Wanted to introduce myself as I'm new to the forum, and I have a question I'm wondering about.
I'm a 34 y.o. male, pretty new to bdsm, and curious about submission. Got introduced to bdsm a few years ago by a submissive ex, and so what little experience I do have (not much) was from a dom side. But I found myself wanting to be the one being dominated, and since then I haven't been in a position to explore it, but I can't stop thinking about it.
It's weird because before then I never thought of myself as the submissive sort at all, so it took a lot of getting used to the fact that I was having these thoughts, but I'm pretty sure they're not going away anytime soon.
So because I don't know anyone in real life to learn about submission with, I've just been reading as much as I can on different sites and things, which is how I found this forum. And there's a lot I don't know and won't until I start exploring...like if I'm actually a sub or just a bottom, stuff like that. I know I'm really interested in bondage, whips, floggers, crops, stuff like that (I have a bit of a pain fetish), but I know that still doesn't mean I'm actually submissive. But then I find myself fantasizing about things like behavior modification and mental conditioning (learning how to think and act like a sub), so I don't know. I guess I won't until I start exploring, which I've been nervous about.
Which leads me to my question--because I don't have any way in real life to learn right now, and honestly am not sure if I'm ready yet, I was thinking of exploring online bdsm and trying to learn a little that way. I was wondering if those of you who've done it think it's a good way to learn or start out, or if you think it's a waste of time and not really like the real thing? I just thought it might be a good and safe way to learn a little bit and find out more about who I am, etc. And it seems less scary than jumping into a real life situation just starting out, too. Plus I'm not looking for a relationship or anything, just to learn more about bdsm/submission. I'm single but romantically attached to someone, so I don't want to be in a committed situation that would interfere with that, which most people seem to be looking for in real life...I just want to learn more, so I was wondering peoples' opinions on it.
Outside of bdsm, my interests are music (goth, punk, alternative, etc), reading, clubbing, etc.
Hope to learn more through reading the threads, seems like a really nice place.
Thanks, and sorry for the novel!
I'm a 34 y.o. male, pretty new to bdsm, and curious about submission. Got introduced to bdsm a few years ago by a submissive ex, and so what little experience I do have (not much) was from a dom side. But I found myself wanting to be the one being dominated, and since then I haven't been in a position to explore it, but I can't stop thinking about it.
It's weird because before then I never thought of myself as the submissive sort at all, so it took a lot of getting used to the fact that I was having these thoughts, but I'm pretty sure they're not going away anytime soon.
So because I don't know anyone in real life to learn about submission with, I've just been reading as much as I can on different sites and things, which is how I found this forum. And there's a lot I don't know and won't until I start exploring...like if I'm actually a sub or just a bottom, stuff like that. I know I'm really interested in bondage, whips, floggers, crops, stuff like that (I have a bit of a pain fetish), but I know that still doesn't mean I'm actually submissive. But then I find myself fantasizing about things like behavior modification and mental conditioning (learning how to think and act like a sub), so I don't know. I guess I won't until I start exploring, which I've been nervous about.
Which leads me to my question--because I don't have any way in real life to learn right now, and honestly am not sure if I'm ready yet, I was thinking of exploring online bdsm and trying to learn a little that way. I was wondering if those of you who've done it think it's a good way to learn or start out, or if you think it's a waste of time and not really like the real thing? I just thought it might be a good and safe way to learn a little bit and find out more about who I am, etc. And it seems less scary than jumping into a real life situation just starting out, too. Plus I'm not looking for a relationship or anything, just to learn more about bdsm/submission. I'm single but romantically attached to someone, so I don't want to be in a committed situation that would interfere with that, which most people seem to be looking for in real life...I just want to learn more, so I was wondering peoples' opinions on it.
Outside of bdsm, my interests are music (goth, punk, alternative, etc), reading, clubbing, etc.
Hope to learn more through reading the threads, seems like a really nice place.
Thanks, and sorry for the novel!
