No Fantasies
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KRCummings
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It means his fantasies are about men. Deal with it.
lovetoread
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He has them he just doesn't want to share.
I don't think one has to share all thoughts with a partner.
He's afraid to share. Fantasy is part of who we are as human beings.
Minalick
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Allo ma belle,
I think a lot of people think that if they shared their fantasies with their S/O, that they will think they're weird or odd.
I agree that you don't have to share everything with your partner and I also agree that he has fantasies.
Maybe he thinks you won't appreciate them or that you'll criticize him?
Either way it's no good forcing him.
Je ne pense pas que tu devrais t'inquièter par exemple. Ça ne veux pas dire qu'il t'aime pas. C'est juste un certain niveau de confort.
Peut être lui mentionner quelques-uns de les siennes de temps en temps?
Tu ne sais jamais.
Bonne chance!
You first.
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I agree it is a sharing experience that can be uncomfortable to begin with. Someone has to share first
That's not really what I was getting at, but alright.
Bert Notorius
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Once your fantasies are fulfilled then what?
Welcome to marriage.
Welcome to marriage.
KRCummings
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It's because he has fantasies about men. Seriously. Why isn't anyone listening to me? Hello? Is this thing on?
run_silent
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Try taking one of your fantasies out on him. No big announcement or explaining. Just try it out and see where it goes.
KRCummings
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Gonna suck if her fantasy is to get gang banged by 6 strange black guys while he's tied up in a corner.
run_silent
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Major snickers. You are evil. Impolite and evil.
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He's French, so of course he's gay.
KRCummings
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"Here, honey sit in this chair."
"Oh, you got the handcuffs! Kinky! Are you going to make me beg?"
"Ummm, sure."
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If your original theory is correct, he might only be upset about the very last part.
But seriously, how would you have felt if he had said "I have fantasies but I don't want to share them with you..." Hurt? He might just not want to share them, but wants to spare your feelings.
If you're not already seeing a marriage counselor, I'd recommend you start, since this seems to go back a ways.
run_silent
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Are we talking about your fantasies now? If so I hope I'm involved.
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Agreed. And I once asked Mr. Ex what the porn photo women were saying to him. It took me a while to digest his honesty when he said, "They don't say anything."
I also heard that 'they' whoever 'they' are out there somewhere wanted to do a study on men who watch porn and men who don't but they couldn't find any men who would say they don't.
run_silent
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You are being so stereotypical of men. You should be ashamed.
P.S. Show me your tits.
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This one is easy! He definitely just doesn't want to tell you his fantasies! I think some men just like to keep some things to themselves for fear of rejection or embarrassment??? It may be his loss though if you are wanting to have fun with them...
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BEFORE I Married Him...
I had a BF like that. Sex was sex, it was frequency and duration and that's all. He didn't even like oral(!) or anal(!!) It was always exactly the same, strip-and-dip. I stayed with him because I was an idiot and I really believed he had fantasies and just wasn't sharing them, or that he was having them, just not about ME, or that he was really gay, or a POTG (Pre-Op Trans Gender). It was like a Conspiracy Theory: The more he denied having fantasies, the more I was sure he was having them.
After a while, a little reality seeped into my life and I got tired of butting my head into that wall and moved on. Then his new GF called me to complain. I told her, "He's yours now, dorlin'" (Where I live, eveybody is "dorlin," I think it's something from country music.) But the more I thought about it, the more I began to realize he really didn't have fantasies.
Gee! Sure glad I figured that out BEFORE I married the S.O.B.!
I had a BF like that. Sex was sex, it was frequency and duration and that's all. He didn't even like oral(!) or anal(!!) It was always exactly the same, strip-and-dip. I stayed with him because I was an idiot and I really believed he had fantasies and just wasn't sharing them, or that he was having them, just not about ME, or that he was really gay, or a POTG (Pre-Op Trans Gender). It was like a Conspiracy Theory: The more he denied having fantasies, the more I was sure he was having them.
After a while, a little reality seeped into my life and I got tired of butting my head into that wall and moved on. Then his new GF called me to complain. I told her, "He's yours now, dorlin'" (Where I live, eveybody is "dorlin," I think it's something from country music.) But the more I thought about it, the more I began to realize he really didn't have fantasies.
Gee! Sure glad I figured that out BEFORE I married the S.O.B.!