No Regrets......

[John Roberts]

Okay, sometimes we allow regrets to cause sorrow in our lives.
The point of this thread is to put things in perspective "No regrets" is to close the door on the negative past and look at it in a more positive light.

Ahem!....let me start....

I have no regrets that I got back together with my ex and she dumped me a second time because my beautiful son came from that period. He would not exist if we did not have another flame even though it caused me more pain.

I have no regrets about the first separation either.....I learned how to dance my mambo as therapy and it became a wonderful passion and love.

 

[capricious_chic]

Honestly, I regret nothing in my life.

I don't waste the time or energy on regret.

I weigh the consequences beforehand, and if they are within an acceptable limitation I go for it. If something unseen comes up, I deal with it and move on.

So no regrets for me.

(Does that sound bitchy.. truly I don't intend it to be).

 

[kikmosa]

I have no regrets that I got out of my first, last and only marriage.

 

[John Roberts]

Honestly, I regret nothing in my life.

I don't waste the time or energy on regret.

I weigh the consequences beforehand, and if they are within an acceptable limitation I go for it. If something unseen comes up, I deal with it and move on.

So no regrets for me.

(Does that sound bitchy.. truly I don't intend it to be).

That does not sound like bitchiness to me, you sound like you are well adjusted. I can't say the same for my past where I alloww the dysfunction of my childhood to cloud my judgement.
But in light of this thread.......I would not be the person I am today but for those experiences and I am at a pretty good place.

 

[capricious_chic]

That does not sound like bitchiness to me, you sound like you are well adjusted. I can't say the same for my past where I alloww the dysfunction of my childhood to cloud my judgement.
But in light of this thread.......I would not be the person I am today but for those experiences and I am at a pretty good place.

Absolutely, that is where my resolve comes from.

Childhood dysfunction (although, when I look around that is more the norm than the "Leave it to Beaver" setting).

All of our past experience, good and bad make up the sum of who we are. We chose to either be better than, or worse than the whole of our experiences.

Good luck, and stay in a good place.

The view is wonderful.

 

[John Roberts]

I have no regrets that I got out of my first, last and only marriage.

Hopefully that means you are where you want to be.

 

[greybeard]

no regrets..............

no, no regrets here........for some time now, I have come to appreciate all those things that have occured within my life up till now and take a fair amount of pride and comfort in knowing that I have lived very well so far..............I have learned well from the past, and intend to be even happier in the future.......if my life were to end today, and if I could look back and ponder it, I would be quite pleased with who I am and where I had been..............I really am in a very good space right now....................and the voices have been oddly quiet....................

greybeard

 

[John Roberts]

Absolutely, that is where my resolve comes from.

Childhood dysfunction (although, when I look around that is more the norm than the "Leave it to Beaver" setting).

All of our past experience, good and bad make up the sum of who we are. We chose to either be better than, or worse than the whole of our experiences.

Good luck, and stay in a good place.

The view is wonderful.

Well said capricious_chic. We do make the choices, and clarity brings awarness of that fact. When aware of the decisions one is making, one ceases to victimize themselves and becomes empowered. The view is much better from an aerie rather than a pit.

 

[John Roberts]

Re: no regrets..............

no, no regrets here........for some time now, I have come to appreciate all those things that have occured within my life up till now and take a fair amount of pride and comfort in knowing that I have lived very well so far..............I have learned well from the past, and intend to be even happier in the future.......if my life were to end today, and if I could look back and ponder it, I would be quite pleased with who I am and where I had been..............I really am in a very good space right now....................and the voices have been oddly quiet....................

greybeard

If I could do it over again I would do somethings different, I did make some bad choices in my youth. But then again....what would be my reality today....would I be different? Or with the hand of fate(or God) does one end up in the same place no matter what?

 

[quintessential]

John Roberts,

I would love to be able to say that I have no regrets, but the truth of the matter is that I have my fair share of them.

Would I change them if I could? Yes, there are several that I would love to be able to go back in time and change just a little bit so the outcome would be much better and happier. But, I know that's never going to happen. I have a very difficult time of letting go, which is the source for so many of my other regrets.

If I had a magic wand, I'd wave it over my life and those who I have affected and hope that the situations that caused pain to me and to others could vanish in the blink of an eye. I know that is not a realistic approach, but it would make me feel less guilty, it would make me feel much better.

I regret so very much that I lost myself along the way trying to please everyone around me, when I should have been taking care of myself. That is where it all went wrong because when you try to please everyone there are some who become hurt and filled with pain and sorrow.

I think I need to cleanse my soul in order to feel worthwhile because I don't seem to feel like that any longer. I would love my son to see his mother in a different light. I would love for him to see me as a laughing woman filled with smiles to light his every day. I would like to feel that there is hope for me when I'm feeling this low.

I regret that I have lost my way and have lost the love that I have always yearned for.

 

[John Roberts]

John Roberts,

I would love to be able to say that I have no regrets, but the truth of the matter is that I have my fair share of them.

Would I change them if I could? Yes, there are several that I would love to be able to go back in time and change just a little bit so the outcome would be much better and happier. But, I know that's never going to happen. I have a very difficult time of letting go, which is the source for so many of my other regrets.

If I had a magic wand, I'd wave it over my life and those who I have affected and hope that the situations that caused pain to me and to others could vanish in the blink of an eye. I know that is not a realistic approach, but it would make me feel less guilty, it would make me feel much better.

I regret so very much that I lost myself along the way trying to please everyone around me, when I should have been taking care of myself. That is where it all went wrong because when you try to please everyone there are some who become hurt and filled with pain and sorrow.

I think I need to cleanse my soul in order to feel worthwhile because I don't seem to feel like that any longer. I would love my son to see his mother in a different light. I would love for him to see me as a laughing woman filled with smiles to light his every day. I would like to feel that there is hope for me when I'm feeling this low.

I regret that I have lost my way and have lost the love that I have always yearned for.

First of all q, here is a big hug for you(((((((((Hug )))))))))
I am sorry you are feeling so low...it sounds as if you have wandered off your path......I cannot imagine someone of your ability to feel worthless. You need to nurture yourself. Place yourself in sitiations that make you feel good about yourself, sometimes that means distracting yourself from negative self talk,
for me dance lessons were superb....they broke the string of thought by forcing me to focus on something else. But anyway what ever your passions you need to immerse yourself in them....this allows healing to begin. You have to have resolve to begin everyday anew, even when you slip you go on. You may feel trapped in yourself, an exercise that is very liberating is to push at the boundaries of how you define yourself, just a little at first...In otherwords you do things that are not normal for you, You break down things into manageable little bites and confront fears and anxieties a little at a time....the end result is that you remake yourself and learn that freedom is a very short distance away. Please do PM me if you like.

 

[whspr]

My life has traveled many roads. Not to air my dirty laundry, but I've endured many things I thought that only happened to other people. During those times, I had many regrets. I always seemed to think I didn't do something "right". I've come to a point in my life now that I won't let myself have those regrets any longer.
I've been the best person I could be during those periods. Sure,
I've grown over the years and I can truly say now that " I have a wonderful and loving heart". I won't let regrets bring me down.
Everything happens for a reason. I've going to just appreciate the good things in my life now....

like that special man.....

Thank you JR for this thread and for giving me your heart.

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[quintessential]

I wanted to take a moment to thank you, John Roberts. Your words were so very sincere and I could feel them coming from your heart.

Sometimes fear holds a person back from being able to face their regrets and push them to the farthest reaches of their mind.

It's always nice to know that someone is there should you need them.

Be well, be happy, and enjoy the whspr that sings sweetly into your ear.

q

 

[vladyofmysteryv]

Regrets In life hmmmm,

Regrets for me is my life of learning, I have learned from many things I have done. Would I go back to change them any of them, I would have to say no. Not even a little bit. If I changed even just a little, where would I be today. Would I still know the people I have met in my life, or the children, Or those I have help with out me even knowing what I have done to help. Or those who have helped me in times of need. The choices I made in my life Some good some bad, are mine and mine alone. Even when weighing the consequences I still do make my mistakes. Yet I still have no regrets.

I was always told growing up you make your Bed lay in it. Or
If you lay down with dog' you get up with Fle's.
Well when making my bed I use clean Sheets, and If I would
lie with my dog I would give it a Fle bath first.

To have regrets in the past would be to say I made a bad choice, Those bad choices have made me who I am today.
Nothing more Nothing less Then Me.
I am Human I make mistakes, I am intitled to them, and
learn from them.

 

[John Roberts]

Re: Regrets In life hmmmm,

Regrets for me is my life of learning, I have learned from many things I have done. Would I go back to change them any of them, I would have to say no. Not even a little bit. If I changed even just a little, where would I be today. Would I still know the people I have met in my life, or the children, Or those I have help with out me even knowing what I have done to help. Or those who have helped me in times of need. The choices I made in my life Some good some bad, are mine and mine alone. Even when weighing the consequences I still do make my mistakes. Yet I still have no regrets.

I was always told growing up you make your Bed lay in it. Or
If you lay down with dog' you get up with Fle's.
Well when making my bed I use clean Sheets, and If I would
lie with my dog I would give it a Fle bath first.

To have regrets in the past would be to say I made a bad choice, Those bad choices have made me who I am today.
Nothing more Nothing less Then Me.
I am Human I make mistakes, I am intitled to them, and
learn from them.

vladyofmysteryv, it sounds as if you have accepted yourself and that is a good thing.
One of the exercises I learned from my therapist when I was severly depressed was a prayer of accepting oneself complete with all flaws....the act of learning to love yourself. I have a friend who clings to his misery as part of his identity, of who he is.
We can remake ourselves and not have to give up who we are.
I try to nudge myself a little more everyday towards where I want to be.
One of the things I learned from reading the works of Carlos Castaneda is.....
Be aware of your mortality, live life as if it is your last gasp....how do you want it to be.? An act of passion, a noble gesture, a thing of beauty. Remove all pettiness from your life and live with a generous heart.
The point of this is living a life with no regrets. You cannot have any regrets if you walk a higher path.

 

[vladyofmysteryv]

Re: Re: Regrets In life hmmmm,

vladyofmysteryv, it sounds as if you have accepted yourself and that is a good thing.
One of the exercises I learned from my therapist when I was severly depressed was a prayer of accepting oneself complete with all flaws....the act of learning to love yourself. I have a friend who clings to his misery as part of his identity, of who he is.
We can remake ourselves and not have to give up who we are.
I try to nudge myself a little more everyday towards where I want to be.
One of the things I learned from reading the works of Carlos Castaneda is.....
Be aware of your mortality, live life as if it is your last gasp....how do you want it to be.? An act of passion, a noble gesture, a thing of beauty. Remove all pettiness from your life and live with a generous heart.
The point of this is living a life with no regrets. You cannot have any regrets if you walk a higher path.

Mr Roberts
I do accept myself although it is hard some time to do so, With all things in life there is good and bad. That is what I accepted. I also know that there is always choices to be made, right or wrong ones, who's to say witch is right or wrong I accept what ever the chose is. If I ask why me, I would ask why not me. To me what happened in my life was ment to be I accept that part of my life. I also know that it could be worse or it could be better. Why regret what is ment to be in life. There are times I hate myself and others time I love myself. I also accepted that only I can get to where I want to be or where I need to go in my life. For sometimes it is easy with out mistake, others times it is harder with a lot of mistakes.

As for:
Remove all pettiness from your life and live with a generous heart.

Pettiness what is it, do you mean as? Do I feel sorry for myself poor me poor me. I have none of that. Do I feel sorry for others that say poor me poor me. No I can't say that I do.

As for my heart being generous, yes it is always has been and always will be.
No matter what comes.

The point of this is living a life with no regrets. You cannot have any regrets if you walk a higher path

Why can't one live a life with regrets to somethings?
Why can't they walk a higher path if they do have some Regrets?

 

[tigerjen]

I have no regrets from becoming one of the most prolific
members here on Lit...thru my stories/poems....self-promos,
countless threads and posts, and meeting many wonderful
people along the way


tigerjen

 

[John Roberts]

Re: Re: Re: Regrets In life hmmmm,

Hello vladyofmysteryv,
My most sincere apologies, I should have clarified my pontifications more. They were not directed at you, now this is a perfect example of why my families crest should be a foot in mouth
I do not expect everyone to live as I do and I do not condemn people for not taking my path of reasoning.

[/B] Why can't one live a life with regrets to somethings?
Why can't they walk a higher path if they do have some Regrets? [/B]

The reality is I have lived a life full of regrets of actions not taken. I live it now to prevent regrets.

Pettiness what is it, do you mean as? Do I feel sorry for myself poor me poor me. I have none of that. Do I feel sorry for others that say poor me poor me. No I can't say that I do.

Pettiness is thoughts of a trivial nature, vindictive, mean......directed towards others. I do feel petty when I feel like someone is being mean to me, or if I feel someone is putting me down. I avoid petty thoughts because they make me feel bad and waste much needed energy.


I do accept myself although it is hard some time to do so, With all things in life there is good and bad. That is what I accepted. I also know that there is always choices to be made, right or wrong ones, who's to say witch is right or wrong I accept what ever the chose is. If I ask why me, I would ask why not me. To me what happened in my life was ment to be I accept that part of my life. I also know that it could be worse or it could be better. Why regret what is ment to be in life. There are times I hate myself and others time I love myself. I also accepted that only I can get to where I want to be or where I need to go in my life. For sometimes it is easy with out mistake, others times it is harder with a lot of mistakes.

For me, regret is very painful and I cannot tolerate it in my life, I lack your strength of character to deal with it. This is why I laid my thoughts out there, to be a help to any other individual that may feel the angst of regret.

vladyofmysteryv thank you for contributing to this thread, I do hope you drop by any of my threads.

 

[John Roberts]

Whoops

I messed up the quotes of the above posting but you get the idea.

 

[John Roberts]

Jen!

I have no regrets from becoming one of the most prolific
members here on Lit...thru my stories/poems....self-promos,
countless threads and posts, and meeting many wonderful
people along the way


tigerjen

I have no regrets of wanting to ravish a wonderfully lusty lady..

 

[John Roberts]

I wanted to take a moment to thank you, John Roberts. Your words were so very sincere and I could feel them coming from your heart.

Sometimes fear holds a person back from being able to face their regrets and push them to the farthest reaches of their mind.

It's always nice to know that someone is there should you need them.

Be well, be happy, and enjoy the whspr that sings sweetly into your ear.

q

Hello q,
I hope to see you at least on the other threads...and I look forward to reading your wonderful words......PM me anytime or post on any of my threads, you are always welcome.

 

[tigerjen]

Re: Jen!

I have no regrets of wanting to ravish a wonderfully lusty lady..

mmmmmmmmmmmm why thank you darling............es
and *hugs*.........



tigerjen

 

[John Roberts]

Re: Re: Jen!

mmmmmmmmmmmm why thank you darling............es
and *hugs*.........



tigerjen

Sigh!

 

[John Roberts]

My life has traveled many roads. Not to air my dirty laundry, but I've endured many things I thought that only happened to other people. During those times, I had many regrets. I always seemed to think I didn't do something "right". I've come to a point in my life now that I won't let myself have those regrets any longer.
I've been the best person I could be during those periods. Sure,
I've grown over the years and I can truly say now that " I have a wonderful and loving heart". I won't let regrets bring me down.
Everything happens for a reason. I've going to just appreciate the good things in my life now....

like that special man.....

Thank you JR for this thread and for giving me your heart.

soft kisses,
whspr

I believe that I am blessed with you showing up in my life

 

[naughtygirl]

Okay, sometimes we allow regrets to cause sorrow in our lives.
The point of this thread is to put things in perspective "No regrets" is to close the door on the negative past and look at it in a more positive light.

Ahem!....let me start....

I have no regrets that I got back together with my ex and she dumped me a second time because my beautiful son came from that period. He would not exist if we did not have another flame even though it caused me more pain.

I have no regrets about the first separation either.....I learned how to dance my mambo as therapy and it became a wonderful passion and love.

What a great thread JR.

I try very hard these days to live without regret in my life. Its difficult because I often wonder if I had made different choices if they would have led me on a different path; one with less difficulities and heartbreak.

But when I am looking at things reasonably, I understand that I am who I am because of the paths that I took. The older I get the more I realize that things DO happen for a reason. For example, (to make a long story short) I met a man here on Lit who broke my heart badly. But in the process of attempting to deal with that, I became close to another man here. I believe that if it wasnt for that first experience, I would have more than likely never had the second, and never have the amazing relationship that I have now. So how can I regret getting involved with the first man? Without that, I never would have developed a relationship with the second.

From every experience we have, we learn something; whether it provides insight into ourselves or into how to have relationships with other people. We do learn. and when we make choices, we are making choices for that point in time. No one can, with any certainity, predict the future or what is to come out of it, so why bother with regret? The way I look at it, I did the best I could do with the knowledge I had at the time.

Just my $.02