant in order to increase their chances of attracting a guy." Granted, sub guys outnumber dom gals, so that does improve their odds. But it strikes me that in most cases, women have far simpler means of attracting guys than pretending to enjoy a sexual role that they do not in fact enjoy. I would suggest you rethink your impression of that group. Maybe some of them are actual domme females. Maybe most of them are.

Still, good luck in finding the dom female of your drams.


Thanks for the thoughtful contribution. (Am ignoring the "Sweetdommes"- - the tone of their messages belies their moniker.) To your point though, I have met supposed "experienced" women to whom I would not have been attracted but for their professed dominance. But when push comes to shove (so to speak), they wind up pursuing me. It all seems to be an act. Now of course you are right that you can never generalize, but this is what I've observed. Pretending to be dominant permits some women to obtain relationships with men that they would not otherwise attract. And please know that these are sincere observations on my part, not an "attitude." I revere women and would be thrilled to be wrong about this as I'm more than ready to worship and serve.
 
So, I get attacked by someone I don't even know because he thinks I don't exist, then when I do reply, I get attacked by someone else that I supposedly don't know ... but my messages are the problem?? :rolleyes: Oh please.
 
SweetDommes said:
So, I get attacked by someone I don't even know because he thinks I don't exist, then when I do reply, I get attacked by someone else that I supposedly don't know ... but my messages are the problem?? :rolleyes: Oh please.

Heh, I just chalk it up to two trolls trying to out troll each other. :nana:
 
SweetDommes said:
So, I get attacked by someone I don't even know because he thinks I don't exist, then when I do reply, I get attacked by someone else that I supposedly don't know ... but my messages are the problem?? :rolleyes: Oh please.
Your messages are not the problem-- you are the problem.
 
toybill said:
Your messages are not the problem-- you are the problem.

Now, where is that 'rolling on the floor laughing' smiley? The dancing banana just won't do it at this point ... :nana: :nana: :nana: Nope, doesn't quite get the same feeling across, even when there are more than one LOL

Oh, and for the record, had you pointed out that I'm actually bisexual (although my girlfriend is the only woman I've ever been attracted to ... so I consider myself heterosexual with a girlfriend), that reason for discounting my post would have been valid.
 
toybill said:
Your messages are not the problem-- you are the problem.

So, lets see if I have this correct -
You come looking for a fight about Dommes, and when a real one finally decides to answer you, you give her disrespect? I don't think you will ever find a Mistress with that attitude bucko.

Should Netzach also decide to respond, I'd like to know in advance, so I can sell tickets.
 
SweetDommes said:
Now, where is that 'rolling on the floor laughing' smiley? The dancing banana just won't do it at this point ... :nana: :nana: :nana: Nope, doesn't quite get the same feeling across, even when there are more than one LOL
Do you ever get beyond emotions and have thoughts? I thought that was what forums were about.
 
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