nilla yesterday, female sub today

[WriterDom]

Suppose a woman sees a movie, or reads a story, or her best friend confides in her that she is into bdsm, and the spark hits home and she realizes this is what she has wanted all her life.

How long before she is ready, and what does she need to know before her first real life experience, assuming she doesn't have a partner at the time?

 

[A Desert Rose]

Suppose a woman sees a movie, or reads a story, or her best friend confides in her that she is into bdsm, and the spark hits home and she realizes this is what she has wanted all her life.

How long before she is ready, and what does she need to know before her first real life experience, assuming she doesn't have a partner at the time?

Maybe she just needs your phone number...

(Okay sorry, I really am going to shower now.)

 

[Desdemona]

I suspect it varies from person to person. It took me a couple of years to make a move to real life.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

How long before she is ready, and what does she need to know before her first real life experience, assuming she doesn't have a partner at the time?

In this case i believe it's a matter of maturity and taste. I went from topping to being an active maso-submissive within the matter of a year. True, I was never really 'nilla but there are some correlations as i had never felt the need to be submissive before.

I made the *switch* after reading, meeting other submissives, watching, going to munches and fetish clubs, networking. It is all about what she has available to her at this moment. In my opinion she should at least have a firm grasp on the basics: what she wants to give, how she's going to give it and what she wants (or expects) in return.

JMO
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[shereads]

6 days.

 

[shereads]

6 hours to want to do it. As long it only happens online.

6 days to want to do it in RL. Knowing that it's not going to happen.

6 weeks to be committed to doing it. Provided there's no crop and no collar.

6 months to do it. Crop, collar, the works.

6 hours before first onset of "sub-drop."

6 weeks before someone in this forum (Pure?) tells you what sub drop is, and that it's normal.

Whew.

 

[Netzach]

She's ready then. Go for it, what are you waiting for?

 

[AvaAdore]

6 hours to want to do it. As long it only happens online.

6 days to want to do it in RL. Knowing that it's not going to happen.

6 weeks to be committed to doing it. Provided there's no crop and no collar.

6 months to do it. Crop, collar, the works.

6 hours before first onset of "sub-drop."

6 weeks before someone in this forum (Pure?) tells you what sub drop is, and that it's normal.

Whew.

ok, what's sub-drop?

 

[A Desert Rose]

ok, what's sub-drop?

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=90456

Maybe this will help. ;-)

 

[Shadowsdream]

Suppose a woman sees a movie, or reads a story, or her best friend confides in her that she is into bdsm, and the spark hits home and she realizes this is what she has wanted all her life.

How long before she is ready, and what does she need to know before her first real life experience, assuming she doesn't have a partner at the time?

She is ready immediately. If there is a spark there is likely fire. Before her real life experience she needs to trust herself that there really is a spark and not a *recreate myself* thing going on out of boredom alone.
Anyone entering a new life choice would be wise to do some investigative work for reasons of safety and understanding but she is no more in need of this work than any other woman who has known she has submissive needs all her life.

 

[FungiUg]

Suppose a woman sees a movie, or reads a story, or her best friend confides in her that she is into bdsm, and the spark hits home and she realizes this is what she has wanted all her life.

How long before she is ready, and what does she need to know before her first real life experience, assuming she doesn't have a partner at the time?

Basically that's what happened with our last submissive. And it took, um, three months or so of discussion first? Starting with curiousity and ending with her definately wanting it.

 

[s'lara]

You can't put a time-line on when someone is ready to go from mildly curious to full out collar.

We all have our own clocks and when it comes to how quickly one is ready delve into the lifestyle, they should take it at their pace and no on else's.

lara

 

[Mr Blonde]

Assuming she is a mentally stable consenting adult, she is ready as soon as she finds a suitable mate.

What does she need to know? Maybe 30 minutes worth of reading to learn about safewords and basic safety. Plus whatever her partner thinks she needs to know (depending on how the partner perceives her circumstances/maturity).